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KatawaGrey's avatar

Do men feel sexy?

Asked by KatawaGrey (21446points) April 20th, 2009

It has just occurred to me that I have never heard a man say something like, “This outfit makes me feel really sexy,” or something like that. Do men try and feel sexy? Do men care if they appear sexy? This is not the same as caring if they look good or not. Is it just that I don’t hang around with men who try and feel sexy or is it that most men don’t try and/or don’t care?

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asmonet's avatar

Yes, they just don’t vocalize or express it the same way as women do, assuming typical gender identities are in play.

DrBill's avatar

Probably more than they should.

aviona's avatar

I think so. Or at least “hot” in their own way.
“Sexy” is just targeted towards women. Ah, society.

asmonet's avatar

If you watched my cousin however, while he was dressing you’d hear a never ending stream of:

“Damn! I’d fuck me.”
“I’m beautiful.”
“Bitches gonna be lucky to get a piece of this.”
“Shit, I’d be gay for me. I look that good.”

I roll my eyes.

James_Mal's avatar

Men care a lot about their looks. I know I do. Especially now, during my teenage years? It’s something that I am very interested in. Guys just tend to not be so outspoken with their feelings on their appearance. They like to look good. They may have bad taste sometimes! :P But they do make a conscious decision to dress the way they do to try to look good.

It’s a big deal. Just a big deal that goes down without people knowing. Like… a kid playing gameboy in math class.

aviona's avatar

Lol @asmonet‘s cousin! Someone’s conceited.

asmonet's avatar

You have no idea.
Those are actual quotes.

asmonet's avatar

I forgot to mention, he also tends to ‘sex the air in front of him’ while looking in the mirror before he leaves. Just a little air humping. I guess to start the night off right?


evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

I’ve been known to tell my wife when we pass a particularly slinky dress in a store, “You know, I bet that dress would look good on me!”

She thinks I’m kidding, but if she ever buys me a slinky black dress, I’ll show her who’s a hottie!

James_Mal's avatar

@evelyns_pet_zebra AMEN! If I had a wife…

Dansedescygnes's avatar

I certainly do. And I have said it before. I think maybe more men don’t say anything about it, but I’m sure they think it.

elijah's avatar

@asmonet pleeeaaase link a picture of your cousin! I’m totally picturing the guy in the my new haircut video.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

Oh yes they do! Bless them for making the effort and sharing their labors.

KatawaGrey's avatar

I only asked because I asked my boyfriend and he said he never feels sexy or tries to. It’s not that he feels bad about himself (I hope) it’s just that it’s not something he usually thinks about. Then the thought pattern led me here!

eponymoushipster's avatar

only if she let’s me.

arnbev959's avatar

I don’t feel sexy.

aviona's avatar

Aw @petethepothead all of a sudden I see a frown on your avatar :(

MacBean's avatar

Who wants to chip in and help buy that slinky black dress for @evelyns_pet_zebra?

augustlan's avatar

<< Is sure Pete is sexy.

I think it depends on the guy, and the situation. I’m pretty sure my husband (a big mountain man) doesn’t feel sexy on a regular basis, but every now and again… mmmmm.

asmonet's avatar

Pete is super sexy.

arnbev959's avatar

I don’t know if I want to be sexy. I feel strange about thinking about myself that way. But thanks, I guess.

Bluefreedom's avatar

Of course they do. At least I do. I just call it ‘feeling handsome’.

Kiev749's avatar

@Pete Be happy! its your unofficial holiday!

And yes. I think I’m Sexy.
Sometimes I’ll Pull the Jay from Clerks 2… “Damn, I’d Fuck me. Would you fuck me? ”

arnbev959's avatar

@Kiev749: unofficial? pshht. 420 is legit. :P

Actually, last night I walked through the living room where my mother and sister were watching “Desperate Housewives.” The women were talking about who was sexier, and I thought it was all very strange. (It it television, but still.) Men may sometimes check themselves out in the mirror, and think that they look good, but in general I don’t think they think of themselves as sexy the same way women do. I dunno, there’s some fundamental difference that I can’t put my finger on.

asmonet's avatar

It’s called society. And it blows.

SeventhSense's avatar

Yes I definitely feel sexy some days. Put on some nice jeans and a clean t shirt. When I’m well slept my eyes are like ice on fire. And when I work out and my arms and chest feel hard as rocks it’s nice. It’s a swagger but in a good way.

augustlan's avatar

@SeventhSense That just sounds so wrong coming from your avatar.

SeventhSense's avatar

That sweet little boy who was corrupted by life LOL!
It’s like those broker commericials with the babies

SeventhSense's avatar

<——-OK the older me

Randy's avatar

Well yeah! =)

No joke here, my dad is not what most people would call a sexy man but every time he passes a mirror, he has to look at himself. My cousin has the same complex though. They don’t vocalize it like @asmonet‘s cousin but i know what they’re thinking.

El_Cadejo's avatar

Im Fucking Beautiful.

aviona's avatar

GA @bob_! Lurve!!!

Dr_C's avatar

“I’m pretty sure there’s a lot more to life than being really, really, ridiculously good looking. And I plan on finding out what that is. ”

qashqai's avatar

The less I feel sexy, the more women find me attractive.
My life’s totally discordinated.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

@Dr_C You’re right, there is a lot more to life than being really, really ridiculously good looking. If you want to know what it is, just send me $50 and I’ll give you the secret, LOL

wundayatta's avatar

I’m sure there are some men who feel sexy.

I have never felt that I was hot enough that some woman would look at me and think, ‘damn! I want to fuck that guy!’ Or even, ‘He looks interesting!’ If there is such a thing as feeling sexy about one’s mental processes, then I could say yes. I could believe that a woman might talk to me, and then want to fuck me (not that I do believe it, but I think it’s possible). But they’d never do it based on looks, no matter how I dressed. Frankly, I don’t think women even see me, out in public. Unless they are looking for me.

ru2bz46's avatar

I don’t think men feel sexy. I prefer the way women feel.

JamesL's avatar

<<< This guy does.

cak's avatar

My husband will joke about it, being sexy…here is how it usually goes – this was yesterday – but typical:

Me – sitting on the bed working on a project, typing away. He’s coming out of the bathroom, towel wrapped around his waist:

Husband: “Ya want me know, don’t ya.” (the stance, shifting his hip, making a silly face and rubbing his belly…yes, he carries some weight.) “You just can’t control yourself around this fine specimen of a man. I’m just so damn sexy.”
Me: trying my best to control my laughter…says nothing…just smiling.
Husband: “That’s okay, baby. I’m come to you.” Then…he promptly trips over his own foot. Falls.
Me: Leaning over the bed…“You’re dead sexy, baby.”

Both of us just crack up.

My husband doesn’t see it, he is sexy. He is attractive. He doesn’t really think he’s good looking, at all.

eponymoushipster's avatar

@cak get a room you two.~

KatawaGrey's avatar

@cak: My boyfriend is the same way. At times it seems like he has more image issues than a roomful of middle school girls. I think he’s damn near the cutest thing ever though. :)

cak's avatar

@eponymoushipsterA room? Please…we have the whole house! ;~)

@KatawayGrey – Isn’t it funny that they are like that…dealing with those issues? It’s sweet, but I wish he could see it, sometimes.

eponymoushipster's avatar

@cak people eat on that table! gross!

KatawaGrey's avatar

@eponymoushipster: I believe that’s what she just said! ;)

@cak: Oh, I know. When my boy looks down at his belly and says, “I’m too fat,” it breaks my heart just a little. On the other hand, how much would we be able to tolerate them if they knew how gorgeous they were and talked about it all the time? :)

cak's avatar

@KatawayGrey – BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!

@eponymoushipsternot that table!

asmonet's avatar

@cak: Your husband is awesome. :P

DREW_R's avatar

Of course we do.

cak's avatar

@asmonet – I think so, too. :)

filmfann's avatar

Men sweat. Women glow.
Men feel confident. Women feel sexy.

filmfann's avatar

@Kiev749 you know thats from Silence of the Lambs, right?

eponymoushipster's avatar

Kiev749 puts the lotion on it’s skin

filmfann's avatar

it puts the lotion on it’s skin or else it gets the hose again

eponymoushipster's avatar

it puts the joe dirt in the hole.

asmonet's avatar

aw, no one linked this. :)

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