Do you truly believe that gay people are equal to straight people in terms of their being?

Odd question, I know, but bear with me; this is something I really want to know. A lot of you preach honesty, so I hope I get 110% honest answers to this question.

One time on AIROW (a site many of you have heard mentioned before), someone said something to the extent of “I wish I could round up all gay people and put them on an island and nuke it” due to their frustrations with flaming gay people. I thought the comment was appalling and spoke out against it. Almost everyone, including those who had shown themselves to support gay rights and equality and such, didn’t mind the comment and said I couldn’t take a joke.

In my darkest moments, bad thoughts about this kind of thing enter my mind. I remember in response to their response, I said “no matter how supportive straight people claim to be, they’re all still a little homophobic on the inside”. I didn’t mean that, of course; I was angry and hurt and I think stuff like that when all odds seem to be against me. It’s not fair and it’s not right, but it’s something that happens to me sometimes and it’s something I have to fight. Similar to the urge to insult ad hominem. But I just want to know: do you truly think gay people are no different from straight people or does a small part of you think it’s wrong or weird or something along those lines?

This is not a flame question. I really want to know this.