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Facade's avatar

Did you participate in anal sex before vaginal?

Asked by Facade (22932points) August 19th, 2009

Do you think doing so would affect your preference for either?
If you have never tried anal sex, do you think you will?

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augustlan's avatar

[mod says] Please wait until the question has some serious answers before joking. Thanks!

casheroo's avatar

Okay, wait, do you mean virginity wise?

Zaku's avatar

I think I never will try anal sex.

AstroChuck's avatar

No. It’s where food comes out.

eponymoushipster's avatar

@Facade OH. i thought you meant in the sense of “in which order….”

Facade's avatar

@eponymoushipster oh no lol. I know the order learned the hard way but I know it

tramnineteen's avatar

I don’t plan on ever being on either end of anal sex. Fingers might play around there, but no entry.

I would imagine that it would depend on the person though. Sex on ecstasy ruins regular sex for some people I have heard, but I have had other people say it didn’t.

DrasticDreamer's avatar

When I lost my virginity, it was through vaginal sex. I didn’t even let my partner attempt to try anal sex for quite a while. When I finally agreed to try, I said it would never happen again and it hasn’t. It’s not enjoyable at all, for me.

I know a few women who like it a lot, but I know more who hate it. And I really don’t think the order in which one tries it will make any difference at all, in terms of overall preference.

casheroo's avatar

I lost mine vaginally, and didn’t have anal sex for a little while. I think I tried it with my first love, but not…real anal sex. Just a “Oh my gosh, that hurts, no more!” sort of thing. Took a couple years until I attempted it again. Found a position I liked, but didn’t like it overall. And now it’s not even an option. thank god

DrasticDreamer's avatar

Add on:

I would also never suggest that someone try anal sex before vaginal sex, especially if one is of the mindset that sex is a special thing. For people that think along those lines, it will cheapen their first experience with vaginal sex. Besides… In my world, anal sex is only to be done with someone that you can completely trust, regardless of whether or not it’s your first or millionth time doing it.

ckinyc's avatar

Sure! since I don’t have the other part.

drdoombot's avatar

I had a girlfriend who hated anal sex with every boyfriend she tried it with, until I gave her an orgasm.

Ironically enough, I didn’t like the way it felt. To put it as a metaphor, the vagina felt like a warm and toasty bed, while the anus felt like a furnace. Not inviting at all.

live_rose's avatar

I haven’t had either. i think i’d like to have traditional sex before trying anything else. And Im not chomping at the bit for anal sex but if my partner wanted to I guess I’d consider it.

Facade's avatar

@drdoombot a furnace? Meaning it was warmer?

drdoombot's avatar

@Facade Not just warmer, it was hot. I felt like I was cooking a hot dog.

Sarcasm's avatar

Haven’t ever done anal, so nope.
I don’t necessarily plan to. I’d do it if she requested, but it’s never something I’d suggest to a lover.

OpryLeigh's avatar

No, so far I have only had vaginal sex but I haven’t ruled anal sex out. My boyfriend and I joke about it a lot but so far I haven’t been relaxed enough to try it. I trust him 100% but I am worried about the pain! I am also worried about any possible side effects/anything going wrong.

I was also put off by something that happend to m a friend of mine. Basically when he pulled out after having anal sex, it made her shit herself!

Grisaille's avatar

what what

jbfletcherfan's avatar

I never have & never will have anal sex. That’s just toooo disgusting to me. And it just sounds painful.

cyn's avatar

<——-agrees with @AstroChuck and @jbfletcherfan and those who said no….

RandomMrdan's avatar

The first time I was with a girl, we had vaginal sex. I tried anal sex on a couple different occasions, and it was fun and enjoyable (though I think any type of sex is). I do like the extra benefit of a zero percent chance of a pregnancy scare too.

Though, I don’t think I’d ever ask for it with a girlfriend that I really care about or plan to be with. If I was dating someone, and it was purely a physical relationship, then yeah, why not ask about it?

For the record though, I prefer vaginal sex.

jbfletcherfan's avatar

@RandomMrdan that’s very telling of your respecful thoughts of someone you care about. I mean this as a compliment, BTW. I always looked at anal sex as rather degrading. Like a “stick it in your ass” kind of thing.

Grisaille's avatar

I don’t see it that way at all. If it’s pleasurable for both partners, then have at it. Ain’t nothin’ wrong with that.

jbfletcherfan's avatar

@Grisaille this is true. It’s all a matter of consentual participation.

RandomMrdan's avatar

Yeah, I do see it as rather degrading in a sense, but like Grisaille said, if both enjoy it, then I don’t see it as much of a bad thing at that point.

jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities's avatar

I’m not a religious person, but I happen to know for a fact that you are all making god cry. The butt is a one-way street.

Grisaille's avatar

Anal sex is an American Tradition.

why do you hate america

cwilbur's avatar

Given that I do not possess a vagina, nor do any of the people I am likely to have sex with, I think the answer to this question in my case is rather obvious.

wundayatta's avatar

I had a girl who wanted to do anal sex instead of vaginal because we didn’t have any birth control. It was rather unpleasant, since we didn’t have any lube, either. Another time I did it, it was unpleasant for emotional reasons—my girlfriend wanted me to do it in order to punish her for cheating on me at a party that we went to together. I vowed never to do that again. And I haven’t.

When I see it in porn, it just looks unpleasant, and I have a hard time believing that a woman would really like it. She might do it for the guy, but I don’t know if it could really give her pleasure, unless she was at least semi-masochistic.

I doubt if having anal sex as your virginal penetrative sexual act would make you prefer it to vaginal sex. Why do you ask?

Grisaille's avatar

The inside wall of the anus shares many nerve endings with the vagina, and then some.

Just sayin’.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

@cwilbur are you dating anyone at this time, wanna hook up? =) j/k

daveboy's avatar

I believe that the slang for anal sex is “greek”,as it was first practiced in greece (between man/women ) to avoid pregnancy.
From a personal point of view, no thanks, but there are many nerves up there, and also the male “g“spot is in there too.
A nurse friend of mine told me it is possible to make a man ejaculate by arousing the male g spot, without any other form of sexual play, i.e. masturbation.

cwilbur's avatar

@evelyns_pet_zebra: no, and try me.

@daveboy: actually, it’s more likely a reference to Greek pederasty.

Facade's avatar

@Grisaille finally, someone lol

Grisaille's avatar

@Facade You know I gots yo’ back

noodle_poodle's avatar

no to anal its a one way street…it looks painful and degrading and i have to erge to try it

RandomMrdan's avatar

maybe “to” = “no” and erge = urge

jbfletcherfan's avatar

Yeah, I think that’s what she meant.

Zuma's avatar

But I don’t have a vagina.

noodle_poodle's avatar

yeh sorry….was eating ramen and typing i mean i have never had an urge for anal

noodle_poodle's avatar

my typing suks more than dyson

jbfletcherfan's avatar

@noodle_poodle LOLLLLLL…it’s the Ramen. That’s what happens when you get noodles in the keys.

El_Cadejo's avatar

i really dont get all these people who keep saying its degrading….

casheroo's avatar

@uberbatman It’s hard to explain, but I do think people are entitled to believe certain sexual acts are degrading. I think it’s a degrading act.

eponymoushipster's avatar

@uberbatman dude, anything less than 3 packs of marlboros is just sub par.

jca's avatar

it may be what some people consider degrading, but i think if it’s done right it’s good. i know a lot of people feel like it’s nasty. a lot of things are nasty but they’re good anyway.

Steverpeeps's avatar

That’s sick! Crap comes out of there! You can also spread e-coli from messing around in there…you want pleasure use the hole it’s made for! And if a guy wants a place to stick it…use the hole it used for!!!

Sarcasm's avatar

I’m not an advocate for anal sex, but… Are you also against oral sex? Because the mouth is also one of the holes not “made for” pleasure.

Facade's avatar

@Steverpeeps Calm down. No one’s trying to stick anything in your ass.

Steverpeeps's avatar

I just can’t believe people think that a good idea. What part of “CRAP COMES OUT THERE” is not understood? It’s not made for anything to go in!

Sarcasm's avatar

Sometimes a little poop is worth it for the experience to them?

Facade's avatar

It’s just poop, guys teehee

KatawaGrey's avatar

@Steverpeeps: Good lord! Who cares as long as it’s between consenting adults and no one gets hurts? If you don’t like it, don’t do it yourself.

cwilbur's avatar

@Steverpeeps: to be blunt, it’s none of your fucking business what other adults choose to do sexually. If you think something is sick, don’t do it, and have the manners and class to shut up about it.

Steverpeeps's avatar

I come from a religious angle, so it’s kinda a big deal….cause it’s perverse and wrong in God’s eyes, but it’s ok I know yall don’t care bout that

Sarcasm's avatar

From a religious angle? Where in the bible (or whichever holy book you follow) does it state that anal sex is wrong?

Sure, it says laying with another man is wrong, and that sex in general is wrong unless it is to spread thy seed. But I haven’t seen anything about anal in particular.

Steverpeeps's avatar

Sodomy is anal sex in the bible

Steverpeeps's avatar

And laying with another man in the bible means anal sex also just so you know

Facade's avatar

I never thought I would have to stop following my own question.

Steverpeeps's avatar

That’s weird cause I’m not the first to be opposed to this on here….and Sarcasm asked a question….so I answered him

eponymoushipster's avatar

@Sarcasm it doesn’t say sex is purely for procreation. it’s also for the expression of love. it does forbid premartial or extramartial sex, however, babymaking or no babymaking.

DrasticDreamer's avatar

The bible does actually say that anal sex is a sin.

augustlan's avatar

So is eating lobster. I doubt anyone gets nearly as upset about that one, though.

eponymoushipster's avatar

@augustlan the lobster’s folks, i bet. but, then again, the sex stuff was reiterated in the New Testament, whereas the lobster stuff wasn’t.

El_Cadejo's avatar

Just another case of cherry picking things from the bible that people wish to push. Ah well…

KatawaGrey's avatar

@Steverpeeps: Well maybe you should sit down and have a talk with god. Tell him that he shouldn’t make the anus so full of lovely little nerve endings that make it feel so damn good when things happen down there. Why do you think pooping feels so good? It’s called anal pleasure. If you think it’s wrong, for whatever reason, then don’t do it. I’m not religious so it’s not a sin if I do it.

cwilbur's avatar

@DrasticDreamer: citation please?

DrasticDreamer's avatar

@cwilbur Maybe I was wrong. The only thing I can find, that may or may not be about anal sex between men and women is:

Romans 1:26–27

26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:

27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.

Just another reason to think the Bible and everything in it is bullshit….

wundayatta's avatar

@KatawaGrey Pleasure? How about pain? I don’t think it’s wrong, but with the trouble I have with that orifice these days…. uh, hard to imagine it feeling good.

El_Cadejo's avatar

@daloon no pain if done properly. ;)

casheroo's avatar

@uberbatman That’s just not true.

wundayatta's avatar

@uberbatman I’m happy that your fundament is perfectly healthy, but please don’t assume that is the case for everyone.

KatawaGrey's avatar

@daloon: Well that’s just no fun. :( If it makes you feel any better, sometimes I hurt in the pleasurable one. Sexing ain’t no fun then.

wundayatta's avatar

@KatawaGrey I agree. In this kind of thing, there is no gain from pain, unless you’re into that kind of thing. Sigh.

KatawaGrey's avatar

@daloon: Well, when my boyfriend makes his “awww, poor girl” face, it’s worth the pain a little bit. :) Though I hope it happens not too often for you or, well, anyone.

cwilbur's avatar

@DrasticDreamer: in that passage, Paul is talking about a bunch of people who practiced idolatry, and claiming that God punished them by turning them gay. His audience was the Roman congregation, made of mixed Gentiles and Jews, which was having a real issue with the Jews considering the Gentiles second-class because they did not adhere to Jewish purity codes, and the Gentiles considering the Jews to be a bunch of arrogant bastards because Christ’s teaching made it clear that salvation was offered to all.

So Paul, as a rhetorical device, used as an example a bunch of hypothetical people who committed idolatry—a far, far worse sin in his eyes—and then claimed that God punished them by making them homosexual, which was a severe violation of the Jewish purity codes laid out in Leviticus. He was doing this to get the Jews in the congregation on his side, so that when the letter was read, they would be nodding in agreement, thinking, yeah, obviously, those Gentiles, how disgusting! But then he delivers the punch in the next chapter, pointing out that the behavior of the Jews is no better.

It’s not a condemnation. It’s a rhetorical device in support of a larger argument, which is that Jewish purity codes are irrelevant after Christ.

poofandmook's avatar

I know this question is old, but it was referenced in a recent thread

I really love it when the “being gay is a sin” argument comes up and cwilbur sees it, because he’s the only person I’ve ever encountered that actually knows what he’s talking about when it comes to citing scripture.

DrasticDreamer's avatar

@poofandmook It wasn’t an argument. I brought it up because I thought that it was true. I’m anti-religion and anti-Bible in general. I’m glad that he brought it up, too.

poofandmook's avatar

@DrasticDreamer: I wasn’t so much referring to you :)

DrasticDreamer's avatar

@poofandmook Ah, sorry. I didn’t realize anyone else brought it up.

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