For the men- When (if at all) did you feel the urge to have children?

I love kids (especially the ones who can talk), but they don’t have to be mine. I’ve never imagined being (nor been) fiscally stable enough to have kids, although having a neice and nephew is chipping away at that concern.

Probably when i have a lawn that needs to be mowed regularly. That’s about the time my dad started wanting kids.

@eponymoushipster Excellent. I’ve heard men joke that it’s time to breed when they get tired of getting up for their own beer.

@Likeradar i thought that’s when you get married.~

No, i’d think about having kids when i was more financially able to, as @kevbo said. granted, “things” don’t always work that way.

At almost 20, my answer so far is “not yet”

http://www.fluther.com/disc/52255/to-the-phallus-bearers-out-there-do-you-ever-feel-your/

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I have constantly had the urge to practice having children. One day I just thought that it would be really nice to have more of us in our family – my wife agreed. Nine months later…

@Grisaille Aw shucks. :(

Sorry, ya’ll. I should have used the handy dandy search feature.

Nah, it’s cool!

I was just sharing my own personal story, really. Without having to write anything.

@Grisaille Lazy ass

It too 5 years of nearloy constant brow beating from prospective grandparents before I relented. Even then was not happy. now my job is done, may as well be a eunuch

@Facade Lurve you, too, sugah

@majorrich So never felt the biological clock?

No. Travelled a lot. Saw a bit more of the world than any man should see.

it’s not like one day I woke up and said “hey i really want to have children” I’ve always wanted a family.

Men, unlike women, can create viable sperm their whole life. James Doohan (Scotty) fathered his last child in hisw late 80’s

@majorrich good point!

@majorrich James Doohan (Scotty) fathered his last child in hisw late 80’s

Or so he believed…

(My husband’s answer- he doesn’t have a Fluther but reads over my shoulder w/ me sometimes). Playing w/ our friend’s kids and thinking about how old our parents will be when our child is graduating highschool, etc. We wanted our kids to have a good relationship with their grandparents like we were able to, so that helped us decide to go ahead and have them sooner rather than later.

in between the time I thought I did want to get married and the time I saw my own father kind of fail at parenting (I no longer do for fear of being worse).

I hope to be as good a Father as my Dad was. I want to live to see my son graduate. I want him to live in a safer world. I need him to be prepared if it doesn’t turn out as safe. I want him to see how a man should live, and unfortunately how a man dies.

(forgive my rantings tonight. I was told today I am no longer in remission. I have a lot of work to do and not much time. I am angry)

After I got married and felt like my marriage was pretty stable.

I always wanted to have kids, ever since I was 7 and my little cousin was born and I used to play with her. I’d always been good with kids and wanted to have my own when I grew up. My dream was to marry young and have as many as possible.

Of course, the real world is different, and financial and other reasons meant I was not practically ready until I was abuot 26 or so. But my girlfriend at the time was too young to get married, so after we broke up (when I was 29) I seriously tried to find someone that would be ready for a family. Ended up having my daughter 3 relationships later (when I was 33)

@majorrich I was told today I am no longer in remission.

Could you message me? Look at my profile first.

My alternative therapies are NOT new age crackpot-ism, they were nominated for a Nobel prize several times for the woman scientist who developed them.

When I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with my wonderful partner, and that we would have gorgeous children together.

After graduate school and our wedding.

I think I pretty much always wanted to have kids since I first thought about it. I wasn’t sure I wanted to get married (because I didn’t believe that Government should have anything to do with my personal relationships), but I wanted a family. For whatever crazy reason, I thought I would be a good Dad. There were all kinds of things my father did that were wrong, and I wanted to see if I could do a better job. I spent a lot of time thinking about education, and I wanted a chance to try my ideas out.

I was always kind of afraid of kids—well, not so much kids as their parents. I thought that the way I wanted to relate to children (as if they are real people) would be something most parents wouldn’t approve of. So I was always skittish around kids until I had my own. I also wasn’t that interested in babies or poop or things like that, so, while I was willing to do all that for my own kids; I didn’t want to do it for anyone else’s.

You have to have babies to have kids, but I am so glad that phase is over, and I can actually relate to my kids now. Dinner time is so much more fun, now. The kids are crazy! We get songs and stories and gossip and other entertainments. We get conversations. We get chances to teach them good manners (ok, so that’s not my favorite).

Kids are the greatest. At least, my own kids are. Not so sure about other people’s kids. When I did get married, my wife shared my desire to have children. Unfortunately, it turned out to be rather difficult, for I carry the gene that kind of neglects to create a vas deferens. It is extremely difficult to provide sperm when you have no tube connecting the sperm production unit to the sperm delivery implement! Fortunately an operation allowed me to succeed where plumbing would not suffice.

Anyway, after two operations, we were finally successful, and we have two children—conceived at the same time, although gestated at different times. (I’ve always thought that made them twins). It is a wonderful thing to be a parent!

I’d like to father some demon seeds one day, but I really don’t know. At this point, it’s looking like I’ll end up being a hermit, living in a cabin in the woods somewhere. No biological clock ticking, but I do feel as though my Mojo clock is ticking, lol, if ya catch my drift.

35 here and not interested.

I’ve only ever felt inclined to have children once in my life….. after an ‘accident’, when I realised that I wasn’t scared by the possibility of her being pregnant, it was a false alarm. Since then though the inclination has well & truely gone.