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Have you ever heard of a man taking his wife's last name instead of vice versa?

Asked by knitfroggy (8982points) May 10th, 2009

My cousin got married yesterday. At the end of the service when the preacher announced the new couple he said Mr and Mrs James and used my cousins last name. I felt bad, because I thought the preacher had spoken incorrectly. We found out at the reception that he did take her name, it was a secret for some odd reason. (Something to do with his family and him not liking them) I thought it was kind of cool. I’d never heard of that. Wonder if it’s the same as when a woman takes her husbands name as far as getting documents changed etc.

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asmonet's avatar

Yes, it’s becoming more and more common.
And it’s the exact same process.

miasmom's avatar

I’ve never heard of it myself, but when we got married and were filling out information for my new social security card they listed options, you can take the husband’s last name, you can take the wife’s last name, you can keep your own last name, you can hyphenate the last name, you can come up with a completely new last name that both of you want.

There are lots of choices for the married couple. I think that’s neat that they took the wife’s last name.

cookieman's avatar

I also have not seen that, but my wife and I were thinking of combining our last names into one new one (it actually sounds quite nice) when we got married.

Maybe someday, we’ll open a coffee shop and use our amalgamated name.

casheroo's avatar

I’ve talked to quite a few women who’s husbands have done this. Usually the husband had no relationship with his family, or none whatsoever with their father. No attachment at all to their last name. I even know one guy who was the only one to carry on his last name, and he took his wifes name.
I don’t think it’s weird, it’s just what they want to do.

cwilbur's avatar

I know two men who got married. They discussed several options, including hyphenating both their names, but the funniest suggestion they came up with was exchanging last names.

In the end, they both kept their names, because it was simplest.

AstroChuck's avatar

I worked with a guy who took his wife’s last name. He was a Vietnam vet who was pretty messed up from “Hamburger Hill” and had changed his name (first and last) a couple of times before that. Also, when I was living in an apartment back in 1980 and 1981, there was a newlywed couple in the flat across the hall where the nubby took his wife’s last name. That was the first time I had heard of anyone doing that.
Although it shouldn’t, being from a male dominant culture it still seems strange to me.

Velvetinenut's avatar

Yes. The Japanese have a culture of doing that when the bride`s family has no one else to carry on the family name. I could be wrong but that is what heard.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

I don’t know any couples who’ve done it but I like the idea very much for matriarchal lineage since the maternity of children would never be questioned and there would be more respect for family units where there is no man present.

AstroChuck's avatar

edit: hubby. The damn iPhone changed it to nubby.

ragingloli's avatar

my adoptive father did when he married my mother.

oratio's avatar

No, but I would be willing to if it made her happy. But why not make a new name together.

vmj's avatar

Yes, my friend did that because the wife is a researcher and had already published papers in her name.

figbash's avatar

Yes, I’ve seen more and more examples of this here in Seattle. One variation is that both people take both last names i.e John Brooks Morgan and Jane Brooks Morgan. The other is for both to get rid of their previous last names and pick a different one altogether. I think both are kinda cool.

rottenit's avatar

I offered to do this, all I didnt want was a hypenated name, my wife ended up taking my name. She thought that if I took hers it would be wierd.

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