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For all that you've gone through, what are some of things that you learned (about life) on your own?

Asked by Jude (32101points) June 3rd, 2009

That not everyone is going to like me or my actions. And, worrying about whether they like me or my actions is a complete waste of time. If I’m happy and can live with myself (not hurting anyone, of course), that’s all that matters. ‘Cause really, everyone has an issue of some sort. And, if they want to go ahead and judge me, that’s fine. It doesn’t matter to me. And, everyone shits and no ones shit smells like roses, so there. ;-)

Seriously, back when I was younger this stuff mattered. Now, it doesn’t. And, man, oh, man, it’s so much better this way..

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Judi's avatar

Doing the right thing is good for my own sake, even more than for the sake of others. learned the hard way.

GAMBIT's avatar

That when I am bored I can go on fluther and converse with people.

jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities's avatar

The most important thing I’ve learned is this. Or maybe it’s the stupidest thing I’ve learned.

hug_of_war's avatar

If you eat too much frosting, it will turn your poop green/blue.

At some point, you’re going to have to burn some bridges.

You don’t always have to have a master plan. It’s okay to make it up as you go along.

SirBailey's avatar

That life is WAY too short and we should never forget that.

Les's avatar

Its OK to feel bad and wallow in my own self pity every now and then. Eventually there will be a day that I wake up and everything I was upset about for so long seems so trivial. That’s the best.

cookieman's avatar

• Everyone has an agenda (you just may align yourself with some of them).
• Don’t whine. We all have our problems; No one wants to hear you whine.
• Work hard and be productive. Nobody was ever remembered for being lazy.
• Choose your battles. Some people are just not worth it.
• There’s only so much time in a day and you have limited energy. Plan ahead.
• Just because they’re your family, it doesn’t mean you have to take their shit.
• If you love someone, tell them and show them regularly. It could all end tomorrow.
• Cookies make everything better.

Judi's avatar

@cprevite ; Didn’t your grandma teach you about the cookies? You had to learn that on your own? How sad!

cak's avatar

No matter how bad you think things are, there is always someone that needs help. Don’t feel sorry for yourself, do what you can to help others. It will help you and the person that really needs the help.

cookieman's avatar

@Judi: Nope. My Nana taught me that her homemade chocolate cake (with mocha frosting) makes everything better. Cookies I learned about on my own.

applesaucemanny's avatar

I learned that you should never take people’s word for things like when someone says life isn’t fair! the other person says who said life was fair? I say well, who said life was unfair? you get what I’m trying to say?

Blondesjon's avatar

I learned that life is what you make it and he who rides the pony must someday fall.

oh yeah, and only you can live your life

cookieman's avatar

@Blondesjon: You have a pony?!

fireside's avatar

That you have to walk with someone if you want to lead them out of the woods, standing in the parking lot shouting to them doesn’t help nearly as much.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

You family isn’t automatically the most understanding, helpful or trustworthy place to put your love. After you’ve been raised and can fend for yourself, build your own family from those who are most positive for you and let the rest go to the peripheral, no need to knock yourself out over what will never be.

TitsMcGhee's avatar

Drama amongst friends and acquaintances isn’t worth it. I would rather surround myself with people who are happy to be my friend.

wundayatta's avatar

The more responsibility you have, the harder life gets. (duh)
I’m not the only weird one.
It almost never works out as you expect it to.
When estimating time for a task, make your best estimate, then double it.
People consistently underestimate the time it will take to do something. Expect it to take twice as long as they estimate.
Wherever you go, there you are, but always be here now.

Mr_Callahan's avatar

Never say…......never, oops!

chelseababyy's avatar

Luckily I know the value of a dollar. My parents never helped me with anything, especially new clothes, even when I was in highschool. My 18yr old brother and 12yr old sister are given EVERY thing they want. My brother drove my mom’s ‘04 Navigator until they traded that in for his ‘06 Jetta GLI. He’s never had a job either.

Clair's avatar

life is too short to spend the entire time bitching or working for something that doesn’t really matter.
it’s not all about me but at the end of the day, i’m the one i gotta please.
ALL people want to be loved and appreciated.
drama is stupid.
stress is so not worth it.
money is harder to get a hold of than you would think! especially when mommy and daddy doesn’t buy. (or give, or hand down.)
90% of the things you worry about never come to pass.
if you’re house isn’t already ripped up, a tornado probably isn’t likely to jerk it up now.
house fires do happen. and they are devastating.
there’s no sense in judging others. everyone walks a different path. you never know what they’re goin through unless you have been there too.
abusive people are pieces of shit.

Clair's avatar

and
today may suck, but time is inevitable and tomorrow will get here just like it did yesterday.

Mr_Callahan's avatar

Can we say sh+t Clair?

hearkat's avatar

@Mr_Callahan: Yes, sometimes we use ‘profanity’ on Fluther. I haven’t encountered anyone who uses it casually, as some might in conversation amongst friends. It typically is used in a context of something someone feels strongly about, as with Clair’s remark about abusive people.

Pretty much everything I know I had to learn the hard way. I basically reparented myself while striving to become a better role mode for my son. I wish I had learned that sooner, but it wasn’t too late for him. I guess the greatest lesson I had to learn on my own is that I am worthy of love—it took 41 years.

sccrowell's avatar

NEVER EVER take someone or something forgranted!!! What’s here today maybe gone tomorrow….

Think before you speak, because once spoken, it can’t be taken back…

Never be afraid to ask for forgiveness!!!

shrubbery's avatar

Don’t assume anything.
It’s important to listen.
Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.

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