Would you be vexed about this if you were me?

Please don’t mod my question. I’m not sure how to ask this.

This might be a little lengthy; just pretend I’m dalepetrie. :)

My wife’s mother asked my wife (and only my wife) if she wanted to go on vacation with her this summer. She said that my wife could pick anywhere she wanted to go. My wife’s mother also said that she knows that the two of us hate to be apart, so if it was an issue, then they didn’t have to go.

Issues to consider:

My wife and I are skipping a big vacation this year because we are saving for Europe next year, and because I have been at my job for less than a year and I do not want to take a big chunk of time off. (I’m saving that for 2010.)

My wife and her mom and sis used to go on vacation every year together, from the time my wife was age 8 until the age of 20, but since we married, which was 8 years ago, they have not taken any trips together. Mom usually takes vacations with sis, but sis has a new job. So, mom and my wife would be the only two on this trip.

Mom and my wife have been to every state together, except for Alaska, and this trip would complete the 50 states.

My wife is a bit nervous about spending so much time alone with her mom, and she really doesn’t want to leave me, but she wants to please her mother, and hey, free trip to Alaska.

So…I have ambivalent feelings about all this. I want my wife to go, I want her to finish off her tour of America with her mom, and she really deserves a break from all of her hard work (which sometimes includes me) but I feel that the way this whole trip was offered put me in an awkward position. What if there were circumstances in which it would be better for my wife not to go, or if I needed her for some reason or another? What if my wife didn’t want to go? By offering the trip with the disclaimer that it’s okay if you do not want to go because of tinyfaery puts me and my wife in an awkward position. And my wife has weird mom issues. Well, mom or not, she is a people pleaser, and when it comes to mom, pleasing her is very important to my wife.

Vexed is truly the best way to describe what I am feeling. I’m irritated, jealous, speculative, and a bit nervous about the whole thing. And to top it off, I was never invited. And honestly, being away from my wife for such a long period of time is going to be horrible. I can’t function without her.

Help me make sense of this. How would you feel if you were me (using the impression(s) that you might have of me and the bit of info I have provided you)? How would personally react? I just need some one to help explain what I feel, how I feel, and why I feel it.