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How do you get your mojo back?

Asked by Sariperana (1442points) June 8th, 2009

I feel as though i have lost my zest for life, fallen out of love with the world.
I have become anti social, dont leave my house unless its for work, eat very unhealthy, smoke and drink more than i should.
It was only a few months ago that i was out going to the gym every other day, going out for walks, running/ jogging, watching what i ate, not smoking, calling my friends going out and just all in all – acting like a 24 yr old should.
How do you get the care factor for life back? i hate that i am like this, but everytime i force myself to do things i used to, i end up resenting my time doing it… Has anyone else ever gone through a phase (if thats what it is) like this and how have you pulled yourself out of it??

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dynamicduo's avatar

Have you been to a doctor to make sure your problems are not physiological? I say this because the first thing that popped into my mind when reading your symptoms was “depression”. Especially the “fallen out of love with the world” and “lost my zest for life”, as well as your sudden and inexplicable anti-socialness. Please go to a doctor and be evaluated to ensure you are not suffering from depression, as it is very hard (not impossible, but not easy) to pull yourself out of depression without some type of help, whether it’s drugs or therapy or meditation etc.

Sariperana's avatar

@dynamicduo – no i dont think it is depression as i dont feel sad, meloncholy or upset with anything, i am just not interested??

Jude's avatar

I hear ya on the lost my zest for life business. That’s me right now. Going through a lot, plus, dealing with my Mom’s death. I don’t feel “sad”. I actually feel nothing. Flat affect is a symptom of depression.

I tried to dig myself out of the funk, but, I couldn’t. My therapist equated it to me swimming with one arm whilst battling the current. That’s why I’m taking the anti-depressants route.

I’d suggest that you make an appointment with you doctor and discuss what you’re going through. It totally sucks feeling this way, I know..

wundayatta's avatar

Let me third that. It could easily be depression. If you have insurance, make an appointment. If you don’t have insurance, make an appointment. It’s a lot better getting help then waiting it out. Also, it could get worse. Drinking and smoking are common forms of self-medication. Wanting to be alone, not taking care of yourself, not doing exercise are all signs of depression.

Even if you do nothing else, make yourself run every day. Exercise really helps overcome the blahs. So does volunteering. You may resent these things, but, believe me, it is much better than letting it get worse, even if that’s all you want to do.

dynamicduo's avatar

Not all depressions are the same, maybe your depression doesn’t have feeling sad as a symptom. Either way, you have nothing to lose by seeing a doctor.

jfos's avatar

Do something extreme. Skydive, Parasail, jump off the high diving board, etc. Do something that will awaken you from a physical standpoint, and hopefully that will convert to a mental re-awakening.

Mr_Callahan's avatar

Viatmin b-12 sweety, it does wonders. You’ll be amazed.

lady4life's avatar

If you don’t think it is depression {which it could be} consider what happen in the last few weeks/months that changed your focus on life..if there was no tragedy than it has to be psychological..something inside you that needs healing..if you won’t contact a doc/counseling please consider talking, expressing, writing are prayer..ask God to guide you and give you strength to fix the problem whatever it may be

IchtheosaurusRex's avatar

You can be depressed even if you don’t feel specifically sad (you can also feel sad without being depressed). There are a lot of places on the Internet where you can take a self-diagnostic quiz, like here:

But I think it’s your animal.

Facade's avatar

I agree with @Mr_Callahan
Try B-complex vitamins. Also, get back to exercising, even if you have to force yourself.

Darwin's avatar

I also put in a bid for depression. Social isolation and lack of zest for life are both common symptoms. Sadness, melancholy, and being upset are not necessarily a part of depression.

Secondarily, I also suggest you have your thyroid levels checked, as slightly lowered levels seem to suck the joy right out of everything.

Try a new hobby, find a group of people that do something you have always wanted to try, get a puppy (if you are in a position to have a pet), volunteer somewhere, get on a bicycle and go cruising, sing, or get involved in any number of other activities that will spark something in you.

If that doesn’t work, then talk to your doctor.

bea2345's avatar

Go for a physical examination. Sometimes the explanation can be quite simple: 10 years ago I had nightmares, premonitions of death, persistent bronchitis, etc. It turned out that obesity was interfering with my sleep – something to do with my breathing. The cardiologist recommended a brisk walk every morning beginning at 5.00 am and loss of weight. It worked like a charm.

Midnight_Blue's avatar

As with most other things you lose, you retrace your footsteps, very slowly and very carefully. You will find where you lost it and perhaps how to regain it.

Mr_Callahan's avatar

Nice lipstick MB.

Jeruba's avatar

You have done very well to raise the question and ask for advice. You know something is wrong. That’s a start.

I agree that depression sounds very likely, and I also think it is a good idea to rule out physical factors first.

In exactly your situation some years back, I tried to do the same thing. So before going to the doctor I made a list of all the physical conditions or possible symptoms that I was experiencing and also all the life events and circumstances that were in some way impinging on me. My notion was that he might take a look and say something like, “Aha, curly hair, loose socks, and craving for cinnamon—that just fits a profile of Fragmaconsterotic Syndrome.” I’d always heard that you should try to give your doctor the whole picture and let him or her decide what’s relevant, so I tried to do that, expecting that patterns might appear and have meaning to him that had no significance to me.

He glanced at my list, dismissed my idea of patterns and correlations (guess he hadn’t read the same magazine articles I had), and prescribed Zoloft. I took it for about two months, didn’t like it, and tapered myself off. That was the last time I tried to get that kind of help.

So let’s call that a worst case. Chances are your experience would be better. Can’t hurt to try.

Some time later I mentioned that episode to a savvy friend, the sort of person who could always get doctors and other professionals to tell her things they usually don’t say to patients. She told me that her doctor had told her that when a patient comes in with a long list of things, that patient is almost certainly neurotic and their training says they should just disregard it.

bostonbeliever's avatar

i believe this often referred to as “burnout”.
i suggest taking a vacation to relax in a place you love.
take some time and walk around, be one with yourself and nature, and also try some new things, like skiing if you’ve never done it, or jet ski riding, etc.

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