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OLIVERSUDDAN73's avatar

How do i find my self a good girl?

Asked by OLIVERSUDDAN73 (25points) April 7th, 2009

I think there may not be any left!

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23 Answers

jsc3791's avatar

Have you checked all the cupboards?

jk

Where have you looked?

veronasgirl's avatar

There are good girls left, don’t give up hope.
You want a girl who shares your interests, who you can have a real conversation with; so start there. Get involved in your community and you will meet a girl you can have a lasting relationship with.

buster's avatar

Put on a tie, get on a bike, and start hanging out at the Mormon church.

asmonet's avatar

We’re around and not all of us have been officially taken off the market, you get what you give. Play nice, they’ll notice you.

In other words, don’t e a dick. We really hate that no matter what TV tells you.

eponymoushipster's avatar

I hear they hang out at Scores in NYC.

SeventhSense's avatar

I just find the bad ones.

asmonet's avatar

In case anyone was wondering, @eponymoushipster was suggesting you go to a strip club.

I wouldn’t take his advice.
He rarely has the best interest of others at heart. ;)

Lupin's avatar

She’s right next to you. Her. See her? The quiet, smart one. Not flashy, not showy but a gem.
Avoid the noisy ones.

MissAusten's avatar

I’d need to know the definition of “good” before answering this. “Good” in what way? Good in bed? Good, the opposite of evil? Good, like untainted by the seedier aspects of the world? A good cook? A good listener? A good match for you? All of the above?
Seriously though, I know a lot of people who have had great success with dating websites like eharmony and match.com. You have to go through some not-so-great dates first, but you really can meet your ideal partner that way too. Just takes patience.

OLIVERSUDDAN73's avatar

Ha-ha, very good answers guy’s, I live in orange county, California I think I just need to move to a different state? Any recommendations? In “GOOD” I mean any female that is not going to rip my heart out of my chest, chew it up and spit it in my face, then smile at me showing my her beautiful bloody teeth and say I LOVE YOU!

eponymoushipster's avatar

@asmonet damn you, witch. i never have the best interest of others at heart. then again, maybe that’s just what the young lad needs…

chyna's avatar

@OLIVERSUDDAN73 How old are you if you don’t mind me asking?

eponymoushipster's avatar

@OLIVERSUDDAN73 damn dude, you sound emo.

OLIVERSUDDAN73's avatar

@chyna 28, @eponymoushipster not emo, more like fed up with the fake and the heartless!

eponymoushipster's avatar

@OLIVERSUDDAN73 dude, i believe that’s a line from an emo song.

OLIVERSUDDAN73's avatar

Na, this isn’t Kanye West, but I do write on my spare time and have my songs published and posted on another site, let me know if you want to check them out @eponymoushipster

eponymoushipster's avatar

i was hoping it was kanye. i wanted some cool sunglasses…

Amoebic's avatar

Stop being attracted to assholes. Stay a good boy.

SeventhSense's avatar

@Amoebic
If he stays a good boy he’ll attract worse than assholes…the Reaaaal NICE MOTHER GIRL! He can stay home and watch Oprah with her and discuss all the ways that he’s fucked up and how if he would only be like her everything would be fine…..AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!
Waiter, Check please…..

OLIVERSUDDAN73's avatar

@Amoebic I have to agree with @SeventhSense, sorry but I have learned the hard way that nice guys finish DEAD!

asmonet's avatar

@Lupin: Hey! Who says the flashy ones aren’t the good ones? Huh? What’re you saying?

;)

MissAusten's avatar

What IS a nice guy? Is it just a euphemism for a pushover? A lack of confidence? A guy who could be taken advantage of? Sorry, but that’s what I think of when I hear “nice guy.”

There’s nothing sexier than confidence. Too many guys lack it, and don’t understand why they get walked all over. I can think of quite a few guys I know who complain about “nice guys finish last” but don’t see that it isn’t them being nice that’s the problem—it’s their lack of backbone, confidence, motivation, whatever. There are plenty of jerks out there, and there are plenty of pushovers. A guy doesn’t have to be one or the other—there’s a happy medium. Difficult to find, but it exists.

SeventhSense's avatar

@OLIVERSUDDAN73
I mean any female that is not going to rip my heart out of my chest, chew it up and spit it in my face, then smile at me showing my her beautiful bloody teeth
You might be throwing it out there too soon. Be sure that what you want is what you’re putting out. It’s easy to get stuck in a loop of the same types of experiences. I have many times attracted what I didn’t want, but instead of blaming it on a woman, I have to look to what I’m inviting by my behavior. For example with me, I put out ho and I get ho and sometimes that’s been fine. Now I want something else- 1/2 ho 1/2 serious. :)
Are you expecting a women to love you too soon? Are you taking into account what she is showing you by her behavior? If she says I really just want to date, you can imagine that you’re going to change her, but maybe the best approach is to assess the situation and move on. You might have to go through a few bad experiences but they don’t all have to be her “ripping your heart out”. People(women or men) are not that powerful unless we give them our power.
Be strong.

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