How do you deal with a friend who doesn't understand you are financially challenged?

bounce them, it will appear as though she sent them to an invalid email address

You either tell her straight up or stop hanging with her.

Going back to my days of just getting started in the TV business.
I had a friend whose father had a recording studio that he worked for.

He always asked me to go out and party with him and his friends. My office being right across the hall from his.

The problem was that what him and his friends spent on a friday night was a weeks pay for me.
Needless to say that “friendship” did not last.

Have you tried saying to her, “Look. I really appreciate all the offer you give me for all these trips and dinners and such. However, money is kind of tight for me right now, and I really can’t afford to be spending my hard earned cash on frivolities. Could we maybe do some things that don’t involve spending any cash?”

@Les – Bingo. Thanks for saving me the typing.

the thing is i have said hey I can’t really afford these things, and she still insists upon it. I don’t want to be mean, but it’s like enough is enough! :)

“Ok, when you can give me the money we’re on until then please take the hint. I am happy you can go but I really don’t need to keep getting asked thank you.”

@shortysith – Well then if that’s the case I’d just ignore her requests. If she can’t consider that not everyone has a financial fountain, then don’t even consider her requests.

Or take @Bri_L ‘s advice and request her to pay for your share. Haha. That’s great!

Seriously, it would most likely lead to “I can’t afford that” which would drive your point home eh?

What about having some prepared alternatives? When she suggests a trip or an expensive dinner, respond with “Wow, can’t afford that one – let’s go to the zoo (museum, movies, park, casual resturant, etc) instead”.

get a job and go to school

How about no excuses, just “No thanks.”
You have already given her reasons and she doesn’t listen, so if you don’t give her a reason, she has nothing to come back with or follow up with.

“Sorry, no, can’t do it.” Repeat as needed. If necessary, add “And please stop asking me. It just makes me feel worse to have to keep refusing.” She is being a thoughtless boor, and thoughtless boors really do not deserve your finest courtesy and delicacy.

Can your other friends, who do get it, tell her to back off?

@whereisfreespeech maybe you could be less helpful next time. ~

maybe you can get a sense of humor next time ;)

edited by me due to it really being not worth it at all.

maybe you can be more helpful to the question next time ;)

@shortysith
I’ve had millionare friends like that. And they have a mental block or something. It’s like they just have no reference point for not having, aside from being away from an available ATM. There really is a reason that the uber wealthy gravitates towards its’own. It’s just awkward sometimes. And it’s even harder when you relate so naturally in other areas, but in regards to money it’s just imbalanced. But ultimately you just have to be honest with yourself whether you can afford something or not.

Tell her you’d love to… and then tell her it has to be on her dime.