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Jude's avatar

Can you hate someone and love them at the same time?

Asked by Jude (32134points) March 13th, 2009
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MrKnowItAll's avatar

Only if you marry them.

dynamicduo's avatar

Oh yes you can. The real question is how long you can do so without you or them cracking and breaking like a bottle under pressure.

aviona's avatar

That is happening to me right now.

I am still completely in love with my now ex-boyfriend because he is the one who broke it off so abrubtly.

Yet, at the same time I am so pissed at him for breaking my heart I want him to hurt as badly as I am hurting inside. Thus, my thoughts resort to physical pain because I obviously can’t inflict much emotional pain on him. I’m not going to act these of course. But one minute I am sitting here pining him and the next loathing his guts.

So, in short, yes, it is very, very possible.

SpatzieLover's avatar

This emotion (love/hate) is also known as the familial term: Siblings

ShauneP82's avatar


dynamicduo and I have that relationship

kruger_d's avatar

Hate and love are two sides of the same coin, not opposites. The opposite would be an complete lack of emotional connection, apathy.

dynamicduo's avatar

Haha, I would have missed out on our friend ShauneP82’s comment here! Too bad he was banned for being a douchy troll.

wundayatta's avatar

@dynamicduo He’s banned already? That was fast! Unless he had a double account and was gaming lurve.

dynamicduo's avatar

Click on his name, you’ll see it comes up with a non-existing page. This means the user is either banned or has deleted their own account (not sure if that functionality exists). The same thing happened to another prolific user whose name I can’t remember, Jack something? The one who made the fuss over the timestamp issue. At one time I could access his userpage, but no longer, hence my conclusion about the issue.

loser's avatar

Oh yeah!

cak's avatar

Sure. Read what Spatzie said and that applies to the situation I have been in with my sister. Love/Hate. Right now…it’s sisterly love. I hope this time it stays that way!

marinelife's avatar

@kruger_d Two sides of the same coin are opposite sides (coins are two-sided).

Hate usually hurts the hater not the hatee.

Bluefreedom's avatar

Yes, you can. I had a love/hate relationship with my first wife. It was both uncomfortable and miserable and I wouldn’t wish something like that on anyone.

bananafish's avatar

Abso-freakin’-lutely! Mom, I rue you! Rue! Mommmmmmmmmmmmmm!

Love ya!

Bananfish Jr.

shrubbery's avatar


Zen's avatar

@MrKnowItAll Not only if you marry them, but that helps.

I have a love/hate relationship with someone dear to me – whom I can’t stand sometimes – me!

ahankes's avatar

Kruger said it best. There is a fine line between love and hate. You can definitely love and hate some one at the same time. The opposite of love and hate is indifference.

BBSDTfamily's avatar

@ahankes I was just about to post the same quote until I read yours :)

lady4life's avatar

You can Love someone and hate/dislike/disapprove of their ways..actions are beliefs..their actions is usually what really disturbs most..example..I love some family members but they are liars I absolutely hate this about them..I don’t hate them but the deception

Lonestarwildman's avatar

Yes I have before,but it was a destructive relationship

Mr_Callahan's avatar

Welcome to the human race.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

so I see you’ve met my mother

mcbealer's avatar

yes, but it’s not a good place for your heart to be

I think that could be defined as passion gone rogue.

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