How do i help my daughter?

Move.
Seriously, move now.

try to move out, find another place, but before, contact your local Roman Catholic priest, even if that is not your church, talk to him, he might go to the house and bless it, we’ve had that problem in my family… really really, talk to a priest about this and then as a final solution, leave that place for good…

wow.

what do they look like?
are your kids liars? are they trying to coerce you to move maybe?

Stop reading this stuff. Move now.
If they are seeing things, even if they are harmless, it can damage the child emotionally. If they aren’t harmless…
Are you still reading this? Stop! Move!

And, filmfann, if they are not real? Children are hardly infallible. Moving is not something to be done lightly, especially if you own the house. Perhaps a psychiatrist would be appropriate.

You phrase the question as if it is not your house as well. Whose home is it?

All three are seeing the same apparitions?
Have they been discussing what they see and thus influencing each other?
Can you tell us what it is they are describing or hearing?

There are several possible explanations ranging from natural/environmental or paranormal to mental abuse or mental health issues. You need to sort out exactly what you are dealing with first.

Yes- if they are terrified then I would remove them from the home until the cause is sorted out. However rather than just running is important to find the source because moving may not solve the issue.

Here are a few things to think about immediately for health and safety:
Check the home for gas, pollutants, mold or electrical malfunction and rule them out first.

if they are not real, either the kids hate the house and want to leave, or they think it’s a game, and they made it up.
Either way, better go and sort it out later.
Seriously, didn’t you see poltergeist?

“Seriously, didn’t you see poltergeist?”

lolol. i guess this is a valid argument. hahaha

but yea.. what if the kid sees ghosts everywhere.. then what?
i guess you have to move though to see whether that is the case. i mean if the kid is going to be seeing ghosts all her life.. then maybe she better get used to it now.

No, I can honestly say that neither I nor anyone I know has seen a poltergeist. Either all the cars around here ran them over, or we are simply too skeptical to be able to accept or convince ourselves that we have seen them (depends on your point of view).

I very strongly believe there are no such things as ghosts. I have had people argue with me about it, but in my opinion, anyone who believes they see ghosts is delusional and should seek psychological help.

Jayne, he meant the movie!

Oh. Heh :)

I’m not sure if I believe in ghosts or not.
First, just because all the kids claim to see them does not mean they are. Kids lie for kicks sometimes, and often have great imaginations and feed off each other. Don’t tell the kids you don’t believe them, on the off chance they really are seeing something scary. Really think hard about you child’s history with creative lying. Have your kids been exposed to any scary movies or anything? What kind of response do you give the kids when they claim to see a ghost? I would consider this creative lying at first, but if gentle tactics to change their behavior didn’t work, then I’d consider a therapist.

Moving is an absolute last resort. Poltergeist was a movie. Children should not have the power to uproot their families through lies (if this is, in fact, a lie gone haywire).

And have you spoken to your child’s GP about this?

@YARNLADY My first concern would be that there is an environmental toxin causing hallucinations and so I would rule that out first especially since more than one child appears to be affected. Then I would check out any physical cause for the visions. I would hold off on mental disorders until ruling out any other possible cause. Regarding mental issues- before putting a stigma of mental health issues is it not normal for kids imaginations to run wild?

Imagination is the cornerstone of childhood. Children imagine many things and often will imagine things as a group (Let’s play house, Let’s be pirates, Let’s chase ghosts around the house, etc.) I don’t believe you’ll ever solve this, and most likely, the kids will grow out of it. The appropriate thing in my opinion is to simply reassure the children and allow them to continue with their daily lives.

How old is your daughter? How old are the other children?

I believe in ghosts and I seriously recommend moving. Nothing good comes out of living in a place thats harming your children psychologically.

Get psychological help- now. Ghosts are not real.

question.. if they’re not real then why does she have to go see a psychologist for it?

Isn’t hallucinating or lying about spectral apparitions a psychological problem you would want to get checked out?

Uh…could simply be a bid for attention? I’d step back and double check my (your) responses to the reports….are they taken so seriously that the kids feel they have a chain to yank? I repeat Jurba’s question too…their ages could have a lot to do with it.

aha so seeing a psychologist is the punishment for having thoughts that lead to the action of speaking about seeing ghosts!

@ninjacolin :)

@Jayne Everybody is reading too much into it. It may be…just game playing on the child’s part! Nothing more, nothing worse!

@Dutchess12 It certainly may be; we are relying on the questioner’s judgment in saying that the children are being sincere.

@Jayne—It would help if we knew how old the kids are, too…..I saw ghosts, I swear I did, twice before I was 5. To this day I would swear they were real. Srsly. I really saw them. My mom took me seriously but…didn’t dwell on it either.

that’s it, Dutchess, your opinion on this matter is disqualified due to insanity. :D

I’m having trouble taking this question seriously, myself.

—The questioner is unknown to us and has only one lurve point, meaning that he or she is brand new.
—The questioner has supplied no profile information at all.
—The questioner has given very little information in the details. How old is the daughter? 4? 35? 62?
—After 4 1/2 hours, the question has not returned to this thread to respond to questions.

I’m thinking this may be either a hoax or a double hoax (a hoax about a hoax).

@Jeruba good detective work

@ninjacolin Nuh uh!!!! I’m not insa….wait…I have to reason with the voices in my head. ‘Scuse me….....

@ninjacolin I SAW THEM!!!! And him!!

Its hard to know for sure that this question is sincere with out being involved personally with the circumstance. And it could be possible is that the daughter is either going through a mental or spiritual problem. If you trust your daughter and step children then its likely a spiritual attack.

I’m not saying its easy to figure out since you probably never faced this before and it is a family memebers whom you love, but its possible to find out what the problem is.

If you have good health insurance seeing a really good mental health doctor like a psychiatrist would be smart to have your daughter go to. Since you are there you’d be able to tell way better then other’s who aren’t going through it what is happening. If it is an emotional/mental problem get the best advice available. However, if its a spiritual problem I’ve had some experience with that, and the following information could really help.

On one hand if you as a father can tell that she is telling what she is really happening and you are convinced yourself it is the truth (being her father you should be able to tell by knowing her so long, and by her behavior) then it could be a spiritual problem. One way to tell if it is a spiritual problem is if your daughter, and even you have a terrible sense of gloom, darkness, and no hope when this stuff happens. If you and/or your daughter senses darkness it is likely to be a spiritual problem.

The bible says there are two major spiritual kingdoms in this world. One brings out the light through truth and love.
The other kingdom causes darkness through deception; fear and hate.

In my experience as a Christian if the ghost thing is for real then its likely a demonic presence trying to deceive, lie, and hurt your daughter.

The best way to handle it if it is really happening is to call upon the name of Jesus, repent of one’s sins, and let Jesus in your lives. Begin to read scripture, pray, and find out what the living God would have a person live like. A person needs to know Him to come against the dark forces who may be oppressing your daughter. It is a serious thing, but God’s kingdom is way stronger every time.

Then as a Christian pray with authority by the blood of Jesus that it must leave your home. In that prayer cast that darkness out, and have Jesus send it back to where it belongs; in hell.

A friend kept having his lights come on even after turning them off. It was a scary thing for him. But through
Taking authority in the name of Jesus, the son of God, that spirit or demon causing that had to leave the friend’s home. Although before it had gone on for awhile, and he didn’t know how to deal with it after the prayer it has never come back.
Satan has a real kingdom that causes these kind of things, however, Jesus said upon this rock I’ll build this church and the gates of hell will NOT prevail. It sure could be a similar thing.

May God help your daughter in either case.

Maybe they took my advice, stopped reading, and moved.

@filmfann that’s what I was thinking

From what you wrote are you a believer filmfan?

Maybe Jeruba is writing the truth….I spend so much time writing answers to things, trying to help that I don’t always use common sense.

I believe that if you are in a house, and the house says “Get out!”, you shouldn’t ask questions or investigate the source. My feet would do all the talking.

That is funny. And a natural response. A good belief system that helps one to survive is always good.

I can’t believe that people are seriously talking about ghosts as being real. They’re not. Kids see things all the time—my daughter is convinced a monster will jump out of her closet if I don’t close it tightly at night. She knows it’s not rational but she does anyway. Three years ago she was terrified of the TV. Who knows, next week it might be watermelons.

I can understand how incredible that sounds. If I hadn’t experienced some of the supernatural things during my life I could write it off too.
After all “witches” “ghosts” “monsters” things that go bump in the night is imagination not really helping a child or even an adult can get scared from unusual sounds in the night once in a great while.
On the flip side of that there are people who really are into the dark side of spirituality. And I’ve found the kingdom of darkness to be painfully real.

If you move because they say they see things, they will know they can do what ever they want and you will do it . Could it not just be they hate they house / area or something that has happened and they want away from it . Ghosts are not real

Wouldn’t the first step be for an adult to be with the children when they see this apparition? What? The apparition never appears when an adult is around? I’d say the parent has to do some eavesdropping on the kids.

@Benny Oh…no…please….NOT WATERMELONS!!!!!!!!!

@filmfann Speaking of “GET OUT!!”, check this out. One day I was at work and my kids called to tell me that they couldn’t turn the TV off!! It would NOT turn off! Or it would turn off and then come back on….it was kind of freaking them out, obviously!! They wanted to know what they should do—I said, “Unplug it. And if it still won’t turn off, GET OUT OF THE HOUSE!!!!” Srsly!! But, unplugging it worked. Have no answer to this day why it happened because it worked fine after that. It was an old house so it was an issue with the wiring, I’m sure

@Dutchess12, how about a faulty switch on the TV? If it was an old TV, I’d have just pulled the knob off and looked behind it for something that was preventing the connection from breaking. I can’t even imagine thinking of a supernatural explanation. Devices go haywire all the time.

@Jeruba I don’t know what it was, and it never happened again. About the “Get out of the house!” part; it was a joke.

static electric buildup?

@fireside maybe…that’s a good thought. But I really don’t know what it could have been! It happened about 14 years ago, and I wasn’t there to troubleshoot, else I might have been able to figure it out

Ok, I get it. I thought “Srsly!!” meant “seriously.”

@Jeruba Ah! I see! Well…that was part of the joke, I mean, if the TV didn’t go off if they unplugged it I’d seriously get out of the house!! LOL!!

i don’t believe that kids lie about these things…

i would see a local psychic who might be able to refer you to someone who deals with this sort of thing…..exorcists etc are not terms i would use…..but souls get stuck and don’t always move on…find someone who can help them to do so…a psychic is a good start…