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Would you rather they aplogize, or just go on with life?

Asked by The_Inquisitor (3163points) February 16th, 2009

In life, people misunderstand each other at times, even say mean things when they’re in a bad mood. Or even sometimes blaming someone and then realizing later it wasn’t their fault. Some stubborn people will not apologize, but instead, just ignore the topic and pretend nothing happened. They will still feel bad about what they had done, but act as if nothing was wrong. What would you do in that situation? Go along and pretend nothing happened? Or also be stubborn and wait for an apology?

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gailcalled's avatar

I have always wondered why some folks find it impossible to say, “I was wrong;” “I’m sorry” or even “You have a good point.”

I was married to a guy for years who needed to be right. If I caught him in a contradiction, he used to say, “I was only thinking out loud.”

augustlan's avatar

I give a little time for the stubborn party to apologize on their own. If they still won’t, I generally tell them that I feel they owe me an apology, and why. I don’t always get one, but I feel better for having said my piece.

eponymoushipster's avatar

just get on with it. people get hung up on “where’s my apology?”. this is why every group that ever had someone against them, or insult them, thinks they “deserve” an apology.

move on with it.

The_Inquisitor's avatar

I appreciate when they apologize right away, or even admit that they were wrong, it’s difficult to stay mad at them when they act as if nothing happened. Usually i’ll move on, but sometimes I still want to defend myself from the harsh things they said.

onesecondregrets's avatar

If I think I am wrong, I will admit to it. I have no problem apologizing face to face. I do not go on acting as if nothing ever happened. Even if it’s not a situation where I apologize, I say “Let’s accept where we both stand on this and move on, it’s not worth it to have bad blood.” Big, big believer in that.

Jack79's avatar

I don’t need the words, but I need the actions. If I see that someone has truly understood that what they did was wrong, and shows me in practice that they’ll try and make it up to me, I don’t care if they say “sorry” or whatever other word. As I don’t care if they say the words and act like complete jerks afterwards.

May2689's avatar

The best thing to do is to own up to your mistake and apologize. Most people dont do this because they are too proud, but I believe that saying ” I’m sorry” says a lot about you as a person. Understanding your mistakes makes you grow and accept that sometimes your actions affect other people negatively. However, if you are expecting an apology from someone and you never get it, I think you should just let it be. Truth is, those people might never apologize to you. If that is the case, you should take into consideration what happened the next time you talk to them or consider them close friends.

Allie's avatar

I guess it depends on the person. If I believed that they would feel better if they got an apology or actually appreciate it, then I have no problem saying sorry. On the other hand, if they’re a complete ass and I don’t feel like I owe them an apology at all, then fuck ‘em. In the end I guess it comes down to this: If I like you and care about you then you get a “sorry,” but if I don’t like you that much and don’t really care if you like me then I’m not going to bother. May sound harsh, but that’s how it goes (for me anyway).

Bluefreedom's avatar

I think having a situation where no apologies are made will cause it fester and deteriorate even further. There were occasions when I was younger that I was too angry or immature to offer an apology in a timely manner and be the better person for it.

Now that I’m older, it comes quite easy to me to offer a quick apology for things that I’ve done wrong. I have no excess pride and no desire to have any strife in my life that doesn’t absolutely have to be there.

cak's avatar

I will apologize, but move on. Sometimes, I’ll give it some time, try to revisit something, but it’s not good – it’s not good and I’ll write the situation off, for good.

If it’s bad enough, I may apologize, move on and never look back.

tiffyandthewall's avatar

if someone’s not going to apologize but i know that they feel bad, i try not to get too hung up on it. i mean, yeah, they should apologize, but an apology is just the words that go along with the feeling. if they really didn’t mean it or whatever, i’d rather them prove it by actions than words.

aprilsimnel's avatar

Apologize. Meant sincerely, it never hurts. At best, you can get to the bottom of whatever issue it is and deal with it.

marinelife's avatar

I only want an apology from someone if it is sincere.

When I am wrong, I say so. I have no trouble apologizing.

Dog's avatar

If I am wrong I will go out of my way to apologize.

I am not as concerned about others who will not go the step to correct errors in life- that is on them not me.

Live and let live.

jonsblond's avatar

I say sorry all the time. In fact, my husband tells me that I say it too much.

mij's avatar

Just try and keep the lines of communication open.
Make the first move and in the end everyone will feel better, after all the less baggage you cart around on yourself the better you will be…

90s_kid's avatar

I say, apologize and pretend like it never happened. (depending on how serious)

The_Inquisitor's avatar

Yeah, it’s been awhile now, i won’t get that apology, but life’s back to normal, no biggie. Thanks all for comments

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

“I’m sorry” is an easy out and chances are the person really doesn’t mean it, an explanation is better to go on forward with. An explanation acknowledges a change in behavior and maybe even resulting relationship while “I’m sorry” more expects feelings should return to an earlier state.

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