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bakaranma's avatar

Could this be love?

Asked by bakaranma (2points) June 6th, 2009

Kay, so, I’ve known my current boyfriend for about a year, and we’ve been going out for about 6 months. We’re both still in high school, but I’m almost 100 percent sure that we’re really starting to fall in love with each other. I was skeptical about it for a while, cuz of past experiences/failures, but I feel like this is real. We both have admitted we care for each other a lot, and have a strong friendship base, and can pretty much say and do anything around each other. Are we really in love, or is it something else?

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NaturalMineralWater's avatar

Only time will tell. The stress of adulthood is a good measuring stick for love. High school is much too easy in comparison. It’s when problems arise that the true test is given.

cak's avatar

Some high school loves last, some don’t. I was very in love with my high school boyfriend…we were engaged. The he slept with my best friend.

Take your time, it could be love…we’re not the one in your shoes; however, remember, you are in high school…it’s still not the “full” real world, yet.

Good luck and enjoy it for whatever it is.

Judi's avatar

I just watched the Disney Pixar Movie UP with my grandsons last nght. It renewed my faith in the staying power of young love. :-)
An enchanting flick!

FrankHebusSmith's avatar

Give it a try…. Having been dating for 6 months I can say you’re at least VERY into one another…. The L word may be appropriate… assuming you feel that way. You’re young so there’s no way to be sure (one day you’ll know FOR SURE what it feels like). But if it feels like it to you…. sounds like he could be a great first love.

ru2bz46's avatar

@Judi Loved it! It struck me on many levels.

Judi's avatar

@ru2bz46 , my manly man husband even admited to a tear in his eye!

ru2bz46's avatar

@Judi So, are you implying that I’m NOT a manly man? ;-)

Sorry @bakaranma, I didn’t mean to hijack your question. I never dated in high school, so I cannot draw on any experience from that age. Wait, I just remembered that I did have a girlfriend for a few months just after high school when I was 17. I thought I loved her because I was always thinking about her at the time. We were always on the phone or visiting; it was pretty intense. Suddenly, she stopped calling, and I found out she had started seeing someone else. I wished I had been important enough to tell. Apparently it was not love after all since I had forgotten about her until just now.

skfinkel's avatar

I married my high school sweetheart—but it was the exception. We had a great marriage. I would say, don’t worry about the future, and just experience the time you have now. The future, as they say, will take care of itself.

Prof1980's avatar

I agree with skfinkel – your life will change in leaps and bounds in just the next several years. You’ll meet a lot of new people, and be faced with more pressures. In other words, you’ll change. See where things go—but don’t worry about the relationship’s future.

loser's avatar

Why is your head asking questions? Only your heart knows for sure.

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

If you need to ask, then it is not. If or when you find love, you will know.

Jeruba's avatar

You can really be in love.

What you feel now is not the same as love at 25 or 35 or 65, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t real. Even if this is not your last new romance—and chances are good that it isn’t—you can still feel something true.

gymnastchick729's avatar

If you were truly in love, would you question it?
But I mean, who needs rhetorical questions?

ru2bz46's avatar

@gymnastchick729 To answer your questions, No, and Nobody. ;-)

CMaz's avatar

Puppy love

Poser's avatar

I have to disagree with @loser. It absolutely should be your head asking these questions. Don’t make decisions based on feelings. We do it all the time with love. That’s why there are so many failed marriages, broken homes, and bastard children. Yet if we made all our decisions based on feelings, there would be chaos. You couldn’t cut someone off in traffic without being murdered.

Having said that, I’d guess that this is probably teenage love. Firey, passionate, intense—and fleeting. Enjoy it while it lasts. Don’t start looking too far into the future, wondering where it’s “going.” Don’t expect that this is the person that you’ll spend the rest of your life with. Learn from the relationship. Have fun with it. But allow it to run its course, so to speak.

And for god’s sake, use a condom.

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