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Facade's avatar

How would you feel if you came into town to visit someone and they insisted that you stay in a hotel?

Asked by Facade (22917points) June 9th, 2009

It is a decent hotel, and they pay for it.

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avalmez's avatar

…thanks..and i’m here for the entire week thank you!

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

Sounds good to me. Sure beats sleeping on an inflatable mattress in someones living room or on the couch.

Likeradar's avatar

What’s the reason? Tiny apartment and literally no where to put an air mattress? Pissy roomies?

eponymoushipster's avatar

Do they pay for the minibar?

augustlan's avatar

They’re paying? I’m in.

Honestly, I prefer to stay in a hotel rather than in someone’s home, and would have paid for a hotel anyway. :)

Facade's avatar

@Likeradar That’s part of my analysis :P What would you assume the reason is?

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

These would be my assumptions:
1. They have roomies and want some privacy for you two
2. Their place isn’t that nice and they really want you comfortable
3. They live at home and haven’t told you yet. heh heh

*I’m going to add from experience what a fizzle it is to try and relax (and stuff) with your sweetie in a house full of people

Likeradar's avatar

@Facade Hurm… who’s the person?

Long distance BF (or GF)? Maybe he’s misleading you about something, maybe he doesn’t want you to feel like you have to put out.
Friend or relative? Maybe he or she really likes their space. Honestly, if I could afford it I would pay for pretty much anyone to stay in a hotel if the visit was more than 2 or 3 nights. Or maybe the home just isn’t set up for guests. My only bathroom is through my bedroom, and the door doesn’t close all the way. Only very close friends or those who can hold it crash here. :)

PandoraBoxx's avatar

I always stay in a hotel, and pay for it, unless it’s a one night trip. Perhaps they have a lot of work to do, or the last house guests were trying, or they don’t have a guest bed.

Who suggested the visit?

cwilbur's avatar

If they’re paying, I have no problem with it. I’d probably offer to chip in some myself.

Blondesjon's avatar

I would feel like I am a guest and they are the host.

what’s the big deal?

avalmez's avatar

the entire question seems to presuppose an unexpected visit, in which case, my bad…otherwise, if they offered upon arrival, why not, right?

eponymoushipster's avatar

@Facade oh cool. and plus: i get to walk around naked. i mean, i’d do it if i was staying with them, but it’d be wwaaaayyy more awkward.

aprilsimnel's avatar

Perhaps visitors in their home are stressful to them for whatever reason, and they don’t want you to see the worst of themselves while you’re supposed to be enjoying a nice visit with them.

avalmez's avatar

again, i can’t imagine this kind of situation unless you unexpectedly dropped in on someone…i would never do that to someone even if family…and if my visit was expected and on arrival i was told they were putting me up in a hotel, i’d take them up on it and later think twice about visiting them again…also, paybacks are a bitch!

Aethelwine's avatar

I wouldn’t mind at all. I’d actually prefer it that way. I am not a morning person!

I would be offended if it was my sister that lives in Sedona. She has 10 bedrooms at least. Really? No room for me?

Dog's avatar

I would totally visit them again and again.

Takes the awkwardness out of the visit and adds a minibar. yessssss.

Facade's avatar

@jonsblond Sedona looks beautiful. I’m starting to like Arizona more and more.

YARNLADY's avatar

They pay for it, wow, that’s lucky. Whenever we visit, we stay in a hotel, and we pay for it ourselves. I would never expect someone to put me up at their place.

Aethelwine's avatar

@Facade It’s gorgeous there! I haven’t been there in years. Arizona is a beautiful state.

YARNLADY's avatar

@Facade Mostly because of my sleeping schedule, I like staying up late and sleeping in late, but also because I don’t like sharing other people’s bathrooms, and my cleaning standards are often different from my family. They think it’s rude for me to bring my own sheets, pillows, and towels, where as the hotel doesn’t care at all.

Likeradar's avatar

@YARNLADY are your relatives total slobs, or are you just really picky about your linens?

Facade's avatar

@YARNLADY I apologize. I should have asked why you wouldn’t expect for them to pay?

tinyfaery's avatar

The only people I expect to put me up are my parents and my wife’s parents, and only because they do. I would never assume anyone else would. But I’ll take the hotel, and thank you very much; I will be visiting again soon.

susanc's avatar

I want to get to know @jonsblond‘s sister. Really soon.

YARNLADY's avatar

@Likeradar I am allergic to most cleaning products, and I love my own pillow.

@Facade I can’t imagine asking anyone if you can visit them, but only if they will pay. What kind of person does that?

Likeradar's avatar

@YARNLADY ah, makes sense.

Aethelwine's avatar

@susanc She’s a realtor there. I can’t remember what actor’s house it was that she bought but from what I hear it’s beautiful. My sister is a snob. Very superficial!

tinyfaery's avatar

@yarn I take one of my pillows everywhere I go that requires spending the night. This particular pillow can roll up and be spread out, and it looks like Eeyore.

Aethelwine's avatar


I must have my pillow also or I have a restless night.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

Hell yeah, I’m too old for that camping out on the lumpy couch in the basement crap. Give me a nice hotel room and I’m set. Sounds like a great way to spend my time on vacation or whatever.

susanc's avatar

@jonsblond: I’m very superficial too! We’ll get along great! Can I bring kevbo when I go to visit her? I can’t wait.

Aethelwine's avatar

@susanc Party at jonsblond’s sisters house it is! Her youngest just went off to college, I’m sure she’s ready for us. :)

augustlan's avatar

@jonsblond I want in on that action! Sounds fun. :D

btko's avatar

And they are paying? For sure!

Aethelwine's avatar

@augustlan 10+ bedrooms, there’s room. Hell, let’s have the fluther convention there.

Haven’t talked to my “half” sister in two years. I’m sure she won’t mind. ;)

Likeradar's avatar

@Facade Are you gonna tell us your relationship to the person? I’m curious! :)

Facade's avatar

@Likeradar This was just a random question, really. Although, in the future, when I have a home of my own, I won’t be having house guests.

Anatelostaxus's avatar

@Facade I wouldn’t expect them to host me at all.. people, however close they are can always be shit.
Why would they INSIST on you staying in a hotel?
Did it come up in a discussion (as if it were not obvious, if they were friends, that you stay with them) Of course if it wasn’t planed that you arrived there..that’s another case..
“No, no…now that you’re here.. I must suggest that you enjoy the town the fullest.. you mus… oh indeed, you MUST book a room at that building there, around the corner from my house, you see?”... you read: “N..o.. V…a..c…a..n.c.y…”, hmm…

SirBailey's avatar

The host would be doing a fantastic thing. They might be ashamed of something in their home or themselves; they (or someone in their household) may not want to be on their best behavior 24 hours a day; maybe they think you might have sex in the bed they allow you to sleep in and they don’t want that. Maybe they think someone in the household may jump in YOUR bed.

Darwin's avatar

They are going to pay for it? Wow! I wish my in-laws would do that. They insist we stay at a hotel and that we pay for it.

Personally I find it gives a needed break from being with people you share genes with but not interests or viewpoints. I’m all for it.

sap82's avatar

I would like to know why. If they feel they are a lousy house keeper and that they would feel more comfortable paying for a clean room than letting you stay in a spare room, I would try to oblige. I doubt it is intended to be offensive, otherwise they probably wouldn’t have invited you.

Dog's avatar

I do not even remotely care why. (typed while reaching to open mini-bar)

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