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LanceVance's avatar

I received a flirt from a guy on Facebook. Is he gay or just wants to be friends with me?

Asked by LanceVance (645points) January 5th, 2008

There’s this application Meet New People, but the only thing you can choose is the flirt button and there are several flirts, from “Hi, I’m interested” to “You’re way to cute to poke”. I received the “Hi, I’m interested” from him. Now I’m not pretty sure what the term flirt actually means. And btw, I have nothing against homosexuals.

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jdvanderk's avatar

“not pretty sure”?

you can look on his profile and see if he’s indicated his orientation.

But really, if you’re this worried about maybe possibly leading on someone who you are not pretty sure is gay (not that there’s anything wrong with that), maybe you should ask him before you friend him.

LanceVance's avatar

Ye, see, that’s the thing, viewing his profile is not possible unless I befriend with him. Well, I’m gonna try, see what’s gonna happen. And thanks for the advice.

artemisdivine's avatar

Flirting comes from the old French word “fleurter”, meaning “to flower”.

Flirting is about fun, connecting and getting to know people.
Flirting is about giving compliments and making people happy.
Flirting is looking at people and smiling with your eyes.
Flirting is making yourself so attractive that people can’t resist you.
Flirting is the art of being able to break down people’s barriers and make contact.
Flirting is the art of being able to keep a conversation going after “Hello”.
Flirting is a harmless, entertaining diversion that you can choose to take further if you wish.


What is the Flirtable Facebook Application?
Flirtable allows Facebook users to find people to flirt with online and off. The app works a lot like Hot or Not. You type in the age and sex of the type of person you’re looking for and Flirtable will present you with a stream of photos of potential flirters. You can either skip the person if you’re not interested or “Flirt” with them if you are interested.

If the person you flirt with flirts back (meaning they’re interested too) you can start sending messages to them or sending them gifts. Flirtable is the non-confrontational way to tell someone you’re interested in them.

An interesting feature in Flirtable is that they rank people on their flirtability. You start out as a “Starter Flirt.” As you flirt more and more, your ranking goes up. The app produces a list of the “Most Flirtable” Facebook users.


When someone pokes you on Facebook does it mean they fancy you?
Yes. Poking someone is an online-tribal way of flirting. The sequence usually goes poke – poke back – wall message – wall reply – silence – poke – poke back – babies


Flirting online.
Do it safely!
Meaning do so if you wish yet be cautious who you are flirting with.
Many women have set themselves up for stalking and rape.
Be playful, if you are a woman men like you a little coy. They love the challenge of love play.(Breaking down your inhibitions)

Make the person feel they are special.


New Years Resolution: that Jokey Facebook way

What is the rule about a happy new year to everyone on Facebook? Is it like a mass mobile text and seen as slack and not personal or is it OK in that jokey Facebook way?


The Zen of Poke: A Facebook Story

“When we created the poke, we thought it would be cool to have a feature without any specific purpose…” – Facebook Help Topic

A poke could mean any of the following:

hey there
how are you doing?
i’m too busy to write you an email or call, but i’m thinking about you
holy crap, did you hear the Red Sox won the ALCS?
just sent you an email; check it out
hey let’s go have a beer
did you finish that project yet?
hey, why haven’t you written me an email / wall post lately?
i just wrote on your wall, check it out
we’re in a poke war, and no way i’m blinking motherfucker.. back atcha!
gee, you’re cute
i don’t really care about you that much, but i’m poking you anyway to make you think i do
hey respond to my email dammit
i don’t know who you are, but you’re cute
just broke up with my ex, looking for a one-night stand/rebound
let’s have sex
you’re way outta my league & i have no chance of having sex with you, but maybe you’ll poke me back anyway
yo, what up?


flirting IRL goes like this…

The Body Language of Flirting
Researches have found that there is a direct relation between the states of feeling that we experience and between our gestures. So if you are feeling happy your gestures will take a form that is different than the form it will take if you were feeling sad. So if you managed to know the gesture associated with a certain emotional state you will be able to detect the presence of this emotional state. The same goes for flirting because it’s just an emotional state, if you knew the gestures and the body language changes associated with the state of flirting you will easily know if someone is trying to flirt with you.


want to talk about the concept of “flirting“, and why it’s so important that you understand exactly what it is and how to do it with women.

To begin with, women know what flirting is and they respond very differently to flirting communication than they do to typical social communication. If you understand flirting and sexual tension, you can begin conversations with women and have them instantly feeling attraction for you. If you don’t understand how flirting and sexual tension work, then you’re either going to have to become famous or make a lot of money to be successful with women.


jrpowell's avatar

Can’t you just ignore it.. Pretend like you never got the message. The Internet gets a lot easier when you learn to ignore things.

LanceVance's avatar

Thanks, artemisdivine, that’s something I was looking for. johnpowell, maybe you misunderstood me. I would like to be friends with him [basically I’d like to get to know much more people on the internet], I’m just not sure what he expects.

gailcalled's avatar

@artemis: fleurir means “to blossom” or “to come into bloom;” viz; une jeune fille en fleur. To flirt is simply flirter, borrowed from English. Fleurter is a new word, franglais or argot. And remember the adage from Kurt Vonnegut, “If I had had more time, I would have made it shorter. I, personally, get overwhelmed with really long texts. I am glad that LV didn’t.

qwertqwert3's avatar

No respectable straight dude i know would flirt with another guy.

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