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Can you answer this quote: When you can't be with the one you love, will you stay with the one that loves you?

Asked by Tink (8668points) June 28th, 2009 from iPhone

Yes, I know I stole this from somewhere

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Grisaille's avatar

Nah. Just ain’t the same.

‘sides, I don’t like leading people on like that. If you love me and I don’t love you, why make it worse for ya?

Tink's avatar

Dude you totally made me feel better :.(

elijah's avatar

It’s actually “if you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with”. I might be wrong but that’s the only way I have heard it.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

Some hippie song said, “If you can’t be with the one you love then love the one you’re with” and so many people spend years trying to make this real but… oh yeah, now I remember- they wake up and realize mortal time is finite and go get them some cake.

Tink's avatar

@hungryhungryhortence—I know what you mean, it just can’t happen

DeanV's avatar

That would be this song…

Tink's avatar

@dverhey Can you just tell me the name of the song ‘cause my iPod “doesn’t support that video”

elijah's avatar

I think it happens every day. You love someone more than anything but he dumps you. You meet a new guy, you develop feelings maybe even love, but you will never be with the one you really loved the most.

Tink's avatar

@elijah Wow, it’s like you know my story…

Grisaille's avatar

You guys are depressing me; quit makin’ me reflect on my miserable life.

* Goes to happier threads *

Tink's avatar

I wish I could do that

DeanV's avatar

@Tink1113 Love The One You’re With – Crosby, Stills, and Nash

Tink's avatar

Thanks : )

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

All too often people take lovers not because they have a vested interest in the person or a relationship, but for self gratification.

Tink's avatar

That song just made me sadder…

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

It’s a strength to be able to live without sexual gratification.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

so there’s this girl on a hill
with a kite strapped to her back
she’s crying ‘come on hurry blow
hurry, pick me up and throw me skywards’
she’s got a prayer in her mouth
and she’s done all of the math
she’s got a feather for a heart but
it still doesn’t guarantee her

not everything you run to wants you
and not everything you love will love you…

elijah's avatar

^ I read that on fluther before… Is it a poem or a song? I can’t remember. I believe a song.

TheWatcher's avatar

No it can’t be. Even if you go to love the one who loves you, your only lying to yourself. Its the term one is better then nothing. If you can’t be with the one you love, you go to the person who loves you as a last resort. There’s no love there. Becuz deep down you’ll still have some feelings for the other person whom you loved.

gailcalled's avatar

There’s a famous song from the Broadway Musical, Finian’s Rainbow (1947). It was the first Broadway show I had ever seen. “When I’m Not near the Girl I Love, I Love the Girl I’m Near.” Music by Burton Lane and lyrics by E.Y. Harburg.

http://www.stlyrics.com/lyrics/finiansrainbow/whenimnotnearthegirlilove.htm

First verse: I couldn’t find the music…sorry.

Oh my heart is beating wildly
And it’s all because you’re here.
When I’m not near the girl I love,
I love the girl I’m near.
Ev’ry femme that flutters by me
Is a flame that must be fanned.
When I can’t fondle the hand I’m fond of,
I fondle the hand at hand.
My heart’s in a pickle,
It’s constantly fickle
And not too partickle, I fear.
When I’m not near the girl I love,
I love the girl I’m near.

cyn's avatar

oh sorry @Tink1113 it happens to everyone…but if you can’t be with the person you love why bother.. I mean we’re still young..there’s more to life than just “that person”

PandoraBoxx's avatar

@elijah, It’s from the lyrics to “Just not Just” by Guggenheim Grotto

ABoyNamedBoobs03's avatar

So, would you rather be miserable alone, or miserable with someone in your living room? every instance is different.

Tink's avatar

@ABoyNamedBoobs03 -To tell you the truth I’d rather be alone, if I can’t be with the one I love, then I wouldn’t want to be with the one that loves me either because it is just leading the other person into something thats not ever gonna be ok

Jack79's avatar

I think it’s “if you can’t have the one you want, love the one you have” or something, innit? In any case my answer would be yes. To have someone that loves you is a great and rare blessing, and I’d do my best to live up to her expectations. Unfortunately it’s not always possible to feel attraction towards someone, so in many cases the effort would not be enough, but I’d at least give it my best shot.

Tink's avatar

I tried to but I can’t, I can’t tell the other person that I love them when I don’t mean it

hug_of_war's avatar

It’s not fair to the other person and it’s not fair to yourself.

cookieman's avatar

By Stephen Stills of Crosby, Stills and Nash:

Love the One You’re With

If you’re down and confused, and you don’t remember who you’re talkin’ to. Concentration slip away, ‘cause your baby is so far away.

Well there’s a rose in the fisted glove and the eagle flies with the dove, and if you can’t be with the one you love, honey, love the one you’re with, love the one you’re with, love the one you’re with, love the one you’re with.

Don’t be angry, don’t be sad, and don’t sit cryin’ over good times you’ve had. There’s a girl right next to you, and she’s just waitin’ for something to do.

And there’s a rose in the fisted glove and the eagle flies with the dove, and if you can’t be with the one you love, honey, love the one you’re with, love the one you’re with, love the one you’re with, love the one you’re with.

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Turn your heartache right into joy, she’s a girl, and you’re a boy. Well get it together, make it real nice,
You ain’t gonna need anymore advice.

And there’s a rose in the fisted glove and the eagle flies with the dove, and if you can’t be with the one you love, honey, love the one you’re with, love the one you’re with, love the one you’re with, love the one you’re with.

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Hambayuti's avatar

I would stay with the one who loves me. I believe I would learn to love the person back.

shipwrecks's avatar

Oh @Tink1113 ! You poor thing. Something similar happened to me, and it’s just horrible, I know. But know that you will get over your lost love, and you will be happy alone. After that, when you least expect it, you will be going along, fine and independent and on your own, when suddenly, the perfect one for you will walk into your life out of nowhere.

But remember – you have to concentrate on happiness, so that the perfect one will find you… you want to advertise the happy, wonderful you, not the sad, depressed version.

hugs <3

Tink's avatar

@shipwrecks Awwww, thanks
: )

f4a's avatar

I thought before, you can love the person that loves you, when the one you love doesnt feel the same way as you do. Don’t you feel more irritated to that person who loves you? And keep on asking why doesn’t the other one love me as much as this one? So to answer the question, no. if you go with the other person, you are just trying to heal the wounds made by the one you loved. the heart wants what the heart wants. And in this scenario, it doesnt get what it wants.
But time is a factor. you’ll love someone else but not the same way as you love the first one.

JustLeDouxIt's avatar

hahaha I’m there now. I dated a guy for a while and we broke up on mutual grounds. I started dating another guy after that and did honestly love him. I’m still with him but the more time we spend together, the more I realize I love the first guy and not the guy I’m with now. :S I would strongly urge you to be alone instead of being with someone who has feelings for you that you can’t return. It’s a lose-lose situation.

Tink's avatar

@JustLeDouxIt – Another person with my pain :( Yup I decided it’s better to be alone For now

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