General Question

Sakata's avatar

How do you feel about you?

Asked by Sakata (3332points) February 4th, 2009

Do you like/hate yourself?
Do you like/hate your body?
Do you like/hate your personality?
Is there a specific moment or situation that you find you like/hate yourself more or less than other times?

Observing members: 0 Composing members: 0

71 Answers

Mtl_zack's avatar

I hate how I can’t socialize. I can’t be friends with people for an extended period of time. I switch groups way too often and never really get integrated. I have no idea on how to stop this.

Bluefreedom's avatar

I like myself a lot and I have a very healthy level of self-esteem.

I think I’m a bit on the thin side but I exercise daily and I am in good shape. Also, being a diabetic and on a regulated diet, that accounts for the lower food intake and not much chance for weight gain.

I have a warm and inviting personality that is infused with a very healthy dose of sarcastic humor. I like it quite a bit and everyone I know seems to appreciate it also so it’s just fine by me.

Currently, I can’t think of any occasions where I hate myself but I have my fair share of up’s and down’s just like anyone else and that is a normal part of life.

eponymoushipster's avatar

I don’t really care too much for myself. I think i have a rather boring personality, and i don’t particularly get along with other people. Plus i’m a tad overweight.

TaoSan's avatar

Love myself – for knowing about my being imperfect but still having done more good than bad at the end of the day

Hate (strong word) my body – for making me work three times as hard as others to not turn into a meatloaf

Love my personality – what can I say? I’m an introverted social butterfly ;)

trumi's avatar

There are a lot of things about myself that I should like, but I just don’t. I hate myself. =/

Aethelwine's avatar

If I don’t like myself, who will?

Yeah, I like myself. I’m pretty damn proud of it too! :)

Jayne's avatar

We used to have a bit of a love-hate relationship, but divorce was never on the table (good thing, too, because myself has a much better lawyer than I).

aprilsimnel's avatar

I’m priming the canvas at the moment is how I can best answer this question.

madcapper's avatar

In public I love myself but secretly I despise everything I do…

loser's avatar

I hate myself right now.

adri027's avatar

I like myself at times.
I wish I could loose way more weight so I don’t like my body.
My personality so so other people seem to like it though.
There’s a lot of times I hate myself in many situations.

Jack79's avatar

I like myself, I think I am often misunderstood.
I don’t like my body, I used to be so athletic and now I’ve got this extra weight I can’t seem to shake off. I wouldn’t qualify as “fat”, but I’ve certainly got a large belly.
I can lose my temper sometimes, and I shout a lot when I feel indignant, which is all of the time. It’s something I apparently can’t control. But I don’t keep a grudge for more than a few hours, so people who know me like me.

buster's avatar

“A Junkies Promise”

a hundred dollars used to be more than enough
and now a hundred times a day and still it’s not enough
people always tell me you get what you deserve
all I know is all and all is all I’ve heard

I heard you say: “you know I hate myself
but I love everybody else”
and did you say: “I can’t escape myself”
and then you did and now there’s no one else

to blame you know that I know yeah that times are rough
I’d like to help you out but things are rather tough
people always tell me that you’ve got to lend a helping hand
nothing in return is all I expect from you my friend

I heard you say: “you know I hate myself
but I love everybody else”
and did you say: “I can’t escape myself”
and then you did and now there’s no one else

I heard you say: “you know I hate myself
but I love everybody else”
and did you say: “I can’t escape myself”
and then you do and now there’s no one else

Nimis's avatar

@loser Just for the record, that lurve was more like a virtual hug than me agreeing with that statement. I don’t hate Loser!

Bluefreedom's avatar

@loser. I gave you lurve also because you’re a welcome and friendly part of the community here and you’re well liked from what I’ve seen. Don’t hate yourself. You’re good people in my book.

loser's avatar

Thanks guys!

bythebay's avatar

@loser: Don’t hate yourself; you’re the only you you’ve got!

I’m with jonsblond, I like myself and I feel good about that. I’m social but I have no problems being alone either. I’m not sure what my personality type is but I try to be friendly, the people I love know it and love me back, I know I’m honest (to a fault sometimes), and I practice compassionate living. I’ve got an extra 20lbs following me around that I don’t love so much – but only I can make them go away. Overall, I’m good with me.

It sounds very trite, but if people would just give out what they want to get back, life can be fairly decent. I see many overly pessimistic and negative people standing around scratching their heads wondering why the universe is crapping on them. What are you sending out into the universe? If you view everything with a negative eye, if you mistrust everyone & everything, if you look for excuses not to love & be loved…you’re going to get a big heaping plate of crap – and you’ll have earned it.

Bad things happen to wonderful people everyday; it’s what you do with your situation that will determine the quality of your time here. Grace, gratitude, forgiveness, fortitude, perspective, love & hard work; put them in your lunch box.

ok, I’m done ranting now! :)

dynamicduo's avatar

I love myself all the time. Sometimes it’s hard though, to see past that dark cloud. But I take comfort in the fact that, as with everything, “this too shall pass”. I want to get a ring made with that!

dlm812's avatar

As a whole, I love myself. I love my personality because it’s me and it’s all I’ve ever known. Sure – I could probably be more funny, witty, etc. but whatever. I’m me. As for my body – well, we have a love/hate relationship. Ultimately, though I’m stuck with it so all I can do is eat right, sleep, and exercise.

hammer43's avatar

well, I feel everyone is a product of your family up bringing, so with that being said I hate some things about myself like not being able to find love, being a loner, and not being able to let go when people hurt my feelings I would love to be able to forgive and forget, way too hard to forget. My body I can fix, if I wanted, but I’m good with myself there, I love to eat what I want so I’m good there lol. My personality….well people love my personality so that is a keeper.

wundayatta's avatar

Recently I have hated myself enough to feel like I didn’t deserve to live. With the help of drugs, I am now at a point where I don’t hate myself, and that’s a wonderful thing.

Coming to like myself seems like an impossible dream. That’s because there are several other impossible dreams that I have that I have failed to achieve. I don’t see how I can like myself until I stop feeling like a failure.

I know other people have achieved impossible dreams. So I know it’s possible. I just can’t see myself doing that, knowing what I do about me.

Anyway, I try not to think about it, because it makes me sad, sometimes depressed. I don’t need to go there again.

Aethelwine's avatar

@loser lurve hug :)

@bythebay I liked the rant. :)

peyton_farquhar's avatar

Of course I love myself. I’m freakin’ awesome, man.
lurve to everybody here with low self esteem

tinyfaery's avatar

Love: I am constantly changing, I am accepting of all kinds of people, I do a lot to help both people and animals, I have a great sense of humor.

Hate: I have always been 10–15 pounds over weight, I have a tendency toward depression, I’ve never had much ambition, and I often put my foot in my mouth.

janbb's avatar

It’s taken nigh on 60 years, but right now, I have to say, I’m generally happy with myself. I am smart, funny, empathetic and modest. :-) I’m generally happy with my relationships with friends, children and husband although there are always ups and downs. I’m also happy with the work/life balance I’ve been lucky enough to achieve.

The one things I still can’t stand is my weight. I’d love to be 15–20 pounds lighter; I lose it sometimes but can’t keep it off. FOOD IS TOO GOOD! And I also hate the way my skin is getting splotchy as I get older.

But on the whole, I’m happier on a day to day basis than I’ve ever been before.

Blondesjon's avatar

I believe Maya Angelou said it best when she said, “If it stinks in here it’s ‘cuz I’m the shit.”

nuff said

peyton_farquhar's avatar

Lol. I think I’m adopting that one, Blondesjon.

pathfinder's avatar

Just about.That mean slitely fliping,

MacBean's avatar

I am completely and totally 100% uncomfortable in my own skin, and it makes it extremely difficult to like myself in any other respects.

amandala's avatar

In hindsight, I realized that I wasted so much of my time feeling self-conscious and criticizing myself. It’s just not worth it. I put myself out there now—I make new friends, I get in touch with old friends, I spend lots of time with my current friends. The way I see it, if someone decides I’m not their cup of tea, that’s their prerogative, not mine. Not everyone will like me, and I’m OK with that.

I like me. I like my appearance, my style, my personality, and that’s really all that matters.

90s_kid's avatar

I hate myself.
I hate my body.
I hate my personality.
Trying to change it.
I am a mod magnet!!! But in a bad way haha

nebule's avatar

sometimes do , sometimes don’t
still can’t figure out how to switch either on or off
:) :(

LouisianaGirl's avatar

I love everything about me because it makes me who I am!!!! I wouldn`t change anything or wouldn`t take back any of my mistakes because then I wouldn`t b able to learn from them!

MacBean's avatar

@LouisianaGirl You are far wiser than many your age, grasshopper. Congratulations, and I hope you don’t lose that self-esteem. <3

LouisianaGirl's avatar

@MacBean thank you and I won`t!

Resonantscythe's avatar

I like myself, but i feel like i have more flaws than the average person

I feel like y body needs work I’d say 20 less lbs would be much better.

I’m kinda split on my personality, I like how it attracts platonic relationships, but hate how it seems to utterly repel romantic ones.

seventeen123's avatar

For the most part, I like myself. I make a heck a lot of mistakes but hey so does everyone. What I do hate about myself though is that there are people that learn off other peoples mistakes & i even have a hard time learning from my own. i repeat crappy cycles often.
I don’t really like my body, but I’ve had issues with that ever since I was little. I’m not fat at all but if people treat you like crap you tend to believe it..
I love my personality. But sometimes I wonder if I focus on myself too much ..
I like myself more when I have a good circle of friends.
Hate myself more when I don’t have that good circle..
thats about it(=

nebule's avatar

I’m feeling the best I’ve felt about myself for a long time. thanks to some good judgement and honesty.

Roory's avatar

Actually, it is hard for me to dislike myself, I really like who I am and how I look like no matter what people think or say!!

Soubresaut's avatar

I’m working on it… trying really hard not to say I hate myself… I feel really self-centered because I’ve been trying to figure myself out.
Am really lonely and insecure, but only because I make myself that way… Dunno how to turn off that negative voice in my head.

wundayatta's avatar

@Roory If you could bottle that and sell it….. I’d buy it in a snap!

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

I despise myself. I’m an autistic freak, of no practical use in this world and of no value even to myself. I’m a waste of space and oxygen consumption.

aprilsimnel's avatar

@stranger_in_a_strange_land – Stop that. You’re intelligent and empathetic and have a sense of humour. One foot in front of the other. And every time that voice in your brain starts up with those lies, you tell it: “Thank you for sharing, but I choose to believe I am a worthwhile being.” I am 100% sure your brain is telling you something wrong and it behooves you to stop believing anything in your head that cuts you down. Would you tell the person you loved such awful things? No. So stop it.

It’s not easy. I have to actively catch myself all the time, but it’s worth the effort, just like you!

wundayatta's avatar

@stranger_in_a_strange_land No don’t stop that. I can totally relate. You make me feel not alone. It’s not that I wish you more pain. Not at all. It’s just that it makes me feel not so lonely. Also, I’ve given up trying to stop it. I’m just trying to learn how to live with it. And I do mean live. Besides which, ain’t it fun to steal that oxygen we don’t deserve? ;-)

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

@daloon Us nut cases gotta stick together @aprilsimnel The person I loved is dead, Wherever she is, I would rather be.

Soubresaut's avatar

@stranger_in_a_strange_land, @daloon: reading all that breaks my heart… you deserve every breath you take!

nebule's avatar

I’m feeling pretty crap at the moment too, I can only imagine the pain you must be feeling @stranger_in_a_strange_land but one day you might feel different..let’s hope so..let’s hope we all do… but I do think we have work hard at it… like @aprilsimnel says… we have to tell ourselves that we are good worthwhile people… we have to see our lives through the eyes of someone that sees everything we do as beautiful and precious…like you would your own child… everything my son does is amazing..even the mistakes and moods and sadness and screams..we have to learn to see ourselves and others in this way..life is precious..I see that but find it hard to love it.. love to you all

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

@lynneblundell Thanks so much. I exist day by day in the hope that things will get better. I know that it’s only been a few months, but I see zero improvement. People say that it takes work and effort but I don’t know what to work on, other than taking the medications and refusing to eat a bullet. Day by day. +GA

nebule's avatar

@stranger_in_a_strange_land Thank you, a few months is definitely early days x…. I think we just have to sit with the pain sometimes… (I’m not entirely sure how to do this… but) “the more she tried to cure her sorrow, the worse she felt” (Elizabeth Lesser – Broken Open)

nebule's avatar

my pleasure xx

aprilsimnel's avatar

Grief takes time to go through. It’s different for everyone. I think it’s important to remember that. I believe she would want you to be as happy as you can be, even if it literally is one foot in front of the other (and some days two steps back) to get to that point. Please hang on, even if you just have to sit with it for now.

SABOTEUR's avatar

I’m glad I’m me!
If I don’t love me, why would anyone else?

MacBean's avatar

Someone else would love you if you don’t love yourself because then you’d need it. Everybody deserves to be loved. Why would anyone waste their time loving you if you’re already doing it yourself?

SABOTEUR's avatar

@MacBean You’re talking to a guy who used to suffer from low self-esteem. Generally, people with low self-esteem are miserable people because they believe they’re not worthy enough to be loved.

Their self loathing turns into a self fulfilling prophecy because they’re so unpleasant to be around, no one wants to bother with them. And if by some accident they do find someone to love them, they place so much pressure on the person to continually prove their love that they eventually run the person.

To a lesser extent, there are those who proclaim “So and so makes me happy”. And when “so and so” fails to meet those “make me happy expectations”, they feel rejected, sad, angry and miserable.

So from my own personal experience, I’ve learned that it’s unrealistic to expect other people to provide for me what I can easily provide for myself. And despite what you might feel, loving oneself does not prevent other people from loving you as well.

MacBean's avatar

@SABOTEUR: Okay. I’m speaking from personal experience, too, though. So, apparently, we’ve just had really different experiences.

nebule's avatar

I cried constantly for 45 minutes in my counselling session today…I think I’m going through some good mud

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

@lynneblundell ((hugs)) on your progress. :^)

nebule's avatar

thanks stranger x

SABOTEUR's avatar

@MacBean: Apparently. So we’ve learned that your perspective has as much validity as mine, depite being different.
Thanks for the lesson!

OpryLeigh's avatar

I don’t hate myself but I don’t particular like myself either. Physically I don’t have too many hang ups I just irritate myself.

MRSHINYSHOES's avatar

Let me put it this way——If there was a clone of me, he’d be my best friend! Lol.

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

I’m learning to live with what I am. If others need and value me, there must be something worthwhile there. I’ll probably always see myself in terms of what I can do for others.

wundayatta's avatar

In the past few months, I’ve felt much better about myself. In fact, I’ve felt consistently positive. I’ve learned a lot about how to maintain this feeling. I just got back from a workshop involving music and mindfulness and I believe it is helping. Maybe it’s not just the drugs. Maybe I have something to do with it. I’ve also been managing to stay away from self-defeating behaviors for a while. And I’ve been resisting the urge to get back to them, although that can be very difficult at times. Some sirens keep on calling long after the ship has passed their island.

nebule's avatar

@wundayatta well done mate xxx

Aesthetic_Mess's avatar

I pretty much suck all around

nebule's avatar

@Aesthetic_Mess I’m pretty sure that’s not true… you’ve written some pretty wicked (in the good sense!) responses!! x

Aesthetic_Mess's avatar

I’m pretty sure it is true! What kind of responses have I written to prompt you to say that? :)

nebule's avatar

right well… this one was pretty cool :-) and that one above ^^^

gr8teful's avatar

If I did not exist I think the World would be a better place but I do exist inasmuchas I am conscience I exist right now.I am a whole body organ donor that is one good reason for my existance knowing hopefully my body can help I hope a good nice compassionate person to live when the time comes that I no longer exist.

Answer this question

Login

or

Join

to answer.

This question is in the General Section. Responses must be helpful and on-topic.

Your answer will be saved while you login or join.

Have a question? Ask Fluther!

What do you know more about?
or
Knowledge Networking @ Fluther