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marinelife's avatar

Can you recommend some good videos that we may have overlooked?

Asked by marinelife (61729points) July 19th, 2009

We don’t go to the movies a lot.

We also are not regular about renting movies so we are likely to have missed a lot of things.

We have to compromise, because we have opposite needs for films. I am very empathic and want movies to entertain me and distract me from the woes of the world. He uses movies for catharsis.

We both like sci fi, adventure if not too violent, romantic comedy.

I rule out horror, crime movies, and painful endings. He rules out animation (usually).

Recently, we both really enjoyed Miss Pettigrew Lives for a Day.


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janbb's avatar

Shirley Valentine
Mrs. Palfrey at the Claremeont
State of Play
Notting Hill
Four Weddings and a Funeral
Michael Clayton – good George Cloney thriller, not very violent

If you want more, I can check my Netflix queue and give you some other titles.

janbb's avatar

Oh – and Cape of Good Hope – A lovely South African movie with dogs in it.

tinyfaery's avatar


I can’t think of anything lighthearted. Have you seen Love Actually? Maybe Billy Elliot or The Hitchhickers’s Guide…

janbb's avatar

The Full Monty
Calendar Girls are two other English comedies that are lots of fun.

Achilles's avatar

Troy! haha

But a good one that wasn’t that advertised was The Island, very creative yet has action to keep you interested!

casheroo's avatar

Recent movies I’ve watched (we rent frequently, because it’s rare that we go out to the movies
New in Town: romantic comedy, Renee Zellweger is in it. Corny but somewhat cute.
Yes Man: funny. Jim Carrey movie
Run Fatboy Run: Love this movie!
Bride Wars. I actually really liked this, it’s a girly comedy, but my husband liked it.

I haven’t watched it yet, but still want to watch Definitely, Maybe.
I can’t think of any sci-fi movies I’ve seen that weren’t violent. Push was good, but pretty violent.

drhellno's avatar

If you’re looking for a bridge to animated movies, that guys who don’t like animated movies might like, try Babe. It’s surprisingly good, and lighthearted.

I’m the wrong guy for romantic comedies, but I’ll admit to liking ‘Just Friends’ w/ Ryan Reynolds and Amy Smart. It’s pretty funny.

The Abyss is a great, not-to-violent, sci-fi, semi romance movie. Very strong.

Can’t Hardly Wait is more of a teen movie, but also good.

Raising Arizona is a strange and funny movie, but the Coen Bros. aren’t for everyone.

Amelie is a perfect movie for what you’re talking about, and don’t let the subtitles scare you away.

fireinthepriory's avatar

Little Miss Sunshine
Once (maybe qualifies as a painful ending? But it’s so beautiful, and does end with hope.)
Forgetting Sarah Marshall (hysterical romantic comedy)
Serenity (And if you’re feeling ambitious, watch the TV show Firefly first, you won’t regret it if you like sci-fi!)
And a second for Love Actually and The Full Monty!

lercio's avatar

as a man my favorite rom-com (from very a short list) is Truly Madly Deeply but that’s going back to the 80’s.
I also love Coen Bros films, I think their most accessable film is O Brother Where Art Thou which I love.
A second for Ameli and Juno.

janbb's avatar

O Brother Where Art Thou is one of my favorites too! Heartily recommend it.

Two fun lgiht romantic comedy/adventures are Romancing the Stone and Seven Days/Six Nights with Anne Heche and Harrison Ford.

marinelife's avatar

@janbb Thanks for so many great suggestions. I have not seen O Brother Where Art Thou.

@drhellno We both loved Amelie.

Bri_L's avatar

I so have a list. I have to gather it up for you.

The first Few
Death at a Funeral
Waking Ned Devine
Searching For Bobby Fisher

Makstarn's avatar

Hugh Jackman made a really neat movie which is like a philosophical flick with a strong sci-fi tone to it—it’s called The Fountain. We enjoyed it immensely.

We also stumbled across a very cool futuristic movie called The Immortal we’ve watched several times.

cyndyh's avatar

I usually don’t like the romantic stuff, but I thought P.S. I Love You was so much better than I expected.

Away We Go was very good. You’ll have to wait a little while for that one, though.

If you liked Little Miss Sunshine you’ll like Sunshine Cleaners, too.

Have you seen The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind?

sandystrachan's avatar

Tron , Ghostbusters , Transformers Robots in Disguise , Blues brothers , Righteous kill, Lost boys, Vantage point, Run fatboy run .

PandoraBoxx's avatar

This is a bit of an oldie, but is really charming- “A New Leaf” with Walter Matthau and Elaine May. Walter Matthau plays an aging playboy who’s run through all of his inheritance, and decides to marry for money. Elaine May is a dingy botanist who he marries.

Grisaille's avatar

@fireinthepriory Lurve for Serenity/Firefly. I was just about so suggest that, but you beat me to it.

@Makstarn The Fountain was fantastic. @Marina, listen to this guy!

Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind was fantastic as well. These are all great suggestions.

Based on what information you’ve given me, I’d go for (and I imagine you’ve at least heard if not seen many of these films. I’ll provide links to the trailers for ya.):

Dan in Real Life

Romantic comedy, though not what most people expect. Steve Carell plays a widower with three daughters. Everyone can relate to something in this film. Sweet, touching, and all that good stuff. The trailer isn’t exactly the greatest representation of the film itself, but you can get a good gist of what it’s about by watching it.

Stranger than Fiction

Funny, strange, and deeply rewarding. It’s part feel-good, part mind-fuck. Will Ferrell gives an amazing performance of a man who wakes up and hears every aspect of his life is being narrated by an omnipotent voice. He’s off to find the author of his life in an attempt to change the ending. (Another crappy trailer. I hate when they make trailers that clash with the actual tone of the film.)

Synecdoche, New York

Really, you can’t go wrong with Charlie Kaufman. An old man tries desperately to find reason and purpose in his life. He purchases a seemingly-infinite-in-space warehouse and builds New York City in it. He hires actors in an attempt to create the largest play known to man. As the years pass, the protagonist (played by Philip Seymour Hoffman) begins starts to lose track of what’s reality and what isn’t, and his “mock city” – though inhabited by actors – spirals out of control.


Not available on DVD yet, but will be in a few days. It’s violent, yes, but I highly recommend it. The film (based on the world-renowned graphic novel) poses the question: What if superheroes really did exist? Taking place in the mid-80s, the Vietnam War was won easily, America and the Soviet Union are on the brink of all-out nuclear war and American society is decaying. Social, political and economic references abound. This is a absolute must-see, in my opinion. It’s both deeply personal yet broad enough to get a sense of the grim, corrupt world. If there was ever a trailer that is misleading, it’s this one. It’s very intelligent, though the slow-motion and silly costumes may deter one from seeing the film. Don’t.

Iron Man

Robert Downey, Jr. plays Tony Stark, on his way to become the titular character, Iron Man. Stark is the son of a late, successful weapons developer. After a weapon presentation in Iraq, his convoy is attacked and witnesses the young men and women killed before his eyes. Captured and forced to create a missile by a radical terrorist group, Stark instead builds a rudimentary suit of armor and busts free from the caves. Realizing that it was his work that cost those young soldiers’ lives, a shaken Stark vows to change his company’s ways. I don’t want to spoil too much of the plot, but it’s funny, serious and great action flick, with no graphic violence. Chock full o’ fantastic actors; RDJ is undeniably cool in the role. Trailer is fitting.

The Dark Knight

Okay, last comic book-based movie. One of the most successful films ever made, Cristian Bale plays Bruce Wayne… wait, hasn’t everyone in the world seen this movie? GO WATCH IT. Much has been said about how insanely well-done this movie is, and I’m sure I could go off in a tangent about it as well. All you need to know (if you have been living under a rock and don’t know this already) is that Heath Ledger plays a wondrous psychopath. This movie is, through and through, a crime drama with incredibly pacing. Most of all, it’s believable, which is a huge step forward from the campy comic-book movies of yesteryear.


This is another movie that I would be surprised to find out you might have missed. This falls under animation, so it may take some pushing on your part to get your husband to watch it – I’d make damn sure you do so, as this is a great film. Pixar are masters of their craft. The human population has deserted Earth and now lives amongst the stars on a generation ship. Waste allocation robot Wall-E is the last active robot – all others have broken down. For 700 years, the tiny robot has gone about doing the job he was built to do, and within that time, he’s grown sentience. Innocent and naturally curious in nature, Wall-E’s only companion is his myriad of useless junk he’s collected and a very loyal cockroach. Spending his days collecting trash and compacting it to compressed cubes, his nights are lonely, usually with him gazing at the stars overhead in fascination and longing. The first 30 minutes of the film are spent on building up the sense of the world Wall-E lives in and how lonely an existence being the last creature on Earth really is. One day, a sleek, futuristic robot lands on the planet in search of something. Again, I’ll keep this spoiler-free, but this film is an amazing portrayal of innocence, the evils of consumerism in an increasingly lazy society and life starting anew. What’s amazing to me is that throughout the entire first half of the film, you connect to the characters at such a level without a single word being spoken. A beautiful film, for all ages.

Gran Torino

Clint Eastwood again shows us why he is the man (he produced, directed and starred in the film). Really, the guy could probably kick your ass if he so much as winked in your direction. I’m going to cheat a bit and take a part of the plot synopsis from Wikipedia: “Walt Kowalski is a retired Polish American Ford factory worker and Korean War veteran. He lives with his golden Labrador Retriever, Daisy, in a Highland Park, Michigan neighborhood, formerly populated by working-class white families, now dominated by poor Asian immigrants and infested with gang violence. The movie begins with Walt attending his wife’s funeral, bristling at the shallow eulogy of young Father Janovich, and his own sons, Mitch and Steve, with their self-absorbed families. Walt’s poor relationship with his family and his own deteriorating health are shown at various points throughout the film.”

If there was ever a film that started on one note and ended on completely different one, it would be Gran Torino. Walt is a grumpy old man, whom we find in the opening portion of the movie to be rather racist (which leads to a great deal of chuckles – Eastwood plays this character wonderfully, without a doubt tapping into his own, real life emotional state). Upset at the world, he is, in fact, hurt and alone. He’s witnessed tragedy throughout his life, and, if anything, needs a companion who understands him more than anything else. Developing a close relationship with the young Asian family next door, we find Walt grow throughout the film. The movie tugs at your heart at times, makes you guffaw at others. What starts as a direct visual representation of how many suburbs in America are becoming increasingly violent and gang-related ends with the aging protagonist accepting life. Masterful, in every way – the parallels it provides the audience is fascinating, to say the least. Also called, _Get Off My Lawn: The Movie

And, that’s it. This is too long as it is :P

Enjoy cinematography at it’s best!

Bri_L's avatar

@Grisaille – I second Gran Torino. I just watched it and found it very engaging.

Aethelwine's avatar

If you need a good laugh, I suggest Best in Show. It’s in my top 5 of all time favorite movies.

@drhellno I love your list of movies! Welcome to Fluther.

marinelife's avatar

@fireinthepriory I was a huge fan of Firefly and crushed when it ended, and I loved Serenity. There is a cluster of Firefly/Serenity junkies on Fluther.

fireinthepriory's avatar

@Marina Further confirmation that flutherites are awesome!

La_chica_gomela's avatar

Amelie, Chocolat, Luna de Avelleneda. (2 French and 1 Argentine, respectively). I apologize if they’re repeats, there have been a lot of answers already.

La_chica_gomela's avatar

Oh, and Slumdog Millionaire. It actually lived up to the hype.

rooeytoo's avatar

Yeah, I liked Slumdog, it was good. Also Australia, it is sort of a melodrama, but intriguing and there is Nicole for the guys and Hugh for the women, but best of all is the scenery, my back yard and it is sooooooooooo beautiful. Most everyone I know enjoyed it. The little aboriginal boy is about the cutest little kid you have ever seen and David Gulpilil is good in his eerie, ghostly appearances here and there.

I think it is interesting that most everyone is recommending older movies, not entirely but seems like more old than new.

marinelife's avatar

Thanks to all. I wrote down every title we had not seen. We are now working through the list.

tinyfaery's avatar

I just saw August Rush. I thought it might be a good addition to the list. Stupid movie made me cry. Tears of happiness, of course.

marinelife's avatar

OK, it was our movie week so we got through quite a few. We saw Deja Vu with Denzel Washington. Great cast, but the ending while at least happy seemed a bit of a cop-out. Worth watching though.

The Island was fun, but required total suspension of disbelief that the sheltered clone could have managed so well in the world.

Bride Wars took us two tries. It got much better at the end. I was not sure they could redeem Kate Hudson’s character sufficiently to make her likable, but they did. Nice twist too.

We did thoroughly enjoy 27 Dresses, much more than I might have guessed.

We also liked Definitely, Maybe mostly because of the deft acting and Amanda Breslin.

One we found on our own that both of us really enjoyed was Bottle Shock. Alan Rickman (I love him in anything) and the best acting turn I have ever seen from Bill Pullman.

filmfann's avatar

Nick and Nora’s Infinite Playlist
Knocked Up
Rocketeer if you haven’t seen it

Adagio's avatar

Waking Ned Devine Irish
Seducing Doctor Lewis French-Canadian
Mrs Henderson Presents British
Mr Hulot’s Holiday French
Sione’s wedding NZ
The Italian Job British (1960s original version)
The Lady Killers British (original version with Alec Guinness)
Keeping Mum British

These are all comedies. If you would like another genre, you only have to ask away!

janbb's avatar

@Adagio Good list! I thought I was the only person in the world who’s seen Seducing Dr. Lewis. That was a very charming comedy.

Grisaille's avatar

@filmfann I actually just got to catch Nick and Norah’s.

Fantastic little film, felt rather indie. I liked it a lot.

Bri_L's avatar

@Adagio – you have great taste!

Adagio's avatar

@Bri_L Of course!

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