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Do we reveal our true self?

Asked by lady4life (234points) June 9th, 2009

A person that love honor and respect YOU
If they could magically read your mind for 24 hours would they be surprised, shocked, proud, pleased etc

I realize this is a difficult question, but I guess I am wondering if we reveal our true feelings or hold back for fear of hurting our love ones or disappointing them..I wonder do we live up to their standards/expectations

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hungryhungryhortence's avatar

Amused, not so surprised.

Skippy's avatar

I have, and other to my family, I probably will not ever again. The pain that it can cause it tramatic. There are times that for the best interest of everyone involved, it’s not the right thing to do. It can cause problems and that can make matters worse.

My family knows who I am and what I believe in. They are the most important people in my life, and it’s the true way to live your life.

However, the time comes that if you were to reveal your true self a person who is in need of a friend or help, could actually hurt them or their situation. In the past, allowing someone to see the “real me” ended up biting me in the butt. When you put yourself out there, many can and will use it against you or to further thier own agenda. Holding a piece back will give you leverage with strength to walk away.

Family on the other hand, sees you for who you really are, sick, demented, goofey, funny, hurt and loving. They are the true people in your life and they deserve that.

Oh yea, God knows you!

whatthefluther's avatar

I believe I am as transparent, open and honest as one could possibly be for sccrowell and last I checked, she still liked me. At this stage of my life, I have nothing to hide from the one I love. I don’t think anything I do or say really surprises her, except of course that little proposal a couple of weeks ago, right here on fluther. See ya…wtf
PS: The date is June 19th.

Dog's avatar

@whatthefluther YES! Thanks for the update.

My spouse would be proud but find nothing new. We talk a lot so little is held back.
But- I am not sure my spouse should be able to read my mind as I drive as my thoughts sometimes are less than pure.

lady4life's avatar

“whatthefluther” Congrats!

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

If they were to read my thoughts, most of my close friends and family wouldn’t find anything new. If they read my mind though, it would be a different story (one that I don’t particularly want to go into).

aprilsimnel's avatar

My loved ones would be utterly exasperated. I think of myself as a lot worse of a person than they do, but for the most part keep those feelings inside.

fireside's avatar

The reason I am getting married is because I finally found someone who is open and honest and is perfectly accepting of my openness and honesty.

augustlan's avatar

‘I yam what I yam, and that’s all that I yam.’ Anyone who knows me even a little bit well wouldn’t be surprised at all, I think. I’m an open book.

Clair's avatar

i think it would be best not to reveal my secrets. if i could just omit one category or something, it would be ok, but i think everybody would be surprised and possibly heartbroken. other than that one subject though, i’m an open book. i think people are meant to have some privacy. we are allowed secrets. nothing wrong with that.

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