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How detrimental is MONEY when it comes to being in LOVE?

Asked by mehmetaydin3 (112points) June 4th, 2009

Does money bring love? If you’re the guy and broke and your gf is loaded, can true love exsist?

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YARNLADY's avatar

One of the biggest causes of divorce is supposed to be disagreements over money, but that doesn’t automatically mean money will cause a problem.

The trick is to avoid disagreements about it.

casheroo's avatar

Money doesn’t bring love, money shouldn’t be a factor when it comes to love itself. But, I do know personally that it is a very hard subject to deal with between my spouse.

cak's avatar

If money brings love, it’s for the wrong reasons and will have a higher chance of failure.

Money should not be the basis for love.

Yes, if a GF is loaded and a BF is broke, it can work; however, money can’t be the focus of the relationship. A lot of times, it won’t work, because ego can step in the way. The broke party (not always the guy) starts making a big deal about the money and their self esteem may take a hit that they are not the more wealthy of the two.

I know a couple that met and are now married, she brought the money to the marriage. For it to work, it was never a central issue. They have a basic agreement on how they spend money and certain money is set up in a trust for the children and for their retirement. Overall though, they had to work at it to make sure it didn’t because a jealousy issue or an ego issue. Communication was key and the fact that it didn’t rule their life.

wundayatta's avatar

If both people are secure in who they are and are sure that the other person loves them, money won’t matter. If a person wonders if the other loves them for money, or worries that the other person will break up with them for their lack of money, then either the relationship will break up, or they will get counseling (or do some other personal work) and learn to be secure in themselves.

You can’t have a good relationship if one or the other of you is always questioning the love of the other. It doesn’t matter if the reason is money or anything else. Questions of that sort do not bode well for a relationship.

mcbealer's avatar

“I don’t care too much for money, money can’t buy me love”
– The Beatles

but it sure as hell makes life more comfortable and interesting at times

elijah's avatar

Lack of money can cause serious problems. I know I have been in love with someone and I got tired of making and spending more. I felt like I was the man in the relationship. Even though we both loved each other, the stress of how were we going to pay the rent, why did I have to buy all the groceries again, will we ever be able to buy that house, debt from his credit cards, student loans, car payment, all that added up and slowly pulled us apart.
Money isn’t the only reason I would be in a relationship but I’ve learned that love alone will not be enough.

cwilbur's avatar

Money itself is never the problem. The problem is always the difference in attitudes and spending habits.

I know a couple where one man is a trust fund baby with a seven-figure net worth, and the other man comes from a family of comfortable but not excessive wealth. They spent the first year of their relationship wrangling about who would pay for what, because the trust fund baby didn’t see it as an issue, while the other guy wanted to be responsible for some stuff. They have managed to make it work, though—mainly by realizing that there were other dimensions to the relationship that were not money.

Darwin's avatar

Money does not equal true love. However, both money and lack of money are issues to be resolved if love is to turn into a long-term relationship.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

Money won’t bring love but it will wreck havoc on love if there is not enough of it to meet the basics or if one or both partners make terrible decisions spending it.

Also, in my experiences so far, men are uncomfortable if they feel they don’t make enough money to be able to support themselves independently before adding a partner into the mix, regardless if the partner works.

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