# What are your personal guidelines, in regards to dating and the age of people you might date?

Asked by TheIowaCynic (582) March 28th, 2009
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Don’t mess with the law.

_bob (2485)

@bob_ Bobbo! It’s lemsteve, from wis.dm. I appreciate your suggestion

Anytime, Stevo. Say, how do you do the @ thing? Oh, wait, you just have to type it @TheIowaCynic . Cool.

_bob (2485)

@TheIowaCynic
30 plus preferably 35+

SeventhSense (18904)

I like younger guys, but no younger than 10 years.

chyna (46034)

@SeventhSense and how old are you?

@chyna age?

I’m 51

chyna (46034)

I’d say no more than two-three years difference. But, I think it’ll probably broaden considerably as I age.

@TheIowaCynic
I’m 41 male..

SeventhSense (18904)

@SeventhSense you are in my age range! j/k

chyna (46034)

A friend of mine once gave me an equation for calculating the minimum age of someone you should date. I believe it was: Your Age/2 + 7 = X. So, in my case, 22, it would be 22/2 = 11 + 7 = 18.

He was not kind enough to provide me with a nifty mathematical solution for the maximum, however.

Sp there you go. Take it or leave it.

I’m a 26 male and I’ll date a 40 year old is that wrong?

shoty (7)

There is no wrong answers here.

chyna (46034)

There ARE no wrong answers here!

I am dating a person 14 years younger.

Cardinal (2921)

As long as they’re legal, doesn’t matter to me. I’ve dated as much as 9 years younger and 26 years older.

jeanna (2059)

@MrMeltedCrayon

The formula that follows from the one you gave is (your age – 7) x 2 otherwise the other person is going under there minimum.

@jeanna Just fess up Jeanna. Those of us who know you, know you’re a cradle robber. Ken should be worried that in 5 years, you’ll trade him in for a younger version.

@TheIowaCynic Nine years younger is the youngest I have ever gone (and Ken is the one that is 9 years younger). I really do prefer older.

jeanna (2059)

@jeanna Let me know if you’re coming to my town so I can put a message out to the parents of all the middle school boys.

@TheIowaCynic Hey! Why are you saying such things? I sure hope you’re joking here…

jeanna (2059)

@chyna
I thought of that.
A 41 year old toy boy. :)

SeventhSense (18904)

@jeanna Jeanna. If you can’t tell I’m ribbing you, you don’t know me as well as you should by now.

@TheIowaCynic
Use the tildes for sarcasm ~_~

SeventhSense (18904)

@SeventhSense I prefer being completely dry and deadpan – it increases the sarcastic effect.

@SeventhSense I love boy toys no matter the age.

chyna (46034)

My rule of thumb is 30, but I’ll consider guys as young as 25. Younger than 25, odds are they still have a lot of growing up to do.

(I’m 35.)

My current gentleman caller is 39, though, so it’s not like this is a going concern.

cwilbur (14194)

(Age of the older partner) divided by two. Then, add seven.

Allie (17506)

First of all, biological age is not much of an indicator.

Secondly, I have been very strict over the past few years, looking for women that must be 1–4 years younger than me or something. I am almost 37, so this would generally mean women in their early 30s, who are often married or fresh out of a divorce. Or worse still, desperate for a husband. I have a friend who is a year older and will date anyone (or anything) between 16 and 66. Ok, so I’m not like him, but I realised that perhaps broadening my range to 20–45 or something may help. And of course after that you take into consideration real factors, such as maturity, compatibility and of course all the personality traits you are particularly looking for (plus looks and what have you).

My latest gf is 30, but the one before was 23. So I think there should be no rules.

Jack79 (11004)

I’ve dated/messed around with someone 8 years older (18 and 26), but I’ve only gone 2 years younger. I think the younger you are, the more difference it makes, and I think there is definitely some consideration about which gender is older, even though I think that it’s pretty outdated. For some reason, though, it still seems stranger for an older woman to date a younger guy. I guess the distinction has stuck around because females really do mature faster than males, so it makes more sense for the guy to be older to even it out… or something.

TitsMcGhee (8255)

@TheIowaCynic
But also the level of confusion at times. It can’t hurt to be clear.
Consider the following:
You’re fuckin’ crazy bitch. :)
YOU ARE A FUCKING CRAZY BITCH.
And these of course are directed at no one but without that smily, the first one could easily be misinterpreted. Of course it could also offend if you didn’t have a history with the other.

SeventhSense (18904)

@SeventhSense: I read the first as you are fucking a crazy bitch….

TitsMcGhee (8255)

@TitsMcGhee
Ya, I’ve had my share. And I wished they would have had some warning labels
See that’s what I mean. It’s easy to be misread.

SeventhSense (18904)

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