My girlfriend is pregnant...now what?

Wait nine months and then go to the hospital.

Now you either man up or man down. Far too many these days take the second option.Congrats!

Congrats !

Do you truly love her and respect her and can afford to raise a family right now? If so marry her so she knows you are by her side for the long haul. This way she will feel secure and be a better mother to your child.

No matter what you decide to do remember that parenting means your world needs to focus on your child. You will find that it can be the most awesome job in the whole world and the most vexing. But no matter what it is worth it!

Take care of business and do the right thing whether it is marrying your girlfriend or just taking care of the baby.

hmm, I feel like you should be telling us that…who knows now what? congratulations or maybe not depending on whether you were planning on it…don’t make this decision lightly…now life isn’t about only you and your girlfriend

Man up.

You have just been put in the position to make the biggest mistake of your life. Don’t.

Be there for your baby.

@Bri_L Great Answer (10*) if I could

Grab a big spoon and get to work.

oh and get this toy (best toy ever)
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Be very supportive and helpful for your girlfriend. Make sure you have a plan of action about how to prepare for a baby coming into your life! Congrats!

I’m 100,000% sure I’m going to marry and stay with her and take care of the baby. It’s what I’ve always wanted. I’m just worried about her. She seems really scared and upset. We’re both very young but I’m happy about it. I can’t wait. I have a decent job and we’re moving in together next month. I didn’t plan on it but I never would have done what I did if I wasn’t ready for this. I’ve already told my mom (my dad isn’t around). She was pretty cool with it and said she would help me out. Thanks for the GA’s. So how do I plan for a baby??

Woo! Congrats! Make sure you are responsible for raising it as you were half responsible for making it!

@qualitycontrol in that case CONGRATS and Lurve to the new family!

Consult the book written by Dr. Spock (not the Vulcan) called “The Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care”.

And a very big CONGRATULATIONS on becoming a father and starting a family!

What to Expect When You Are Expecting- that book was our bedside book. It really helps take the fear out of the changes she will be undergoing.

well of course she’s scared and upset – maybe her life plans didn’t include a baby this soon and everyone in their right mind at least has an idea that a baby is a pretty big deal, financially, physically and emotionally – I think rather than ‘planning for a baby’ right now, you should be supporting your pregnant partner by focusing on her, not on the baby…don’t overwhelm her…make an appointment to go to a doctor…one of the most important things to do is to find a physician that will LISTEN to her and start her on folic acid supplements and some prenatal vitamins…start cooking her nice meals and make home made juices…show her that you will stand by her, she’s the not an incubator, she is a person and it WILL be harder on her than on you

You ask how to prepare for a baby:

Find a Lamaze class and attend it with your GF. Whether she opts for natural childbirth or not, the class will give you a lot of tips about preparing for birth as well as how to care for a young baby.

Start a savings account and try to set aside some money in it every payday. Babies are more expensive than you expect, what with all those diapers and then clothes and school supplies, and eventually they need to go to college or trade school, or will need help starting their own lives.

As your GF gets used to the idea, take her to get things for the baby. You don’t have to do this immediately because you have the rest of the nine months to do it, but it will help her believe in your committment to her and to the baby.

Good luck to both of you.

I agree with @Darwin
take baby-preparation classes
it was amazing both times, for me

Get some pie. Probably apple.

I’ve never been pregnant, but I think it’s a bit different for a woman. I mean she has this thing growing inside her, and on some level you can’t understand that. So calm yourself down, and talk to her. Let her tell you why she’s scared, what she’s thinking, what she’s going through. You’ll have the rest of your lives to make it about the child, right now you need to take care of her.

Start putting whatever money you can in a 529 plan.

Congratulations!

Now you have an abortion.

@boots Wow, really? Really?

@peyton_farquhar no

CONGRATULATIONS! HOW EXCITING!
I wish I could give you real ones!

pray that it’s black.~

Congrats! I second the “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” book. Very informative about all stages of pregnancy, and just being knowledgeable helps to ease some fears. In the short term, ice cream sundaes may be in order!

Change the way you live starting now.
Congratulations and good luck.

Get a job if you don’t have one, bend over backwards to be nice to your girlfriend when she becomes over emotional from the pregnancy hormones, and enjoy it!

I wish you had given us your ages, although if you were both old enough to have sex, then you were well aware of what the circumstances could be. You sound as if you want to do the right thing for the 3 of you and that’s admirable. qualitycontrol, remember how you felt when your sperm donor wasn’t there for you and your mom. When we do grown up things when we are not ready to wear those shoes, well, you just made an innocent child who had no say whatsoever into the circumstances he/she is being born into. So I agree with naturalmineralwater and man up; right now, your “feelings” don’t count That should have been thought through BEFORE sex. boots answer was appalling IMO. And I don’t understand eponymoushipster’s answer in the least….please explain. Stay strong and there will be difficult days ahead which you CAN & WILL survive. Blessings to all of you.

So little other information: how old are you and your gf? Is this something you planned? Are you in school? Do you want to marry this gf who will be the mother of your child? Do you work? Who is going to support this baby? do you know anything about women and what it is like to go through a pregnancy, and do you know anything about babies? You have less than nine months to figure out what to do now—we certainly can’t tell you.

Unfortunately, those questions are irrelevant now that the girl is carrying the child. They have 3 options now; one is for an abortion; two is to give the child up for adoption. Our daughter is adopted; we were both 27 and she was exactly 1 month old. Third option of course was to take responsibility BEFORE they had sex; too late for that now. Adoption was not easy; raising a child is a huge awesome responsibilty for which we wouldn’t trade for anything Most new parents go into parenthood w/o any real idea what to do, but by the Grace of God we get through, mistakes & all. May the Good Lord protect them.

Make sure that you get the right kind of diapers; when my older brother was born, my dad came home with a pack of adult diapers.
Needless to say, they were a bit too big.

First of all, congratulations to both of you! It can be very overwhelming when a woman finds out she is pregnant – especially if it is a complete surprise – I’m sure her fears and nerves will calm down. Right now, just comfort her and reassure her that you are in this, together.

If she has health insurance, she needs to call them and see what kind of things they offer. Some plans (mine did) offer discounts on things – certain baby classes and child care classes, as well other extras; also, they provided a special group of on call nurses for pregnant women, so it was helpful in the middle of the night when I got completely freaked out by the smallest things. (nervous first time mom)

She needs to see an OB soon, and it’s important for you to be there, too. Understand the role of an OB/Gyn and understand that they are there to care for her, during the pregnancy – yes, also the baby, but their primary focus is the health of the mother-to-be. Find one that you both are comfortable with and can really talk to, it’s important when questions arise, that you are able to really ask what you need to ask.

Right now, she’s going to go through some hormonal times, she may be a bit moody – just take it a day at a time. If she has morning sickness, there are plenty of tricks to help with that, too. (Even pregnancy pops, that help soothe the stomach!) Small, frequent meals, throughout the day are best for her to consume. Getting a good balance of healthy foods and fluids are very important.

Congratulations, my best wishes to both of you!

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Congratulations to you both <3

eponymoushipster could you please explain what you meant in your previous posting “pray that it is black”? I don’t understand why you would make a comment like that? I am not being confrontational, I simply don’t understand. I just found Fluther tonight and I am trying to get the understanding of it. Thank you.

He means pray it’s black because then it won’t be mine haha. I’m 21 and my gf is 19…we are too young I know. I took care of my little brothers when they were born – changing diapers, feeding them, figure out to get them to fall asleep, teething, all that stuff and they were so cute! My mom always worked alot so my sister and I were 24 hour babysitters. I’m in school but I’m almost finished. I have a decent job with benefits/insurance. She works at the same place I do – that’s where we met. Thanks for the
comments! I rember those what to expect when you’re expecting, my mom had those. I think I’m still in shock lol

@qualitycontrol Age has nothing to do with it , you are in a lasting relationship , love each other plan to stay together for a long time and care for your children . Age means nothing some people older than you are still too young to have/look after children yet they manage by too young i mean emotionally, mentally . yadda yadda yadda not age
I know a couple they are 30 and have three kids ,yet they can’t look after there kids they have to rely on other people to do all the childcare cause they would rather not look after them .

thanks for that sandystrachan, I’m worried people will bash us for this…Although I know a lot of my friends who are just now having babies or already had them. I think we’ll be ok though because we’ll do it together and we love each other sooo much. I’m gonna be a daddy haha.

We had our first child when we were 21. Looking back, we were still babies ourselves at that age.

If you mean to stand by her, you are in for the most thankless, puked on, drooling, sleep deprived ride of your life.

When that baby looks up at you for the first time and smiles. . .it’s all worth it.

up until they look you right in the eye and tell you “no” the first time.

@qualitycontrol I think you wrote in other threads about wanting to get engaged to your girlfriend; in any case, you are clearly committed to her. One good thing about starting young is that you will be in your forties and have nearly grown up kids; it’s never easy to decide which chunk of 20 years you want to take out of your life for child raising!

You are ahead of the daddy game by having so much experience caring for babies. That’s just great. I imagine on of the best things you can do for your girlfriend right now is reassure her that you will be very involved with caring for the baby and that you will help her work on her personal goals so that she does not have to sacrifice them for the baby. Make sure you start getting good prenatal care; it really helps you to grow a healthy baby.

A book that I really found useful on baby and child care and that my daughter-in-law now is loving is “Your Baby and Child from Birth to Age Five” by Penelope Leach. It’s full of very reassuring, practical advice. You won’t need that for a while though; “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” is the one to get for now.

thanks janbb and blondesjon…GA to both of you ;) Yeah my GF made me promise that I wouldn’t quit school and I told her she can do everything she is doing now: going to school and working because our family will help us out and I’d always be there to take care of her and the little guy. I gotta get a ring now somehow lol. TY again and I hope to God it’s a boy!

@qualitycontrol And what’s wrong with a little girl?

@qualitycontrol Wouldn’t pin all your hopes on a boy , you will be soo disappointed if its a girl . Girls are cool apart from the screaming and squealing , all you should be worrying about is its a healthy baby and nothing goes wrong .

Good look to you both

because little girls grow up and date boys who only want one thing and I seriously don’t want to go to prison for killin a punk haha

Isn’t that exactly what you just did to someones daughter , did he kill you ?
All boys want to do is date girls and have sex , so its ok for them to do that ?

I know you had struggled with this situation a few months ago. We’ve talked quite a bit about your relationship. It looks like things have gotten better for you. That’s good. I have nothing more to add to the posts here. They’re good answers. (Well, MOST of them are. Forget Boots!) You have a good attitude about it. Especially if your family is behind you, you’ll make it. Congratulations on your little one. You’ll all be fine.

I was 20 when I became pregnant for the first time. When I told my boyfriend (my husband Blondesjon) that I was pregnant I was scared to death that he would leave me or be upset. What 20 year old would be ready for something like this? Blondesjon amazed me. He was happy, excited and very supportive. I’m sure he was also scared, but he rarely showed it. It was his support, and the support of our family, that got me through this very difficult time.

Your girlfriend is very lucky to have a loving boyfriend and family that are ready to help. The two of you will do just fine. You have received great advice from the many jellies before me. I might add two more things. Get lots of rest before babyqualitycontrol arrives because you’ll have many sleepless nights once he/she gets here and give your girl lots of back rubs! Congratulations and good luck!

edit: One more piece of advice. Don’t go overboard with buying tons of diapers in the newborn size. They grow out of that size very quickly!

@qualitycontrol got the joke.

@qualitycontrol Listen to jonsblond. Good advise there.

@qualitycontrol My story is similar at @jonsblond I was 20 when I became pregnant with my son. I’ll tell you, both me and my now husband freaked out. He flipped about money, and I was freaking out that he’d leave me so I thought I’d leave him first….yeah, it was a mess. It took until I was 7 months pregnant for us to get our shit together. He worked hard my entire pregnancy and still works hard to support me and our son. It is super scary, especially when you’re young and still trying to get on your own two feet. It can be done though.
Having a child makes your life completely different. You will probably struggle, you’ll probably doubt your relationship at points, but it’s working through those sleepless nights together that will make you a stronger couple. Just remember at the end of the day that you love her and your child. Everything will be alright.
Also, if either one of you is in school keep going!!! I wish I hadn’t stopped after my son was born, but I had a rough labor so I took the fall and spring semester off. Big mistake though because I’m still working on my degree.

Well, as long as you’ve decided to keep the baby, marry the mother and live together, the case is settled. It’s not going to be easy, not even with a good job, but of course money helps, because most of the problems you’ll be facing are practical. It’s also great that your mum is willing to lend a hand, though hopefully she won’t make your gf (future wife) uncomfortable by being too nosey. Hopefully her parents will also help out.

Now other than the obvious things like buying food for 3, you’ll have to be patient. Very patient. Your gf will be a real bitch in the months to come, especially at the beginning. Her hormones will be all over the place and she’ll be going through phases of aggression, depression, and any other long and incomprehensible word you can think of. Just try and be there for her. She’s feeling pretty insecure right now, and you have to be the rock for her to hold on to.

There’s a lot more I’d like to tell you about all this, but most of it won’t be helpful right now. What you need is support, and a prayer. Just try your best and good luck.

yeah but I’m not a jerk sandystrachan. I’d be more worried if I had a daughter and she got mixed up with some bad guys. But I’m a nice guy ;) Thanks for the comments guys, I’m stuck at my desk alone goin crazy haha

I am also going to suggest you not wait to marry her. You can always plan a vow renewal later but getting married now will actually show you are responsible enough to handle this and will stifle a lot of critics.

I say this because you are both in love and you were considering proposing before.

I agree with @Dog. Blondesjon and I talked about marriage before I became pregnant, but the pregnancy sealed the deal. I was 4½ months pregnant when we married. This was a great time because I was past the all day morning sickness but I wasn’t carrying a bowling ball either. The second trimester would be ideal. We planned a nice little ceremony in less than a month and the honeymoon was our much needed vacation before the baby arrived.

thanks Dog and Jonsblond…I think we will plan something in a few months. You’re all invited ;)

Congratulations! Parenthood is loads of fun and loads of stress, but the good times outweigh the bad. Remember that.

1. Your girl: Just do whatever she says. That’s pretty much it. Be there to comfort her, that’s what she needs most. She may get tired and moody, but she still loves you. And soon, she’s going to look all kinds of sexy with her baby bump! Once the baby comes, she’s going to need to rest. A lot. Chances are that you are going to get at least some rest at the hospital, while she is woken up by a nurse every hour to check this, that and the other thing. Especially if she has a c-section, she will need to lie down and rest a lot. Also on the subject of c-sections, and just the birth in general- don’t let her do anything she doesn’t want to do. If something is telling her that the doctor is not making the right decisions, speak up. There is an unnecessarily high number of c-sections, so just read up on it and be prepared for that possibility.

2. Your money: Make a budget and follow it. Don’t run out and buy stuff for the baby yet, other than maybe What to Expect… See if her friends and family are going to throw her a shower. Most of the stuff you need right away can be covered in the shower if you register for it. If you don’t get something you really need from the shower, look at yard sales and craigslist before buying it at the store. Books will tell you that it’s not safe because there might be parts missing, or there could be an old recall on the item, but these things will be obvious to you, so if you don’t see a defect, it’s probably ok. Just look for the newest looking stuff. I know you said you have a good job, but saving money now is key. If not to spoil the baby with, for you and your girl to have some fun once in a while. A small vacation or nice night out makes all the difference. Your girlfriend should consider breastfeeding, not only because it’s the best food for your baby, but it’s FREE food for your baby. Once you start formula, you’re looking at $20 every week or so. I struggled with breastfeeding, but it’s totally worth it overall.

3. The baby: It’s the worst for the first month or so, in my opinion. That’s when they sleep for 1 hour, up an hour, sleep an hour, awake an hour. A good way to make sure both you and your girlfriend are well rested is to take shifts. Allow yourselves a good 6 hour chunk of time to sleep at a time. You’re not going to get this at the hospital, so when you get home, you’re going to be zonked. If you can’t take shifts, sleep when the baby sleeps. About the crying: what does he want? In summary, he’s either hungry, in need of a diaper change, needs to burp, lonely, or tired. Run through the list. Check his diaper. If it’s dry and clean, feed him. If he rejects the boob, try to burp him. If nothing comes out, rock him and sing to him. If nothing else works just put him back in the crib. He may just not be sure how to fall asleep. Another big tip is the more they eat, the longer they tend to sleep. Good luck.

4. You: Try to get leave from work for as long as you can after the birth to help out. Don’t stress about your crazy wife, and don’t stress about every little baby problem. As long as you’re really doing your best and love the baby (and wife) to pieces, everything will work out.

Sorry this turned out to be so long, but it was stuff I wish people had told me and my husband.

Also, like @jonsblond story, I was 4 mo pregnant when we got married. Second trimester is best for this, and try your best to take a small honeymoon together, even a long weekend, before the baby comes. It’s a great bonding ritual. :)

@qualitycontrol I had my first at 22 and my ex was 29
age doesn’t matter because I was a good parent and he never was

@qualitycontrol I just have to say, my husband and I had already planned on getting married before I got pregnant, had a date set and all….but changed it when I became pregnant because it would have messed up my health insurance. And then we waited so we could save up some money for it, and I could lose the baby weight for the big day don’t judge! lol We got married when our son was 13 months old. Getting married does not automatically mean you are serious about it. Think about the legalities and the health insurance. Is she on her parents health insurance? If she gets married she will lose that health insurance. And if she needs to get on state insurance and is married they will then count your income, but they won’t if you are unmarried. BUT some states will try to get the man to pay back the cost of birth if you are unmarried, like in Michigan where they have archaic laws that pretty much force people on Medical Assistance to get married or pay thousands of dollars in bills.

Another piece of advice. Don’t worry about spending money on an engagement ring unless it’s really, really important her. There are so many more important things to save for or spend money on right now. If you want it, maybe have a wedding before the baby comes but skip the engagement ring. I never had one and never missed it. There are a lot of other things to focus on now.

I guess you are going to have the baby from what you have said. Let your family help you if they are willing.

@casheroo made some great comments just above about being realistic about money, health insurance, etc.

A great book is “The Girlfriends guide to Pregnancy” it is funny and has some real advice.

I was 23 when I had my daughter! I feel like I did some serious growing up with her, but she has taught me some of life’s best lessons. My son continues to teach me more lessons. :)

Don’t let the age thing really bother you. You’ll be okay!

Listen to what @casheroo says about health care and state assistance – if she is on her parent’s insurance, you may want to wait – so she remains covered!

You don’t want my opinion, so I’ll save you from it….

@DrBill I think I might be thinking the same thing, but he seems determined so I tried to be positive.

@JLeslie
I was being as nice as I could…

@DrBill & @JLeslie . . .How very passive/aggressive of you both to make sure we all know you have contrary opinions but are too worried about how others might perceive you to actually post them.

I meant what I said, if he is decided then my advice stands, get help from your family if you can, buy the book “girlfriends guide to pregnancy” his girlfriend will really like it, and be realistic about money and health insurance.

If it were me I would probably get an abortion, unless I was already planning on marrying the person (maybe they were already talking about marriage, I don’t know)but it doesn’t seem to be an option. I’m sure he knows the option exists. I think it is great that he already seems to feel like a father-to-be. I don’t know what Dr. Bill thinks. I have a friend that got pregnant her last year of college, 3 months before she graduated, but had been dating the guy for 5 years, and everything turned out fine, they have a second kid and have been happily married for 18 years, but I think that is rare. She was able to finish college, and they got married in her 4th month, and her boyfriend/husband was in his last year of law school at the time. I don’t really know quality controlls situation, so my advice about whether to keep, abort, or whatever means nothing I think. Sorry, I should not have a made the “passive aggressive” comment, you’re right.

Now what? Now, when you you watch this, you get to sing along!
[chica tries not to be jealous]

and after you watch that and get all warm and fuzzy inside, watch this and pray.

@eponymoushipster Thanks, I won’t be sleeping tonight…

@chyna but it’s natural and beautiful!

@eponymoushipster: Oh yeah, you think that’s gross? Do you, do you?

Have you seen this?
(Warning: The second half [after min: 1:50] is not for the weak-stomached or for those who plan on ever giving birth or being in a room with someone who is, I MEAN IT!!!)

And you guys all thought the only thing Chica was capable of is the warm & fuzzy. heh heh heh.

@La_chica_gomela that wasn’t that gross. an actual human birth is probably worse.

@La_chica_gomela Thank you for the warning. Eponymoushipster was not as considerate as you as he posted no warning.

Okay, I just finished yours @eponymoushipster‘s link. All I can say is pshhhhhhhhh, that wasn’t nuthin! You couldn’t even hardly see anything! Um, did you see the “remix” in mine?? Ick!!

@chyna you were seriously disturbed by that? c’mon

@La_chica_gomela word

@eponymoushipster :)

@Blondesjon

I would still wish them the best, even if I don’t agree with their choices.

@DrBill Whatever choice you had in mind, I’m sure my 17 year old high honor roll son is happy I didn’t do whatever it is you had in mind when I became pregnant at the age of 20.

To each his own I guess.

@jonsblond

I’m glad it worked out well for you.

@jonsblond don’t take it so personally. No one is judging him. He has said some things that sound a little idealistic, we don’t know how long they have been dating, and he mentioned he took care of his siblings, so I would guess that unless a lot has changed his mom will not have a lot of time to help out, maybe she has money to help them? Maybe he has other family members to help, but they did not help take care of his siblings, he wound up doing it.

@eponymoushipster want to be traumatized? I used to have a link to amazing births from back in the day..the women would be completely silent and the babies would pop right out, it was crazy I can’t find them on youtube anywhere, they were b&w.

@casheroo i dunno if she knows, but that lady’s who-ha was on the television

@casheroo: Ooooh, it must be intense, I’ve never gotten the YouTube message, “To view this video or group, please verify you are 18 or older by signing in or signing up.” before! I just might do it.

@La_chica_gomela there was blood, vajayjay and poor quality footage. you are warned

Child birth

One word that made our experiences having our girls “Hallmark” instead of “nighmare”:
Epidural.

Our first was natural- the second and twins epidural. We have wonderful memories of the latter two.

Not watching, I’ve been warned.

update: so she took 2 home pregnancy a few days ago and they both were positive. But yesterday she told me her period came…I read that it can be common to bleed a little bit at the beginning of the pregnancy…could that be what it is? We’re going on Friday to have her tested at a hospital…

@qualitycontrol – good idea!

Keep us posted.

If it’s a real period, she may not be pregnant. If she’s just “spotting,” she may. A doctor’s test is called for. Let us know what happens.

Yes some blood is normal, though she should take it easy and especially not lift weights if this happens. Resting is a good idea. And of course it might be a period, what colour is the blood? (ie pinkish, dark red?)

If she is cramping like a normal period she might have miscarried, She should go to the doctor. If she is bleeding with no cramping it could be just spotting during pregnancy OR an ectopic. She should go to the doctor and let them do a blood test. How far along did she think she is? Those at home preggers tests almost never have a false positive (they can be false negative) so if she was positive she should go to the doctor.

Chemical pregnancies are very very common, the woman is pregnant but loses the baby around the time her period would come. I’d get her to her doctor for an HCG test, and then they can repeat it in a couple days…seeing if the numbers are rising or lowering is the best indicator. Good luck

::fingers crossed that all is well::

Thanks, I certainly hope she did not lose the baby. She said she had a normal period with the normal amount of blood. Her period was about 10 days late…we did the home test after she was a week late. Her mom has a history of losing babies…my gf was born with a twin who died at birth. So we will see on Friday. I think she would be about 3 weeks along if she was pregnant. Also, my right eyebrow has been violently twitching since she told me this and it won’t stop…could there be a connection?

well the twitching is normal under the circumstances. It is possible the whole pregnancy was a false alarm, but on the bright side it made you realise what’s important for you and whether you’re ready to be a dad. If there is no baby, maybe now is a good time to plan the wedding properly :)

I second @Jack79 – if indeed it is a false alarm and you proceed with your plans to marry it will mean even more to your future spouse. There will never be a shred of doubt that you married for any other reason but your love and devotion to her.

Some estimates are 1 in 3 pregnancies “miscarry” this is including chemical pregnancies, which many people don’t even know they are pregnant yet. It is very common, no reason to worry about future pregnancies if she has indeed lost this one. Still, I know how sad it is to think it has not turned out as planned.

I agree with Jack and Dog. Good luck to you and your girlfriend.

@qualitycontrol: Thanks for letting us know. I’m keeping my fingers crossed that everything turns out for the best for you and yours, and sending good thoughts your way! Lots of lurve!

thanks Chica, JLeslie and Dog. Going nuts until Friday comes.

@qualitycontrol – you hang in there buddy. You can make it through this!

Well?

It is Saturday… we need an update!

They might make her do two test to watch the HCG fall or go up.

The doctor said she had an early miscarriage…it’s sad but at the same time we both aren’t ready. It worked out, she was happy I guess because she really didn’t want a baby now. So that’s that, thanks for the support everyone.

@qualitycontrol I’m so sorry. Things like this seem to happen for a reason, maybe in a few years you two can plan on a baby and things will be less scary. I’ve had miscarriages, and I know without them, I wouldn’t have had my son.

Remember al the love and joy you embraced last week. Someday- when you will both feel the same way- you can share it.

:(

I’m sorry. My best to you both.

@qualitycontrol – I am sorry. There are reasons and sometimes they are not to be known.

Hang in there.

Perhaps now you can plan the wedding (and the next pregnancy) better. Try and be supportive. btw the exact thing happened to me, but I won’t tell you how it went.

I’m sorry and relieved at the same time. Love each other and plan for your future.

Now is not meant to be. Find joy in each other.

I’m sorry for your loss, but it may be for the best since your girlfriend did not want to have a baby now. Your relationship may be the stornger for this test and you can plan out what you want for the future.

Here’s a hug for you qualitycontrol ( ).

thanks ;)

@RebeccaSJ, did you read this entire thread? Please don’t answer in a thread unless you have read it in its’ entirety. This will help assure that your answer is relevant. Thank you.

I am just going to give you osme advice…. When your happy shes happy