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Has this ever happened to you? You had become more (physically) attracted to someone, the more time that had you spent with them?

Asked by Jude (32112points) April 20th, 2009

As you got closer to them emotionally, they became more attractive to you?

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augustlan's avatar

Absolutely. When I first met my husband I wasn’t very attracted to him. Shortly after that, I felt a kind of animal attraction to him, but still regarded him as ‘not my type’. After talking with and getting to know him, I was ready to jump his bones!

casheroo's avatar

I feel like the relationships I had where there wasn’t instant attraction, were actually much healthier and long lasting relationship (i can’t add an S because my husband is the only one who’ve i’ve stayed with this long haha)
If I met a guy and was instantly sexually attracted, that’s usually all there was. Yeah we’d start a relationship, but it was still just superficial. I never realized it til actually experiencing it.
I wasn’t attracted to my husband right away, I really liked being friends with him. He was always a good guy to talk to, and because he had a girlfriend so I never felt like I had to act a certain way…I never did anything to make him want me. That’s where it all goes wrong.

hearkat's avatar

Yes – with my last 2 serious relationships there wasn’t much attraction or chemistry at first, but I gave it the benefit of the doubt because there was a connection I felt on a mental and/or spiritual level (we ‘got’ each other). As I got to know them better, they became more attractive in my eyes.

MacBean's avatar

ALL THE TIME. In platonic relationships, as well. Objectively, I know that many of my friends are not exactly perfect 10s, and some of them are actually downright unattractive. But subjectively, there is not a single face among them that doesn’t lighten my heart a little when I see it. They’re all beautiful to me.

Specific example: when I first met my best high school friend’s husband, I thought he looked like the wolfman. Now I think he’s a big adorable teddy bear of a guy.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

Yeah, it happens. Like MacBean says, it doesn’t always have to do with attractiveness in a physical sense, even in platonic relationships. I’ve found myself attracted to people for a variety of reasons, and physical attributes were usually the least of it.

I thought it was just me, but it seems like I’m not the only one. That’s comforting. now if I can just stop imagining my friends naked, I’ll be set!

jessicar's avatar

Yes this happens to me all the time. I defiantely think the guy i’m with get hotter the more I like him. Although the opposite can happen also were i’ve dated a guy and he got uglier the more i was with him cause he was an idiot and a jerk.

aprilsimnel's avatar

Once, my sophomore year of college. But the guy didn’t like me that way at all. I was just a bud to talk Monty Python and obscure (to Americans) English rock music with. He was more attracted to the glamazon sorority girl who lived across the hall from me in my dorm.

Of course, she wouldn’t touch his nerdy self with a 10-foot pole. Ironically, the guy she was after (a rather handsome 1st year law student) ended up trying to go out with nerdy me a few months later. I had absolutely no clue that he was interested, that’s how dumb I was when it came to men.

aviona's avatar

Definitely. That’s probably happened with all my boyfriends.

tinyfaery's avatar

Nope. I am very attuned to my body and it’s responses. I’d say that I know whether or not I am even minutely physically attracted to someone within minutes after meeting them. That seed of attraction does not always blossom, but I know it’s there.

For instance, I talked about an ex boyfriend on here about 2 weeks ago. We were friends for about 4 years before we ever got together, but I had always found him attractive, it just never blossomed into anything. Then suddenly it did.

Soccerboy905's avatar

Yes it has slot of times

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