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How can you get over yourself?

Asked by wundayatta (58693points) June 5th, 2009

I mean, we are ourselves, and we can’t not be ourselves, so how can we get over ourselves? Aren’t we the most important person in the world, to ourselves?

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Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

We can get over the person we used to be in the past.

GAMBIT's avatar

Help your neighbor.

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

By thinking of others first.

Blondesjon's avatar

You get over yourself by realising you are not any more or less important than anyone else.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

We are most responsible for ourselves and the better we like ourselves, the better we can be for others so that part is healthy.

noelasun's avatar

By taking a deep breath and taking a step back…
...look at the big picture.
(not the big picture of your self as the forest, but of the forest where you’re the tree)

dynamicduo's avatar

Why do you want to get over yourself? I’m my most important person, of course. I see nothing wrong in admitting this nor in taking actions that primarily benefit myself. It’s a dog eat dog world after all.

Ria777's avatar

we can get over ourselves by truly seeing the world from another’s perspective. of course, sometimes we think we have when we haven’t.

galileogirl's avatar

I’ve never been under myself but this question left me with an interesting mental image

CMaz's avatar

What is to get over? :-)

DarkScribe's avatar

@daloon Aren’t we the most important person in the world, to ourselves?

No, that is something that I have, not once in my live thought. I have a good survival instinct and can certainly look after myself, but I have never thought of myself as the most important person. Now it is my family but even when young I always considered that there were many much more important people than myself. I still do now, my wife and children aside. Maybe I am too much of a realist to delude myself.

CMaz's avatar

If you do not take care of yourself. How will you take care of your family? So you have to put yourself first (being the most important) in order to take care of your family.
I see it more realistic to see it that way. I am sure some will see it as vanity. Not what it is meant.
As a parent, staying healthy, keeping my job and money in the bank. Making sure I am in good standing is what has kept my family safe. I do not find it a statement of arrogance, but of confidence. Another good quality for keeping your loved one secure.

Darwin's avatar

Become a parent. That will put yourself and your needs in a very different perspective.

DarkScribe's avatar

@ChazMaz If you do not take care of yourself. How will you take care of your family?

How do get from considering yourself the most important person to “taking care of yourself”? Taking care of yourself does not mean putting yourself ahead of others.

CMaz's avatar

Being the most important does not mean putting yourself ahead of others.
For me, it is mean putting myself in a position so that I can be there for others.
We use the expression that parents sacrifice for their children. You stay healthy, so you can carry your child, get educated so you bring home a paycheck, so you can feed your family.
My mother would always say, she would throw herself in front of a car for me. That is what a parent is all about. But if she did not have her priorities straight. Starting with her. I would go splat. :-)

RedPowerLady's avatar

Aren’t we the most important person in the world, to ourselves?

Only in individualistic societies/cultures.

Not in collectivist ones. In those belief systems the group is more important than the individual, including thyself.

So I would say you get over oneself by recognizing the the good of the whole can sometimes be more important than yourself.

Lonestarwildman's avatar

Quit looking at the mirror so much!!!!!!!

ubersiren's avatar

A humbling experience.

YARNLADY's avatar

I think most people use the saying the same way they do “Get a Life”, when you have typed something they take exception to, and their reaction is to try a “benign” insult. I’ve also see similar reactions as in “Get off your high horse” and “Don’t be so sanctimonious”. It’s just a way of saying they disagree with you.

CMaz's avatar

Not in a collective society? Life is survival of the fittest. Kill or be killed.
Someone breaks into your house to harm you or your family, you will do what ever it takes to defend yourself or them. ( if you do not like that example use, global warming, war, or greedy bankers)
You are not going to stop and think what decision is best for the collective? (gee, I am a single guy, he is a father of 4 kids. Better for me to die.) You are going to shoot him or her. At that point, you are an individual.
In a collective society, the value of an individual is meaningless.
As an individual I want to build myself up. This benefits everyone and keep the future of our society strong.
Otherwise we become nothing more then a bee hive. Kill the queen the population dies.
Utopian societies are for Sci-Fi and Star trek. People are watching too much TV. ;-)

Don’t get me wrong. Idealism is good. Provides a good forum for free thinking. This is how we develop truly good ideas, fresh approaches and hopefully in the end, the best life we can have.

RedPowerLady's avatar

@ChazMaz I think you have a bit of a skewed idea of what a collectivist society is all about. Most of the world beyond American and Europe are collectivist socities. It seems a bit full of ourselves ;) to think our individualism is the right way or the only way. It is quite untrue that the value of the individual is meaningless in a collective society. It is also untrue that protecting your family from an invader has anything to do with collectivism vs. individualism. And it seems like you are implying that one can not build themselves up to be the best that they can be in a collectivist society. And one certainly can, and in most cases does. This isn’t idealism. This is the way many other cultures and societies live.

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

Life in the wild is where survival of the fittest comes in to play.
We however live in civilization where this no longer applies.

lady4life's avatar

Realize you need others..stay humble..people and your experiences define who you are..without consideration of others.. there would be no journey..we all need each other..everyone is important

CMaz's avatar

“This is the way many other cultures and societies live.”
True, so true.
For all its faults, I will stick with good old USA.

ratboy's avatar

Stand in front of a mirror in nothing but a C-string.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

I have two ways of doing so. The first involves going outside ona clear night and looking at the stars. That shows me how really insignificant I am in the grand scheme of things.

The second way is to simply tell myself that in a hundred years none of this will matter one whit.

These are two ways that are very humbling, in my honest opinion.

anartist's avatar

Stop looking in the mirror.
Go fall in love with someone.

Skaggfacemutt's avatar

@ChazMaz You took the words right out of my mouth. @Darwin You, too. To get over yourself, all you have to do is have someone in your life that is more important than yourself. For me it’s my kids, since my husband passed away. I would do anything for my kids, but a big part of taking care of my kids is to take care of myself first. If I allowed them to bankrupt me, then I would be a liability to them instead of an asset.

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