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Are there moments in your life you'd like to "Do-over"?

Asked by Lupin (4375points) June 7th, 2009

I was just listening to Robin Henley on NPR talking about his book “Do-Over”. He mentioned certain times in his life that he wanted to do-over, not because they were pleasurable, but because he wanted a second chance to do it right. Like a mulligan in golf.
I wish I could play “Marines Hymn” again during my accoridan solo at summer camp when I was 8. I still wince when I think about how badly I screwed up the second verse.
Flubbed line in school play? Stupid answer to a question? Bad job interview?
What incident would you like to do over?

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veronasgirl's avatar

The last day of my Junior year of college, I wish I had stayed at school just one day longer…

Lightlyseared's avatar

There are things I regret doing but the consequences of those decisions have shaped who I am today, for better or for worse, and I’m OK with that.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

Hmmm, lightly seared has a point, but my past is full of memories of complete and utterly stupid moves on my part that still make me wince. Of course, learning from my mistakes is probably the most valuable thing I’ve learned. Some of them were just so STOOPID though.

Zaku's avatar

Yeah, I would want to do over a few (and especially, one) chances at romance that I didn’t take, and one or two that I did. I understand that doesn’t match the real time-space continuum and am happy being myself now, but I’d still rather do those over differently (especially with more like my current views and capacities, though that’s even more fantasy).

Lupin's avatar

If I had the do-over, I’d finish that second verse instead of walking off the stage when I screwed up. Good thing it happened before parents could video every school play.
Oh and this time I’d punch Johnny Razino in the face instead of the stomach.

DarkScribe's avatar

Moya Barnes. Yes, Moya Barnes, I’d like to do her over. I was fourteen and she was an older woman – she was fifteen. That was an amazing experience, I still remember it often. .

Blondesjon's avatar

I’ve fucked up so many times in my life that to just do one thing over again would be a disservice to all the other fuck ups.

AnnieOakley's avatar

I’m with Blondesjon on this one.
(Besides those mistakes do shape who you become.)

Aethelwine's avatar

My wedding day. I walked down the aisle so fast, you could see in the pictures that my father was nudging me to get me to slow down. I also had a huge zit on my forehead. Other than that, I wouldn’t change a thing.

Blondesjon's avatar

@jonsblond . . .i thought you looked gorgeous

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

Assuming altering the glitch would pretty much negate my present, I’d be willing to gamble because it was a huge mistake that changed a lot for me and not much for the better.

A company I worked for was bought out by new ownership which didn’t care for my boss and they fired him. In haste and anger, I turned in my own resignation even though the new company asked me to reconsider, even gave me a week paid off work to reconsider. My big stupid was to stick to my guns and walk away from a job that had a base salary of $60K (this was almost a decade ago) plus commissions. For some reason, I had failed to take in how rare the opportunity was for someone like me to have been given that shot in the first place and I’ve not been able to break back in since.

SuperMouse's avatar

At first I thought I would answer this question in the same vein as lightlyseared, but when I read this question I re-thought that idea. I’m not convinced that @Lupin not messing up his accordion solo and finishing the second verse would have reverberations that would impact the rest of his life. Some things are just things and changing them isn’t going to change the world.

As for my mulligan, I probably wouldn’t have left my bike unlocked in the mall parking for two weeks and had it stolen.

nikipedia's avatar

@Zaku: Just curious—with the ones you didn’t go for, why didn’t you, and what changed your mind?

There are a couple things I’d like to do over. I got in a car accident in 2007 and I kept feeling like if I could only back up a few seconds, it could have been prevented.

Also the ball that came right for me in our last softball game that I didn’t catch. I’d like to try that again.

And all the times I’ve fallen off my bike. Especially in front of people. Yikes.

Zaku's avatar

@nikipedia: I was young and felt unready and afraid or humiliation and heartbreak. I felt a great benevolent love for them and was terrified of either having a negative effect on them, or of losing my sense in love and/or making myself very vulnerable and then getting hurt. (e.g. I imagined I would do anything for her, possibly get married or a child before realizing some mistake or failing to keep her happy.) I had stories from seeing unhappy marriages and unexpected divorces, and then when I first tried writing a scared affectionate letter to my crush from 5th to 9th grade, she wrote an irate icy reply.

chelseababyy's avatar

More like re-live.

Darwin's avatar

I suspect most of us suffer from some degree from twenty-twenty hindsight. There are certainly a number of situations and decisions I would like to revisit based on what I know now. However, I am who I am, and those decisions, good and bad, have made me so. If I were to get to do those things over, what good thing that I have today might never have come about?

justn's avatar

I used to want to do-over my Junior year of high school. But, now the more I look back at it I can be thankful for what has happened in my life because of some of the opportunities I missed out on.

Bluefreedom's avatar

If I could have one big ‘do-over’ or maybe even an ‘undo’, I wouldn’t have married my first wife. That was an egregious error on my part.

chelseababyy's avatar

Everything you do, even mistakes you make, lead to where you are now. They also make you WHO you are now.

Hence why I wouldn’t ever take anything back. Even trauma i endured with my mom.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

I disagree that every thing you have done in the past makes you who you are today. That is a concept promoted by movies and feel good pop psychologists, but does it truly mean you are who you are because you were such a fuck up at 17?

I’d like proof beyond Hollywood conjecture; no disrespect to Jimmie Stewart.

I’d like to re-do about 45% of my life from age 1 to age 24. Changing those particular learning fuck ups would make things a whole lot better. The only good thing is that 100 years after I am dead, no one will really give a candy-coated rat’s ass about any of it, and that my friends, is a HUGE relief.

Blondesjon's avatar

@evelyns_pet_zebra . . .Give yourself some credit, my friend. I bet it will be at least 102 years before you’re forgotton.

Could you pass some of that candy-coated rat’s ass? I know it goes straight to my hips but it’s sooo good.

Lupin's avatar

Just think… Had I finished my accordion solo, you might be watching me instead of Myron Floren in those Lawrence Welk reruns. Maybe I am better off.
That accordion is still in the closet – where it belongs.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

@Lupin it was that odd cartoonist Gary Larson that said they play accordions in Hell, you know.

Lupin's avatar

@evelyns_pet_zebra Thanks for the tip. I’d better start practicing!

Da_Wolfman's avatar

I’d like to go back in time and slap that dude who assured me that my insurance rates would go down as I grew older..

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