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I like someone but not sure how much, what should I do?

Asked by emmy23 (256points) May 26th, 2009

So there is this guy and I like him. But I no he likes me more than I like him. He is always nervous around me and when were kissing, he trembles. Im no where near to that point with him. But he is a really sweet guy and I no he would make a good boyfriend..Any help would be great!

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kayysamm's avatar

Just go with the flow. Over time you can fall for him more and learn to like him as a person for all the good things he does and makes you smile.

Don’t think right now how much he likes you more then you like him. It will make things confusing and thats not needed.

Just let time take its course, smile.

RiRi's avatar

Well, then ask him straight if he wants to be in a relationship with you. It’s best to clarify such situations beforehand. I know it may be difficult to ask but you will be glad once you do. Just ask him casually or say “I know you like me and I like you too…do you see us as a couple/in a relationship”? Don’t attack him with questions…hope this helps!

jfos's avatar

@RiRi I don’t know that this is the best course of action…

Maybe if she plays it cool, and goes with the flow like @kayysamm said, she could find herself liking the guy more than she thought she did originally…

And by “clarifying” their relationship before it fully develops, she would possibly prevent this situation from ever happening.

veronasgirl's avatar

like @kayysamm said, go with the flow, RELAX. You don’t know why he is so nervous. He likes you, but maybe he is just a guy who is shy and nervous around girls. Don’t jump to conclusions. Give him a chance, and get to know him a little better. You’ll never know “how much you like him” until you give him that chance.

cwilbur's avatar

You don’t need to decide immediately whether to kick him to the curb or marry him. You can decide that right now you like him enough to date him a few times and get to know him better.

chelseababyy's avatar

Take it slow, trust your heart, but every once in a while, listen to your head.

wundayatta's avatar

Is it a problem that he likes you a lot? I don’t know about you, but I love it when nice people really like me.

You won’t know how much you like him until you know him a lot better. He may be new to relationships and kissing, or he might just be affected strongly by intimacy.

In many relationships, if not most, there is an inequality of affection. It’s ok. You don’t have to manage his feelings. Just your own. He’s responsible for his feelings, and if you try to make decisions on his behalf, even subconsciously, you are hurting the relationship.

gina13's avatar

I will give you brutal honesty. If you are not that crazy about him from the start, it means that there is something lacking between you. It might be physical or emotional but trust me, it can only lead him being hurt. The reason why you are not totally sure that you like him is because he doesn’t really tick all the right boxes for you and deep inside you know it. Yes you may like him but you’re not madly in love with him so much that you want to jump his bones and that you feel incomplete without him. What will happen is somewhere in the long-run… you will meet someone that you find more attractive and interesting then poof you’ll be gone. I have been in this situation three times now, so I know I’m right. I’ve dated guys who were perfect boyfriend material, intelligent, rich, honest, kind etc. but I was never totally head over heels with any of them and yeah I grew close to all of them, they were my best friend but because I lacked a serious physical attraction to them I ended up cheating and falling in love with other people. Trust me, it’s not worth it. Don’t go for someone because they make good “boyfriend material” it’s not fair to yourself or the other person.

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