What should I do? Second date?
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February 21st, 2009
Background info:About a month back, I met this girl at a that we both were attending for extra credit in school. We hit off, and I got her facebook and cell number. The next day, I asked her if she wanted to see a movie, and when the weekend rolled around, we ended up driving to the movie theater, walked around and talked before eating lunch, and then watching “Slumdog Millionaire”. We walked home, and while I waited for my father to come pick me up, we chatted for a bit, and when I was going out to door, she hugged me and said that she had had a good time.
Back to the present: she’s been very busy, and the only way we’ve been able to get in contact with each other is through facebook and texting. I’ve tried multiple times to get a second date with her, but other things have cropped up every time: old friend is visiting from chicago, father not letting her go, simply being too busy with track and schoolwork.
I live approximatly a 30 minute drive away from her, and we’re both 16.
Today, I asked if she was going to be busy next weekend, and she said that she’ll probably be open for something short on sunday before saying that she had to go to bed.
We haven’t decided on what to do yet, can you guys give any insight into what I should do next?
one more thing: I don’t have a drivers permit/license yet, so my father had to drive.
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Another movie?
A picnic somewhere nice?
An ice cream sundae and more chance to talk?
A video arcade?
Take her bowling?
Go to Barnes & Noble or Half Price Books to look at books, chat, and have a snack?
Take a walk in a pretty park?
It is hard to make suggestions when we don’t know what either you or she like to do.
Like Darwin, I was thinking something where you had more time to talk – like ice cream, bowling – anything besides a movie.
hm, OK. I was already thinking of something along the lines of an ice cream. Thanks guys (or girls).
I’m just a bit concerned that because there has been a long time between the last time we met and next weekend, I don’t have any real chance at being in a relationship with her. I like her, but I’m not sure what she thinks of me because it’s been so long since we’ve seen each other face-to-face.
If she is pressed for time perhaps you can plan to join her in some activity like studying for mid-terms.
we didn’t leave the car at the movie theater. My father drove us there, and her’s has a bit of a thing about driving her places. That’s why we had to walk back to her house.
She’s making time to see you again. That’s a good sign. And she has been Facebooking and texting you, so that’s a plus, too. I wouldn’t worry. Just be as friendly and kind as you have been and just see what happens. You sound like a great kid.
Good luck!
Does it have to be a date? Do you have any similar courses ( I realize you are in different schools)
Maybe you can study together. No pressure.
As long as you both have fun each time I would imagine she will always look forward to hearing from you.
It’s slightly difficult to do anything really small, because meeting takes an effort on both of our parts due to our busy junior year schedules. Having to get a ride from a parent doesn’t make it much easier.
I suppose that I could try to arrange studying together and/or getting lunch.
She said that she might not have a lot of time, so I think that she means that she’ll probably have some schoolwork to do on sunday which might help my case.
Sounds like you’ve both got pretty hectic schedules, and since you met at an extra credit function, school work figures pretty heavily into both your schedules. I would try to make a study date, or a date for another extra credit type of event. Perhaps look at events at her school, like school play, musical, etc. and take her to that. Or, if she plays a sport or has an outside activity, make plans to go to a game, match, whatever, and see if you can’t coordinate doing something afterwards.
Has she ever asked YOU to do anything? Just curious.
@LocoLuke I wouldn’t think much of it. I was just curious.
No geo on your profile, do you live in a warm climate?
If so, maybe you could ask her to join you for a run, bike or hike? This way you could both take out some time to destress, while spending time together.
Ok guys,
We’re just going to go out for lunch, then probably go either to her house or a library to study together =)
thanks for the help
Sounds like a plan! Have fun.
Thanks guys, it went smoothly =)
bleh… didn’t work out in the end, she’s going out with someone else now. Guess that’s highschool relationships for you…
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