Will you tell me about fitting in at your job?

Do you fit in? Does it matter to you if you fit in? Does fitting in at your workplace translate to more opportunities? Does this phenomenon change from field to field?

I never really feel that I fit in, because when people that I work with (they’re nice and all) get together for lunch or a walk to the park, the things they talk about are so vapid and ‘safe’ that I feel like I’m being fake, too but I realize that even if they do have depth, they also feel the pressure of just discussing ‘nice’ things like yoga and whatever…I never really say the things they want to hear me say and I always end up feeling out of place and I wonder if they talk about me behind my back and if it hurts my chances of ‘moving up’ when it’ll come to that decision and believe me I’m SO glad I don’t fit in with these pretenses but it matters to me if this will put me below someone who can keep the smile up and discuss what a ‘lovely memorial day weekend they had, blah blah blah’