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What's the best way to deal with a bruised ego?

Asked by The_Compassionate_Heretic (14596points) May 14th, 2009 from iPhone

The ego is yours in this instance. We all have the moments where it’s revealed that we’re not what we thought we were.

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bezdomnaya's avatar

I’ll be very glad to hear what other people say on this because my pride gets hurt a lot, and I have a hard time getting over it. Sorry, I’m not very helpful myself.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

I acknowledge that my hurt is okay, try to avoid the situation that caused it in order to not strike out or get my foot stuck in my own mouth which is a lot easier said than done.

Aethelwine's avatar

Realize that you are now a better person for learning something new.

DeanV's avatar

Break things to show your dominance.

Knotmyday's avatar

Get a lap dance. Ask her if you’re attractive. Tip well.

SeventhSense's avatar

Acknowledge that something hurt.
Detach from it by recognizing ego has no existence and so can not be hurt except in the imagination.
Relinquish the urge to attach to this imagination
thus extinguishing the source of suffering at its root.
Rinse and repeat.

Lothloriengaladriel's avatar

My ego was just beat to death by my boyfriend of all people, I’m just crying my little heart out, I’d like to go for a drive but it’s dark out and I’d rather not crash my car.

wundayatta's avatar

I generally figure I deserve it, but it’s not worth worrying about it, because if I do, I’ll end up wanting to kill myself. So, I just do my best to not think about it, and if I do think about it, try not to pay much attention to my thinking.

Because of the danger I face if my ego is bruised, I rarely try to do much that risks people coming down hard on me. If I do screw up something, I try to come down on myself first and harder than anyone else, so that they might tell me to lay off myself. It’s not as bad as all that.

This comment is an example of what I just described.

kenmc's avatar

Get over one’s self.

Nobody’s that great. Move on.

killertofu's avatar

Existentialist movie “High Plains Drifter” has a good quote that applies: “Be careful, you’re a man who makes people afraid, and that’s dangerous.” The Stranger: “It’s what people know about themselves inside that makes ‘em afraid.”

FGS's avatar

Use Ego-on… “Apply directly where it hurts”

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

wow, so few people want to own up to having bruised egos, how humble :D

3or4monsters's avatar

I wallow in it for as long as I can tolerate it. I have a high opinion of myself, so when I get humbled, my world is upside down, and I try to preserve the feeling because I know this transition is a sign that something within is being (potentially) corrected.

Then I find the humor in it, and tell everyone about This Ego Bruising Experience I had, and in that gesture, own it.

discover's avatar

Spend some time with people who really mean a lot to you and who value you.

BookReader's avatar

…when i fall on my face, i’ve learned not to look around for witnesses…i have known myself to lay there for a moment or more and laugh at myself- feels great!!!

augustlan's avatar

I’m pretty much exactly like @3or4monsters. During the wallowing phase, I think about it a lot. First of all, I want to know if it’s true. If it appears to be true, then I have to think about whether it’s something that needs changing or if I can learn to accept whatever it is about myself. Then it’s time to do the work required to either change it or accept it, and move on – humbler than before.

Related story regarding having a high opinion of oneself: I was quite shocked when a loved one pointed out to me that I was not, nor could I ever be, as good-willed toward my fellow man as Gandhi. I chewed on this for days, and was so disappointed in myself when I realized it was true! WTF? Yeah. I could stand to be taken down a few notches every now and again.

spresto's avatar

I turn around and prove myself and the world wrong. Victory is mine.

SeventhSense's avatar

@FGS
I find Ego-Off a superior product. :)

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