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How to find love and friendship?

Asked by Swervy (107points) August 30th, 2009

I need a boyfriend who cares for me and who’ll take care of me. Someone kinda shy like me and who enjoys the country quiet slow life not the crazy fast city life and living in Australia. Someone who drives a car sensibly. Someone who bes themselves and not pretending to be someone their not. I need a guy who will understand who I am and who will listen to me. I am very lonely and sensitive to sad emotional movies and going to the movies with my parents I want someone who will go there with me other than my parents. Please help me NOW!

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dpworkin's avatar

We humans are social by nature, and we all want companionship.

The most common way of getting to know another person, and forming an attachment is through propinquity. You have to be where other people are, and allow yourself to meet them. Then what seems so distant and hopeless to you now will just happen, all by itself.

teh_kvlt_liberal's avatar

That’s all me, babe ;)

PerryDolia's avatar

Hello Swervy. Welcome to Fluther. Lurve.

Finding someone who is right for you takes a long time. You have to meet a lot of people to find a person who has all the qualities that you are looking for. You have to find a way to meet a lot of people, so think about the places you go where there are crowds: school, church, shopping, clubs (like book clubs, chess clubs, not night clubs). Think of what interests you and get involved in activities that are centered on those interests. Look for new friends there. Be patient and give people time to get to know you and you to get to know them. Maybe one will be special.

Facade's avatar

IMO the right person comes along when you stop looking and just go with the flow.

pee_rawg's avatar

Just out of curiosity, what do you mean exactly by “I need a boyfriend who takes care of me”?

Judi's avatar

@Swervy ; How old are you? Not that we will judge you by your answer, it will just give us a better sense of you.

Jess's avatar

Yeah I read somewhere that you can’t look for love, you just have to “be” love. Embody it in everything you do, let if flow from you freely and love will gravitate to you naturally…....I know for me love has only sprung up in the craziest ways, usually not what I predicted or “wanted” but it all works out…........

Basically be yourself and do the things that make you happy… productive, energetic, happy and love will find you!

mattbrowne's avatar

Turn off the computer. Go out and meet real people and be really interested in them.

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