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Are you a "skeleton" in someone elses closet?

Asked by Russell_D_SpacePoet (6449points) March 31st, 2009

Maybe we all are at some point…

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tekn0lust's avatar

Yup.

What are you once the skeleton falls out of the closet?

jbfletcherfan's avatar

Geez, I hope not. I may have a few from years & years ago, but none from anyone I know now. And I hope I’m not in anyone else’s closet, either.

Les's avatar

Yes. Two skeletons. It sucks. Don’t fall into that trap.

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

@tekn0lust I don’t know. What are you when that happens?

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

@jbfletcherfan You never know for sure how other people think. You could be a skeleton in someones closet and not realize.

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

@Les Been there a couple of times.

Maldadpermanente's avatar

I really hope not but it’s hard to say. I do have other’s skeletons if not in my closet under my bed.

tekn0lust's avatar

When the skeleton falls out of the closet: you’re humiliated, then you’re ashamed, then you’re apologetic, then you’re…

…I’ll have to get back to you once I get there.

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

@tekn0lust What about when you are the skeleton that falls out of the closet? About the same scenario?

jbfletcherfan's avatar

@Russell_D_SpacePoet Who have you been talking to??? ;-)

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

@jbfletcherfan That made me lol for real… :) You hearing bones rattling?

jbfletcherfan's avatar

@Russell_D_SpacePoet I may be. Damn, I thought I insulated that closet better than that! ;-)

mpjt2005's avatar

yes, but I am not proud of it.

Dog's avatar

Are you a skeleton in someones closet if you are the only one who knows damaging information on them?

Jeruba's avatar

Fascinating question! (I take your question to mean: Are you the secret that someone’s keeping?) Yes, I am. Just one closet, and I’ve always wondered what I’d do if anyone ever opened it.

VzzBzz's avatar

Great question and like Jeruba, I’ll answer this as though I am a secret in other people’s closet. Yes, a few of them now.

Bluefreedom's avatar

I’m a skeleton in anyone’s closet. At 6’ 1” and 147 pounds, there’s not a lot of room for speculation on this one. Hold me up to a light bulb and I look like an x-ray.

As far as secrets are concerned, I have dirt on everybody. No one is safe.

syz's avatar

Wow, now that I think about it, I may be…..I’d have to talk to that person to know.

Bagardbilla's avatar

Yes, I’ve ratteled a few times.
Many closets, same house!

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

@Bagardbilla Good one. Made me laugh.

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

@Jeruba Thanks. The light is really bright when they open the door.. ;)

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

@VzzBzz Thanks Bee! Good to hear from you. I bet you know some secrets. Are some secrets.

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

@Dog I think that would be a yes.

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

@syz Yes, it’s always best to clarify.

Dog's avatar

I am a big skeleton in a closet then. I am certain the door is bolted, nailed, glued and furniture is piled up against it outside.

gimmedat's avatar

Sure am. Been discovered, too. I won’t answer the call, though, literally. Enough said. Too many relatives Fluther to say anymore. Great question and I would love to share the story. Oh well.

flameboi's avatar

yes I am, actually I’m the kind of skeleton you run in your local supermarket, the coffee shop, the book store, the movie theater, the mall, in the red light…

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

@gimmedat Sounds like a good story..

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

@flameboi I thought you looked familiar.

TitsMcGhee's avatar

Definitely. I’ve been the other woman, I’ve been involved in a physical relationship that was kept strictly secret, and a few other things that would be pretty chaotic if they were outed from their “closet.” Not things I necessarily wanted to be, and I would do things differently if I were back there again, but we’ll see where these things end up, I guess.

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

I understand. I’ve been the secret lover. It’s not enough for me. I have come to learn that when the person you are involved with wants to keep it a secret “for now”. In that situation, the person you are involved with isn’t thinking of you. They are only looking out for themselves. I hope your experience works out different. Great answer by the way. Thanks for your honesty.

wundayatta's avatar

I was going to say I wasn’t, but then I remembered, and I have to say I am a skeleton in a number of women’s closets. Well, a virtual skeleton. Does that count?

jbfletcherfan's avatar

@daloon Well, when you put it that way, I guess I’d have to join you. But…oh, I’d just better shut up! ;-)

wundayatta's avatar

@jbfletcherfan: What? Are we sharing a closet? Does that mean we’re skeletons in each other’s closet, or that we are skeletons in the same person’s closet? Do I smell scandal???? ;-)

Jeruba's avatar

Sometimes our closets have closets.

jbfletcherfan's avatar

@daloon I think you know the answer to that one, LOLLLLLLL!!!!!

do I hear bones rattling?

Maldadpermanente's avatar

@Jeruba Yeah, there’s where we store the secrets we keep from ourselves.

hyperlilredhead's avatar

I think I’ve become a skeleton in a couple of closets. I’m not sure I like it.

hyperlilredhead's avatar

If I am, does that make me bad person?

Jeruba's avatar

Why would you think that? No one here is talking about being a bad person.

hyperlilredhead's avatar

Because, somehow, it makes me feel guilty even though I’ve not done anything to encourage being anyone’s skeleton. When something is being hidden in the closet, the general idea is because it is bad…...........closet smoking….........closet eating/bingeing…................and a multitude of others. So, if I am being kept in someone’s closet, then the general indication is that I am bad and need to be hidden.

or am I wrong?

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

@hyperlilredhead Usually, being a skeleton in someone’s closet has nothing to do with you being bad. It has something to do with the other persons situation.

hyperlilredhead's avatar

I suppose, but whatever their situation is, they think I am something that needs to be hidden, and therefore, by definition….............bad. So, whether I think I’m a bad person or not, their hiding me really speaks volumes.

Jeruba's avatar

@hyperlilredhead, the circumstances will make a considerable difference. If you had a secret affair with someone and it is remaining a secret, that is one kind of hiding, one that you must have agreed to when you entered into the affair. If you are, say, someone’s out-of-wedlock child and the family is keeping your role in the family a secret, that is another kind, one that you did not choose and had no say in. And if you have information about someone else that they want kept secret, you may or may not have agreed to it, but you are not the skeleton. You just know about the skeleton. In none of these cases are you necessarily a bad person (well, by some standards the affair would be bad).

Now, if you try to use your knowledge to coerce or harm someone, that’s a different matter entirely.

People often try to foist their own guilt on someone else. You do not have to accept it.

hyperlilredhead's avatar

But, if I am nothing but a good friend to them, I don’t understand why they would feel the need to keep me in the closet….........................unless they think I am bad.

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

@hyperlilredhead Maybe they aren’t actually hiding you. Maybe they are more hiding their true feelings for you…

Jeruba's avatar

You have friends who don’t acknowledge you in front of other friends? If that is the case, they are not really your friends.

hyperlilredhead's avatar

No, it’s not a case of not being acknowledged in front of other friends, it’s more that I’m kept a secret from their S.O. And yes, it’s guys that do it, but they know there is nothing that could ever be between us, so…................I really don’t get it. And yes, it makes me feel like I’m some kind of bad person.

Jeruba's avatar

Ah. You are the type of woman who brings out feelings of jealous insecurity in other women, perhaps? I think that may not be a judgment on you but the guys’ expression of lack of confidence in their S.O.s and certainly an awareness of their S.O.s’ lack of confidence in them. That’s too bad. If you are really a good friend to their men, it sounds like you’d be a good friend to the women, too, given a chance. Movies are made with plots like this.

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