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Jude's avatar

First date with a good friend?

Asked by Jude (32131points) March 22nd, 2009

We’ve been good friends for a year. She was interested in me when I was in a relationship this past year. We had decided last week to give the dating thing a go. I just don’t want it to be weird/awkward. How do you go from hanging out with your homey (almost every weekend) to dating? Sure we’ll bust out the slingbacks, fancy dresses, order plenty of ridiculously priced frou frou drinks, and have a “romantic dinner”, but, how can you go about making it different; special? How do you make that transition – from them being a good friend to dating them?

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SeventhSense's avatar

Well I can tell you that when you cross the sexual intimacy line it’s firmly in the relationship territory but getting past that is awkward. But once you are intimate there’s no going back to casual relating so go slow. Don’t push what doesn’t feel natural or you will just sacrifice the friendship.

lc's avatar

Have ZERO expectations.
If you guys hang out a lot, then just do what you would normally do, no need to turn on the fine dining just yet.

tara3845's avatar

It always freaks me out less if I can think that nothings changed and in your example all that time hanging out wasn’t ‘dating’ but it was the interview for the job, now that you’ve got the job nothings changed because you’re still you and she’s still her. You create your own path and definitions of how things should go. You’ll be fine. Have fun.

alive's avatar

excellent question! if only i knew!

AlfredaPrufrock's avatar

Do what you normally do, be considerate and thoughtful, be attentive. Hold hands. The rest will work itself out after you kiss her.

Trustinglife's avatar

Are you prepared for the possibility that the friendship won’t last after the end?
If you are, just trust yourself, and as Alfreda said, the rest will work out.

alive's avatar

hey! so what happened?? i am curious if there is an update on the situation??

Jude's avatar

@alive it’ll be happening this weekend. (:

alive's avatar

good luck! i’m sure it will go well!

AlfredaPrufrock's avatar

jmah, you know we’ll want an update! Hope you have fun!

Jude's avatar

Haha. @AlfredaPrufrock I’ll be back with an update. (:

Jude's avatar

Well, here goes nothing…;-)

Trustinglife's avatar

@jmah Have fun!!! Be true to yourself.

takeitez's avatar

You might mark the occasion by giving a small gift. And then go out and have fun as normal.

Hope it works out!

Jude's avatar

It worked out well. We’re now in a relationship. :)

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