I have a couple of strange, but sincere questions for any bisexuals on Fluther.

First off, I’m going to compare sex to food…I know it’s not a perfect comparison, but both can provide immense pleasure if the preparation is done with care. Even though we’re still talking about 2 choices (male or female….3 if you’re really perverse I guess), bisexuals could be said to have a “variety” of gender based, shall we say, “cravings” What I’m wondering is if those “cravings” and the satisfaction thereof are exclusive to each gender category or if sexual stimulus ends up being more of a smorgasbord . Here’s where the food comes in….is sex more like a buffet, where you could simultaneously crave and/or enjoy a “variety of flavors”, or is it more like 2 mutually exclusive tastes that don’t go well together, such as oysters on the half shell and chocolate ice cream. In other words, does the part of you that is attracted to men go dormant to any degree when you are stimulated by a woman and/or vice versa? Would you derive double the pleasure by being with a man AND a woman at the same time, or is there some sort of “switching gears” required, where sometimes you’re feeling more aroused by men, other times moreso by women, but no so much ever by both at the same time. Again, buffet sex, or multiple courses?

The second question I have is for any bisexuals who are or have been in a committed relationship with one person. I guess do you see yourself as primarily attracted to one sex, wherein when you’re “just having fun” you’d be willing to sleep with men or women, but when it comes/came time to settle down, you only picture yourself with one sex or the other, or could you settle down with the right person of either sex? And assuming that you want to be/have been/are committed to one person wherein you fell for that person without regard to their gender, do you have concerns about/have you run into problems with the feeling that there is a part of you that is now not being fulfilled. I’m just curious like as a straight man, I’m married to a woman with a particular hair color, eye color, body type, personality, etc., but I don’t feel like that part of me that craves a different “type” of woman is going unfulfilled…I’m wondering if that’s how a bisexual person views their sexual cravings. Is it a matter of this person you’re with can’t be all things, but that’s unimportant, or is it like part of you is going unfulfilled because to be sexually fulfilled you need to experience regular sex with at least one person of each sex?

If I had to guess, I’d guess it varies from person to person, just like there are straight people who might get married but never stop screwing around because they need sexual variety, I’ve just always been curious.