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Is it rude to double-look at someone passing by?

Asked by Tink (8668points) June 25th, 2009 from iPhone

I was at the mall and I saw a guy pass by and I looked at him two times. I wasn’t checking him out or anything, it was just brought up to my attention.

And to clarify, he wasn’t doing anything wierd or bad, he just passed by me and I forgot to mention he gave me the look

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icehky06's avatar

It depends it there weird or not. Either way I look at everyone more then twice.

ABoyNamedBoobs03's avatar

meh, when a dusky hues lady satin walks by it’s almost rude not to look again….

cak's avatar

I guess it just depends on how you looked at him. People look at other people, all the time. A double take can imply that someone is checking a person out, or there is something weird going on. did he have a booger hanging out of his nose? ;~)

DarkScribe's avatar

Is this a “Cleavage” question? Man boobs?

In some places it can initiate some pretty serious physical violence.

Tink's avatar

@cak – Ok, he passed in front of me and I gave me the look. Idk why, my bf was there too. no he didn’t have a booger

icehky06's avatar

@DarkScribe I laughed out loud when I read that, I think It made my night

Tink's avatar

@DarkScribe – Cleavage?

pats04fan's avatar

Uhh depends on your face on the second look. Your first look is always just a look. the second however, is you realizing what your looking at. you can have a face the looks grossed out, which would tick someone off, or a “wow” look which would almost always flatter someone

DarkScribe's avatar

My grandmother used to be somewhat disparaging of overweight women. She would say “This woman had a backside so big that I had to look twice to see it all”.

pats04fan's avatar

oh wow that is a good one… haha

Tink's avatar

Well the second was mostly a wtf? and a wow

cak's avatar

@Tink1113 – Do we need to get you a set of blinders, so you can’t give the second look? :)

I’m glad he didn’t have a booger. I swear, I am the booger police. I do tell people when they need to wipe their nose!

pats04fan's avatar

Where sunglasses so you can take as many looks as you want.

Tink's avatar

@cak -I think you do :)
My friend is just like you with the booger thing.
@pats04fan -Hehe maybe I will
but I have no need to look for now

eponymoushipster's avatar

just yell really loud “I’M 14!”. i guarantee he’ll stop looking.

Tink's avatar

He didn’t look much older

eponymoushipster's avatar

@Tink1113 oh, well. tell him he’s a kid and he should think girls have cooties or something.

eponymoushipster's avatar

@Tink1113 trust me, i know. but he should think you do at 14.

whatthefluther's avatar

@cak is correct (as usual)...it depends on what your look conveyed on the second take. A first casual glance is normally innocent…you might be talking to someone or be thinking about something and faces wont usually register with you. If they do (and note that it is a delayed reaction due to your preoccupation), its because something “remarkable” struck you enough to take a second look. That could be because you found them attractive or odd, or it could be a reaction to the look they gave you.

Tink's avatar

@whatthefluther -I couldn’t really look because my boyfriend was with me and he noticed too.
@eponymoushipster – Funny how guys mind thinks

cak's avatar

Wow! WTF said I was correct! I must share that news with my family. :) They think I’m too crazy to be correct about things, lately!

IBERnineD's avatar

I don’t think it is weird at all. I was at Starbucks today and saw a guy who looked EXACTLY like Taye Diggs. I did a double take, tried to secretly take a picture of him, and then texted all my friends…that is weird.

whatthefluther's avatar

@Tink1113…Well, maybe its ok. I mean, you guys didn’t accidentally kiss or intentionally play Twister, or anything, right? And if you did play Twister, there was no clothes removal, right?

Tink's avatar

@whattheflutherNot with the dude from the mall if that’s what you mean ;)

whatthefluther's avatar

@cak…Well, shame on them! Is it just the kids (probably impossible to convince Mom is right) or your man, as well (we may be able to knock some sense into him…he seems like a wonderful guy that might just be a bit confused)?

whatthefluther's avatar

@Tink1113….Well then, all is good. In time, you’ll learn to “steal a glance” so as to avoid recognition. Stealing a glance is important because you don’t always want to indicate your level of interest to the other party…at least, maybe not right away. Now you are not to do that if you are in a committed relationship. I trust at 14 you are not in a committed relationship with this boyfriend of yours (but as fast as kids seem to grow up nowadays, I could be wrong). But don’t worry…all this “stuff” will work its way out for you in the next couple of years.

Tink's avatar

@whatthefluther – Words of a very wise man…
And thanks for all your great advice : )

cak's avatar

@WTF—To be completely upfront on the information, I had foot surgery on Tuesday. I’ve been pretty loopy this week, and have been talking to people that aren’t here. (yep…I went off the deep end!) They declared me as a crazy loopy woman, this week. They as in – my husband, children, mother, sister, best friends….wait…I don’t think anyone sided with me! GRR!

Tink's avatar

@cak – Awwww

cookieman's avatar

@IBERnineD: Be thankful my wife wasn’t with you. She loves Taye Diggs and surely would have got you both arrested.

SirBailey's avatar

I don’t think the double take is something someone can control. It’s more of a “knee jerk” reaction. Besides, haven’t you sometimes done a double take because, at first, you thought it was a person you knew?

IBERnineD's avatar

@cprevite Six of my friends would have been locked up too. Your wife be in good company!

wundayatta's avatar

It may be rude, in the sense that it might make the person uncomfortable. On the other hand, it might give them a thrill, too. In any case, it’s usually not something you can control. Your bf might tease you about it, or they might sulk about it. Either reaction tells you something about them and your relationship with them. What can you do?

irocktheworld's avatar

lol! i stare at people all the time for no reason..=P

Clair's avatar

Sometimes I have to take a double take on things. No big deal to me. Don’t find it odd and neither do people around me. At least I don’t think so.
I was thinking, “Who the hell is Taye Diggs?” I googled it..Oh my god I love Taye Diggs!” You should have drugged his latte @IBERnineD!

irocktheworld's avatar

double look yeah

once look NNNNNNNNNNNNNOOOOO:)

galileogirl's avatar

If your SO is pointing out how you are looking at other people you might want to ask yourself why s/he is watching YOU so closely. It could be there is unwarranted jealously or distrust on their part.

It is perfectly normal as one is walking through a mall or down a city street to be interested in one’s surroundings. It is not normal to be focusing on what or whom your companion is looking at.

Tink's avatar

Oh yeah he is jelous and he says it’s because he loves me

IBERnineD's avatar

@Clair Damn! Hindsight is 20/20 :(

melover139's avatar

Its weired because When I always see a car come by I always loook at them and Its weired

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

Naw, I double-look at attractive people all the time. Sometimes I’ll follow them for a ways, but covertly of course. I’ve seen how the cops tail people in the movies, and picked up some pointers. :-P

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