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What is your secret recipe of happiness?

Asked by mehmetaydin3 (112points) June 8th, 2009

How do you manage to live your daily life happily without worries of the past or future?

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evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

a great personal physician with an innate ability to choose the right pharmaceuticals that will do me the most good. Great doctors, like honest mechanics, are hard to come by and worth their weight in gold.

hearkat's avatar

By accepting that the past can’t be changed, and having faith that I have gleaned enough valuable information from those past experiences to conduct myself in the present moment in order to have little to no regrets in my future.

CMaz's avatar

By living your daily life happy without worrying about the past or future.
No one said life was going to be easy, you have to make the best of it.
In your own way and how you see fit.
First thing, stop worrying about what others think of you. (easier said then done)

skfinkel's avatar

Enjoying every day as much as possible. Loving the small moments that make up each day. And having no big expectations, not wanting more than I can reasonably have.
I wouldn’t say I have no worries, but this is how I try to live my life.

Mr_Callahan's avatar

Worries, pain , conflict , illness , death are ALL part of life and as soon as you accept the things you cannot change, a better life is in store for you.

SirBailey's avatar

Stay away from obnoxious people – even if they’re relatives. ESPECIALLY if they’re relatives.

augustlan's avatar

Know yourself, accept yourself. Act accordingly. In short, “To thine own self be true.” Note: This in no way stops me from worrying, but it does keep me happy for the most part.

Proper medication helps a lot, too. :)

ubersiren's avatar

Title question – Admit that there’s little you can do to change the circumstances of the world. Give up on the childhood dream that you can be anything, or change the world. It’s only about 20% true. It’s a lot more complicated than “reach for the stars!” so just be happy with what you can accomplish.

Description question – I don’t. I definitely don’t.

**cries** I need to go on vacation ALONE and get drunk and sleep for 3 days straight. Also drugs. I need some drugs. Acid and pot. Take me away, someone!!! Ugh!!! I guess I’ll setting for eating some chocolate chips from the cupboard.

qashqai's avatar


Lots of mojitos.

wundayatta's avatar

Be Here Now!

dynamicduo's avatar

Why worry over what you cannot control? Even more so, why worry about things which have already occurred and thus are completely and utterly out of your influence whatsoever? Worrying about the past makes zero sense. Worrying about the future makes very little more than that.

Planning for the future on the other hand is a great way to alleviate any concerns you may have. And it gives you a sense of control over your life, like holding the horse’s reigns in your hands.

ABoyNamedBoobs03's avatar

Live. just Live.

AstroChuck's avatar

If I were to say it wouldn’t be secret, would it.

cak's avatar

Understand that things go wrong, life isn’t perfect and enjoy the moment you are in.

Ruthi's avatar

Knowing I’ve made someone smile, counting the smallest miracles and dreaming the biggest dreams.

zephyr826's avatar

There was a poster, created in England in 1939. It said, Keep Calm and Carry On. Those five words have helped me tremendously over the last few years, and I’m sure they work for others as well.

YARNLADY's avatar

I made a pledge to myself a long time ago that I will be happy every single day for the rest of my life. when anything tries to insert itself in my mind that takes away from that, I just change my mind, and it goes away.

I listen to happy music, watch the squirrels outside play, play with my dog, do the laundry, or something to keep me busy and happy.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

I accept my mortal time. I don’t have to be “happy” everyday, I know some days are going to be difficult but I’ve also learned that even when things are not peachy for me, I can reach out and do something for other people important to me and that makes my day worthwhile.

Blondesjon's avatar

1 part liking yourself
2 parts healthy skepticism
3 parts optimism
4 parts taking responsibility for yourself
a pinch of cynicism
Beer(s) to taste
1 entire awsome mate

Shake well before serving.

Bluefreedom's avatar

My recipe for happiness is pretty straightforward:

- It comes naturally to me
– I’m just special like that
– They broke the mold when I was created

mattbrowne's avatar

I try to include the following virtues and strengths into my life:

virtues and strengths is as follows:

1. Wisdom and Knowledge: creativity, curiosity, open-mindedness, love of learning, perspective
2. Courage: bravery, persistence, integrity, vitality
3. Humanity: love, kindness, social intelligence
4. Justice: citizenship, fairness, leadership
5. Temperance: forgiveness and mercy, humility, prudence, self control
6. Transcendence: appreciation of beauty and excellence, gratitude, hope, humor, spirituality

wundayatta's avatar

For most of my life I was happy, not in any kind of hopping around, perpetually joyful kind of way; just in that I appreciated my life and felt really lucky to be the beneficiary of so many boons. Then I got depressed, and I could not imagine ever being happy again. Life seemed like unending pain—something, perhaps, to surrender to nothingness. Thanks to the intervention of meds, I am back to where I once was, and for that, I am so grateful!

charhalCDW's avatar

Making friends whose values you share. Having a good teamate by your side. Wearing your heart on your sleeve, but never letting people know you’re down. Positive on the outside, real on the inside, and calm all over.

zephyr826's avatar

@charhalCDW Welcome to fluther. Lurve!

CMaz's avatar

A nice shirt and tie doesn’t hurt either. :-)

Jemznova's avatar

You can remain happy at other people’s expense as well, that’s if you don’t mind not giving a shit about certain circumstances most of the time. But to really get to the core of why you want to be happy you must ask yourself why you can’t be happy? Unless of course you want to know the secret to happiness because you are always happy and want to know why. In reality the secret to happiness is success, but not success in the traditional sense. Success in your own mind is what counts, if you have achieved success by sitting a dumpster all your life so be it your happy that way and it must continue. Find what makes your success.

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