What could you change about yourself to make it easier for people to get along with you?

I guess I’d have to lose my sarcasm but then i wouldn’t get along with me

I wish I wasn’t as quiet as I am.

I would trade my shyness in for a more out going personality.

Being really picky. That’s a big bad habit of my part. ):

Im rather blunt.

@astrakan Welcome to fluther. Great question!

I am honest to the point of being blunt. I do not like to make idle chat by gossiping.
which makes me fodder for gossip amongst the women of my husband’s side of the family

The distance between me and them?

I’d have to lose my morality, I think. I’m kind of a stick in the mud. :(

Don’t overthink things

I’m pretty stubborn and I don’t like letting go things that bother me.

I tend to talk about myself. I try to show more interest in other peoples lives (I really do care) but it somehow manages to circle back around to me.

I need to become more generous. Not just with my opinions, either.
GQ @astrakan!

My stunning good looks, it intimidates the common people.

I could install a filter between my brain and my mouth.

I would be less stubborn and less resistant to change. I don’t like it when people mess with my schedule or with what I have organized for myself to get done. The last part of that sentence felt awkward! I’ve given thought to this plan and have worked out how it will happen. Changing it gives me a headache. However, major life changes, that’s okay. How messed up is that?

I would be less jealous of people who are better looking than I am. I’m average looking, which isn’t a bad thing. There’s just so much more admiration for people who are good-looking than for people who are smart or funny.

I just noticed that the question says “what could you change.” Now I’m going to go ponder what I really could do.

This is a good question. And no one’s perfect, no “assuming” about it.

I am much too anxious about the opinions and judgement of others, and I automatically assume that that judgement will be negative. It holds me back in a lot areas of my life. I’m working on changing that now.

not take things personally

instantly forgive others

be more outgoing

not be so concerned with making mistakes

I hate small talk, and I’m just no good at it. It makes me come of as snobby or bitchy, which I’m usually not, and I think I’d be better liked if I was good at chit chat.

I would have to say my shyness.

Some may think I am being rude or that I am not a nice person but really I am shy and can’t think of what to say to keep a long conversation going.

However if someone takes the time to get to know me they realize that I’m not a bad person just a quiet person.

Once I get to know someone and feel comfortable around them it is easier to for me to share and join in a conversation.

Greed, And Judging

I’d have to be better at concealing my opinion of phonies and fools.