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Jude's avatar

Anyone who has lost a loved one; did you try grief counseling and if so, did it work for you?

Asked by Jude (32134points) March 13th, 2009

Or even individual counseling? Did you find it helpful?

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ponderinarf's avatar

How do you view the subject of death? If you see it as a spiritual matter as well, you may want to, at the very least, confide in someone who shares aspects of your belief. A kind counselor can be a big plus. Time is always a factor to consider. If understanding a living person is hard,then how much more for a deceased loved one?

I hope you find healthy ways to cope and vent.

marinelife's avatar

I did not. I found, though, that counseling that I did just for myself was helpful in processing grief when a loved one died several years later.

fireinthepriory's avatar

I did go to counseling, but not by choice – which is probably the reason that I didn’t find it helpful. Of course I was 11 years old (hence having no choice in the matter!) which probably added to my righteous indignation in the whole matter, and my lack of willingness to be cooperative. I feel like if I’d been able to choose it for myself, and choose the counselor myself, it would (or at least could!) have been helpful.

nocountry2's avatar

The trick is to find a therapist you click with. This is can be a long and exhausting process, but the right one probably saved my life.

I’ve been in and out of grief counseling for nearly 8 years, mostly because I find the process of digesting and understanding my grief (lost my parents 3 weeks apart at age 19, one in a plane crash, one from cancer) to be too overwhelming to process by myself. If anything, this whole thing has taught me that it’s ok to ask for help.

I wish you luck, and a stout heart. Ultimately the only answers are your own, but you might be able to find them faster with some help.

philosopher_saint's avatar

No. With something like that, I much prefer friends.

Berserker's avatar

No. My dad died, and I dealt with it as best I could, and sometimes still do, but I’ve never sought professional help for this.
I might have, only I never really thought about it, and growing up in group homes, whenever someone suggested something like that to me, I was usually pretty distrustful of the idea.
It all worked out fine in the end though.

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