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Do I have a right to feel this way?

Asked by Awesomeness (22points) May 18th, 2009 from iPhone

I’m a junior in hs and I have yet to be kissed by a guy. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong or right, and although that sounds vague, I just feel frustrated because I don’t know how some people are constantly dating. Do I have a right to feel this way at all? What can I do to really get men to go after me?

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oratio's avatar

Maybe you could ask out a guy you like?

justwannaknow's avatar

What is the rush? You have your whole life ahead of you. You atre going to have guys slobbering all over you soon enough. do not get in such a big hurry. Enjoy your freedom.

EmpressPixie's avatar

You have a right to feel however you feel always. It’s not something you can control.

Beyond that, honestly don’t worry about it too much. A lot of people don’t date much or at all in high school. It seems like you’re getting left behind, but you really aren’t. The people who aren’t dating, though, they aren’t talking about it for fear of being singled out as the never-kissed one—even though there are tons of them.

If you do want to date and it is important to you, then ask someone out. Part of what you are doing wrong is not asking out the guy you like. If you want someone to ask you out, however, I’m afraid you’ll have to wait. You don’t get to control that as much. Just be yourself and sooner or later someone will fall all over themselves to ask you out.

Supacase's avatar

I doubt you are doing anything wrong. There were several girls in my class who were in your situation and they have had plenty of kisses since. :) It just takes longer for some people. Are you shy or quiet by any chance?

While I understand why you are excited to date and have your first kiss, try to enjoy this time in your life. Trust me, kissing and all that jazz makes things a lot more complicated.

SeventhSense's avatar

Well first off you don’t want men. You want boys. You’re in junior high. Just keep looking cute and wear lip gloss and sooner or later when the time is right you will get one right in the kisser by a bold young lad.

dannyc's avatar

Take your time. The pressure you feel is a result of what you think others think. Trust me, you will be kissed, and then you will find that it was not as big a deal as you think now. Enjoy this innocent time of your life and be the best you can be. I think you will be a special person to someone soon enough. LIke a fine wine, it can’t be rushed. My heartfelt wishes for your best as the greatest time of your life is just around the corner.

Awesomeness's avatar

Thank you so very much for all of your responses!!!

ccbatx's avatar

I know it sucks, like, a lot, but trust me, school is just a small fraction of your life. There are what? 1000, 2000, 5000 people in your school? And there are six billion people in the world. Don’t worry, you will find someone after your out of prison (I mean high school). There’s a word for people who just date a bunch of guys for physical reasons because they’re in a hurry to find somebody=P

asmonet's avatar

Dude, I didn’t have a ‘first kiss’ until I was like, 20 – And I know a ton of people, a freaking ton who lie about their first kiss age because they’re embarrassed it was after the age of 18. I’ve gone into it on other threads. Basically, it boils down to this:

Everyone is different, chill the fuck out, be happy, love freely and good things will come.

@SeventhSense: She isn’t in junior high, she’s a junior in high school.

SeventhSense's avatar

Well they’re still boys.

Awesomeness's avatar

I meant men as in young men.

Zaku's avatar

You have a right to feel any way you want, and the power to, too. Why not feel good about it; there’s nothing wrong. Feeling bad about it could lead you to think you want to get kissed for no good reason.

The how, however, is pretty simple. If you do want to get kissed by a particular guy, most approaches will tend to work, er, if it’s blunt enough for a teen guy to get it..

westy81585's avatar

I would make an offer, but I’m guessing you’re under age, and I get enough shit for dating an 18 year old.

SeventhSense's avatar

@westy81585
Down there cyclops. She’s like 16.

westy81585's avatar

@SeventhSense hahaha, yep, definitely off limits.

casheroo's avatar

You’re still young, you have plenty of time to kiss all the boys you want.
Frankly, I wish I hadn’t kissed so many boys when I was in high school…I might have been a better student!

Judi's avatar

Just wait until you get out of HS. School has a way of trying to define you. Once your out the whole world opens up and the world sees you in a whole new way. Don’t let it get you down.

westy81585's avatar

Yah trust us…. eventually if you kiss a lot of people you get to a point where you start to regret it. I’ve kissed JUST shy of 40 girls…. and honestly I wish that number was maybe half of that (tops).

Don’t push it.

Judi's avatar

I love it when people keep a tally :-)

westy81585's avatar

@Judi haha…. I was going thru a bit of a “wild” phase a few years back.. and I looked back and realized I couldn’t remember a few girls names. So I sat down and hammered out “the list” of all of the names (I felt really bad about forgetting them). And so now if I ever wonder how many I’m up to I just go back and check the list. And upon checking it for this, I’m at 38 (in ABOUT 7 years).

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