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Is it bad for "future girlfriends," to stay friends with an ex?

Asked by z28proximo (285points) March 2nd, 2009

We only dated for a few weeks, decided it was a better idea to be friends. We didn’t really have a lot of chemistry. We still text and hang out with mutual friends sometimes. Is this a bad idea or should I not worry about it? Or just not even mention it?

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LouisianaGirl's avatar

Dont worry about it.

essieness's avatar

Nah… if the person was cool enough to date temporarily, then they’re cool enough to maintain a friendship. But if you only dated for a few weeks, is it really an ex?? I mean, could it have been that serious?

casheroo's avatar

I don’t see why it would be an issue.

TitsMcGhee's avatar

If you’re still comfortable hanging out, I don’t see what the problem is… You don’t have to dislike an ex, especially if the relationship ended amicably.

Ulmaxes's avatar

ditto with what has been said.

yeah. I’m cool with most if not all of my ex’s. It’s fine.

augustlan's avatar

If a future girlfriend has a problem with this, it will be her problem. You should be friends with whomever you like.

SpatzieLover's avatar

Is it bad? Only if the perception you give off is: Hey I keep my ex around for a booty call!
Otherwise, it should be fine.

augustlan's avatar

Hey Spatz! Long time, no see.

z28proximo's avatar

Awesome, guess I worry too much. :)

SpatzieLover's avatar

Hello augustlan

Yep z28proximo, it’s all good!

aprilsimnel's avatar

A few weeks? That’s just dating, she’s not really an ex. You’re kosher for friendship! :D

punkrockworld's avatar

stop texting her, and don’t mention it

marinelife's avatar

This is no big deal really. I think it is a healthy thing as long as you are both definitely in the friend place.

zephyr826's avatar

I never stay friends with exes, but I wouldn’t count a few weeks worth of dating as a real relationship. I think if it’s less than three months, friendship is still fine.

lostinwoods's avatar

i would just stay friends. Why would you care? you guys dont’ have much chemistry anyway. i wouldn’t count that as an ex.Hope you find the one someday

Hinata_88's avatar

I would still stay friends…...because im still friends with my ex ^_^

CMaz's avatar

It is not a friendship. It is you both trying to hang on to the possibility of something there was not.

punkrockworld's avatar

I feel like if you’re feeling the need to ask this question, you’re probably thinking you’re doing something wrong.

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