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Have you ever met someone who was just like you?

Asked by Facade (22899points) June 7th, 2009

Did the two of you get along? Become best friends?
Did you dislike the person?

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chelseababyy's avatar

No. Never.
And I doubt I ever will.

And I kind of don’t want to. I’d probably sock him/her in the face.

essieness's avatar

I met my cousins from my birth-father’s side of the family last year. The oldest girl she’s about 6 months older than me are a lot alike and we hit it off right away. Maybe it was the comfort of being around someone whom I felt really understood me. We don’t live anywhere near each other, so I don’t know what it would be like to be around each other all the time, but possibly, it could get really old really fast.

DarkScribe's avatar

We’d kill each other.

Aethelwine's avatar

Yes I have. The wife of one of my husband’s co-workers. I’m very quiet and not much of a partier (she is the same). Whenever my husband’s boss has a get together we look for each other because we hate being around the obnoxious drunks. It’s nice to know that there is someone out there like me.

Jeruba's avatar

When I was in my twenties I met a young man with whom I was in such complete accord that it went beyond amazing and became disturbing. Right down the line, no matter what it was, we had the same reaction, we liked and disliked the same things, we had the same odd little habits, we’d read the same books and had the same opinion of them—it was just uncanny. What put it over the top for me, I think, was when he saw the jar in which I had combined, in the correct proportion, instant coffee, sugar, and Coffeemate so I could measure just one substance and not three in my hurried mornings (I don’t do this any more), and he knew at once what it was and exclaimed, “I do that too!”

Oddly enough, it was our similarity that created our difference. He was so excited over meeting someone so utterly compatible with him that he wanted to start making wedding plans right away and picking out names for our kids (names I admit I liked). My view was that if we were so alike, one of us was redundant. I told him there was no way I could stand the idea of marrying someone exactly like me, that it was sure to be desperately boring, and that I never wanted to see him again. He wrote me a letter and enclosed it in an old second-hand volume of Dorothy Parker poems (absolutely perfect gift for me) saying that he regretted my decision but would respect it. I still have it, one of the more curious souvenirs of my erratic youth.

I really hope he found someone nice who was not his female double.

DarkScribe's avatar

@Jeruba I had a similar experience, that is how I know that we’d kill each other if a met another clone. I met a woman who was identical in almost all tastes and attitudes. It was the woman who I was with immediately before meeting my wife. We were together for two years, ecstatic at first, then bit by bit the friction started. Basically, you bore yourself, you need stimulation in a relationship, and you don’t get that in a clone. I left before it completely disintegrated. We still stay in loose contact.

MacBean's avatar

No. If there were two people just like me and we got that close to each other, it would create a vacuum of emo. Everyone would be sucked into despair. They’d all slit their wrists and the human race would come to an end, leaving behind only the faint strains of whiny self-pitying music. It would be tragic.

Judi's avatar

@Jeruba ; I know you are way to sensible, but have you ever considered googling him to see how he turned out? I think the curiosity would kill me!

cookieman's avatar

I met a guy first year in high school. We were so much alike he referred to us as brothers (still does).

We were best of friends for nineteen years then something happened. He began to withdraw; call less and less; and hanging out became an impossibility as he was conveniently too busy.

We still eMail or call every month or two, but I’ve given up trying to see him.

I really miss my friend.

Bluefreedom's avatar

Yes I have and it just happens to be the man in the mirror. We get along most of the time but every now and then, he gives me the silent treatment. I like him a lot and we’re friends but not best friends.

Jack79's avatar

I met a girl who pretended to be like me, and we decided to get married straightaway, but it turned out a while later that she was not who she claimed to be.

There is a guy I know who physically looks a lot like me and wears similar glasses, and people often confused us. There’s also another guy who is Australian and a singer and has the exact same hair and a similar voice. He sings in a band I used to be in years ago, and a lot of people also get confused and think we’re the same person. We generally get along, but are very different on the inside, and have nothing in common. He’s a typical rocker (with the booze and drugs to go with it) whereas I’m more of a nerd that never drinks, smokes or does drugs and just plays a role when he goes on stage. And I’m generally very different. Oh we also both have daughters around the same age that have taken our hair. Freaky stuff.

cookieman's avatar


I’m Starting With The Man In The Mirror
I’m Asking Him To Change His Ways
And No Message Could Have Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World A Better Place
Take A Look At Yourself, And Then Make A Change
Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na, Na Nah

filmfann's avatar

Ya, sure. The guy looked just like me. Then he goes and leaves Jennifer Aniston for that bimbo. The chump.
I smell better, though.

casheroo's avatar

It was a self destructive relationship.

Bluefreedom's avatar

@cprevite. Nice. Lurve for that. =)

Jeruba's avatar

@DarkScribe, two years, wow. Three dates were enough for me. Who in the world would want to live looking into a mirror?

@MacBean, exactly. Or sort of. Something like that, anyway. Too high a concentration of the same substance in one spot, throwing off the cosmic balance. Or maybe just being locally depressing.

@Judi, I don’t know about sensible, but I honestly never thought of it. I forgot his name years ago. I do still have the book of poems, though, and the letter is still inside, so I could…but I am not sure I would want to find out that he works where I work, 3000 miles from where we started!

@Facade, have you? That would be curious, especially if your username means anything.

Facade's avatar

@Jeruba Nope, I haven’t

Jeruba's avatar

What made you think of this question? Were you thinking it might be great to meet someone who could be your psychic or spiritual twin—not your other half but the same half?

Facade's avatar

Just a fleeting thought of how I’ve never met anyone like me. I thought I’d see if other people have.

LC_Beta's avatar

I’ve happened upon a couple of souls who seem to be “made of the same stuff” as me… from the same archetype, if you will. I felt an immediate bond and love for these people, but we are not “best friends” and probably never will be. Like others have said, you need a certain amount of differences in order to really learn. These people seem to float in and out of my life, but we always pick up with the same degree of intimacy as we left off with.

LC_Beta's avatar

The iPhone app is kindof annoying in that I can’t easily scroll through my answer to edit or review. There are a couple grammatical errors I’d like to fix in my answer above, and can’t. Grr.

Darwin's avatar

Fortunately, I have not met someone exactly like me. My life is already messy enough without two of us in it.

cak's avatar

Close, but not exactly. One of my really good friends…but we have a few very noticeable differences, which is why our friendship works. I think if I had to deal with someone exactly like me, it would never work!

DarkScribe's avatar

@Jeruba two years, wow. Three dates were enough for me. Who in the world would want to live looking into a mirror?

I don’t give up easily, but I had too eventually. It was fantastic when it worked, and that was most of the time, but each time we had problems it got worse. The one difference between us was that she was jealous and I never have been. Fights would start with accusations of non-existent affairs – any woman who smiled at me, even if a complete stranger, was someone that I must be having an affair with. That was the worst of it. Another smaller difference was that although we would both drink, I have a fear of losing control and have never used drugs or drunk to inebriation. She would often get extremely inebriated when she was emotional.

I still miss her.

filmfann's avatar

I was always disturbed by the Bianca & Mick Jagger thing.

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mldelaney's avatar

I met my twin three days ago. We’re already best friends and it feels like we’ve known each other forever. We have all the same weird little habits. He opened up to me yesterday and he said he’s never talked like that to anyone before. I can see that he has a lot of sadness and I want to help him, but I think that he likes me, but I’m not attracted to him, although I feel like I should be. But I like him very very much which is good for my self confidence, since he is me.

explicit_so_ignant's avatar

I have met my twin of the opposite sex. We have the exact same birthday (including year), both rap and sing, both are hippie-like, both have hard times with our families, trust-issues, and every other thing that could possibly be compared. Only difference is that I believed us being together would be perfect while she believes it would end up being very annoying, sadly to admit in my head I saw where she was coming from (still haven’t admitted to it). After reading these comments it’s pretty clear factually that I shouldn’t attempt to pursue in a relationship with her, but I thought i’d share my story.

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