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What do your new friends know about you as a person, see in you, recognize in you that your old friends have no idea about?

Asked by essieness (7693points) June 6th, 2009

New friends meet the person you’ve become. In what way have you grown that a long time friend won’t immediately see, acknowledge, or give credit for?

I’ll go first:
When I was a teenager and in my early 20s, I was a horrendous bitch to a lot of people. I was angry and frustrated with life and took it out on a lot of people. It got worse when I unknowingly got Addison’s disease. I was depressed, sick, and pretty much miserable. People who knew me then didn’t like me much. Sure, I had some good friends who had been there along the way and were loyal to me, but my general acquaintances didn’t enjoy my company. After being diagnosed with Addison’s and getting out of a not so great marriage, I figured out who I truly am at heart and have focused my energy on portraying my inner happiness rather than being ugly and negative. The change has been amazing. Of course my new friends don’t understand when I tell them what I was like back then, but there are a few people who knew me then and are back in my life now. They tell me all the time the change is remarkable. I’m literally a new person.

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hungryhungryhortence's avatar

Nothing. My longtime friends (teens & 20’s) mix with newer friends as they come, we build our own family along the way.

Jude's avatar

That I’m more laid back (than I used to be). Also, back in the day, coming from a strict Catholic upbringing, I was a “good little girl” for the most part because I didn’t want to upset the parents (there was stuff that slipped by them, though). Now, I’m a little more “adventurous” and love to get out there and enjoy life; not really holding back.

Plus, my sexuality was hidden, as well. In my teens, I dated boys, but, secretly had crushes on girls. I finally came out in my 20’s.

Blondesjon's avatar

That I now have a backbone and a true sense of self.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

Farking edit glitch! I feel lucky to have been with my friends as we’ve gone from being single, through relationships, marriages, divorces, children, illnesses, deaths, struggles, etc. Newer friends are a bit surprised by stories of my younger days temperament though.

Darwin's avatar

That I have children now, so any differences in me must be due to that.

cyn's avatar

I’m analytical now.. :) and I discovered I have OCD…

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

By old friends, I am thinking about people I went to high school with – they wouldn’t understand/know about my activism, about my involvement with the LGBT community, they wouldn’t recognize me in many ways – same with my friends in Russia

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

I am no longer a Christian, I stand up for myself and my beliefs, I am compassionate, and I’m not afraid to speak my mind. The friends from all those years ago aren’t friends anymore, they are just people that USED to be friends.

There’s a reason the people from your past are not a part of your future.

Bluefreedom's avatar

Friends I had in high school and a few others, before I joined the military, knew me to be generally irresponsible, carefree, and unfocused during those parts of my life. All of my newer friends and acquaintances know me to be self-confident, reliable, learned, responsible, mature, and professional in my behaviors and work ethic. I credit most of this to experiences in the military that have helped me make large improvements in my life over the past 20 years.

adreamofautumn's avatar

I have thought a lot about this recently as I was pondering my recent graduation from college. I think it’s hard for friends who have known you for awhile to notice changes in your personality that other people you just meet may see as just who you are. I think personality changes are like subtle weight gains/losses in someone you see every single day, you don’t notice them at all. That said my new friends know me as a MUCH calmer, less angry person. My older friends saw the side of me that was emotionally a mess and seriously angry. Years of hard work and therapy have made that person mostly disappear.

lady4life's avatar

I am outspoken, opininated, I have a lust for life, more creative..this may not seem like a big deal but to my old friends it is a huge surprise..I always felt caged and was afraid to “BE ME”, I am free..I’d like to think my new friends see the rebirth in me..

Darwin's avatar

I am easier to be friends with these days, now that I have discovered Zoloft. Depression and irritability dogged my footsteps all throughout childhood up through graduate school. I am also more confident these days. In part it is because I know I am no longer cute or even pretty so I don’t have to worry about what I look like any more, but in part it is simply as one gets older one becomes better able to cope with different situations.

Clair's avatar

that i grew up.

gymnastchick729's avatar

I will admit that I am, seriously, known as little ‘teachers pet’ and a perfectionist to practically everyone… and i am sooo far from either one of those things, its ridiculous, my close friends, im sure realize that. (usually by default :D )

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