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How often do women propose to men?

Asked by brownlemur (4081points) November 16th, 2007

All I ever hear about is men proposing to women. Why not the other way around?

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flameboi's avatar

Because, is not the way things happen, men can chose, women have to decide, women always have the advantage lol.

cwilbur's avatar

Because it’s traditional.

A lot of the time, the couple has already decided that marriage is the right thing to do, and it’s just a formality. The outside appearance is that the man asks, and the woman says yes or no, but in practice it’s usually more of a joint decision than that.

occ's avatar

I have a male friend whose girlfriend proposed to him…he was thrilled! I also know lots of couples who decided together, and never had a formal man-on-one-knee moment. One problem is that I think even for many progressive women who don’t really care, they need a formal “proposal story” to tell their families, grandparents, etc since our society might look down on a guy who couldn’t “get his act together” to do a formal proposal. Personally, I think it’s all ridiculous, but I think many women have been ingrained with certain societal norms since birth and don’t want to break away from them.

sjg102379's avatar

A female friend of mine proposed to her male fiance. I agree that it’s definitely happening a lot more, but also I think that for many progressive couples, the moment of engagement is no longer that important, because the decision to get married was a long-term discussion between the two parties, not a unilateral decision by the male that he was ready.

punkrockworld's avatar

Before it didn’t happen a lot that a girl would propose but its happening more and more.

Pink proposed to her husband carey heart so its totally cool and hip now.

surlygirl's avatar

i don’t think the societal norms are limited to just women. i know several boys who would feel terribly immasculated if they were proposed to.

whosgotmyarm's avatar

I am proposing to my boyfriend. He has been the one wanting to marry my for a while now. I’m the one that had the questions. Now that I’m finally ready, I feel it is my duty to ask. Besides, if you want a memorable engagement take matters into your own hands—if you wait for him to do it you have no room to complain if it’s not what you wanted.

evilkittiz's avatar

whosgotmyarm good for you! I actually believe that more women should propose. My fiance proposed to me and I’m glad she did, if she wouldn’t have proposed, I think I would’ve lost her.
However, I think it’s mostly the men that propose, because it makes us feel dominant or superior.

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