How do you get over someone you're completely in love with?

You’re not going to win him over.
He said a relationship is not going to happen. He wasn’t lying about that.
You wouldn’t be perfect together because he doesn’t like you that way in the first place.

Understanding this will get you over him.

When people say “I think we should just be friends” that means they are trying to let you down easy. It doesn’t even necessarily mean they want to be friends. It means they want you to stop coming on to them.

Be patient….maybe he will change his mind. Stop flirting with him and stop messing around with him and give him a chance to miss you. If he really likes you he will realize what he is going to lose if he doesn’t have a relationship with you. And if it comes to the point where you have to get over him, remember how much he hurt and know that you are better off without him.

Just because he’s with someone else doesn’t mean he doesn’t like or love you. People can love more than one person. Relationships aren’t just about love. They are also about circumstances.

You sound young, so maybe you don’t know what I’m about to say. When you first experience “love,” it can seem overwhelming. You can obsess about your object of love. It feels like love because that’s all you seem to be thinking about. Also, if your love object is taken, you usually become even more attracted.

How do you win him over? Well, one thing is for sure, you shouldn’t make it too easy. If so, he may just take advantage of you without really caring about you. You should be thankful that he thinks well enough of you that instead of taking advantage of you, he wants to remain friends.

At your age (if I am right about your age), relationships often do not last. Be patient. If you still love him when he breaks up with his current flame, you may well get your chance—if you still feel that way about him. Of course, you may be involved with someone else by that time, but don’t worry. That will make you even more attractive.

Of course, time heals all wounds. The longer he does not seem to be interested in you, the more you will “get over” it. On the other hand, if he keeps maintaining a lot of face time with you, that should help you stay interested—maybe not so good for you, but good for him, and maybe good for you in the long run.

In any case, mistrust this feeling that you are completely in love with him. You don’t know him well enough if you haven’t been in a relationship with him. You have a crush on him. Crushes can turn into love relationships, if nurtured properly, but they will wilt and die without good soil to grow in, and a decent amount of water.

Be patient. It is not over yet. He may move on to you. You may move on to someone else, and no longer be interested in him. I’m sure it all seems overwhelmingly important right now, but in a few years, you will look back, and with the experience you have then, you will see this in a very different light.

thanks daloon. you were right about my age btw, im 16.

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it’s true the song.

He told you he does not want a relationship with you at this point. If you really love him, you have to respect that. Love without respect for the other person’s wishes is worth nothing. So back off. Not only is that the honorable thing to do, it is a way of showing your respect towards him.

Your question in the topic says “how do I get over someone”, yet your longer version asks “how do I win him over”. This in itself is telling. You are in the height of emotions and probably trying to do anything about it will not work, because you are not acting rationally, and have not even decided what you want. You need to wait until you are calmer so that you can actually decide which you want, before acting on it.

So all in all, I think that the best thing to do now is to wait. Do not do anything, not to get over him, and not to win him over. Just go about your life as normally, go out with your friends, enjoy stuff, meet people, attend to your school/work, cry over him when you need to, but try and not get stuck on being obsessed or bitter.

If you really think he likes you then maybe he does. Listen to your intuition. There have been guys who I felt liked me a lot but when I would ask them, they’d deny it. The thing is, I know they liked me. This has happened on more than one occasion. Don’t try to get over him because it won’t work. There might be a reason why he doesn’t want to admit that he likes you but he’ll come around. Just give it time and don’t be too attached to him. Give him his space. Things like this tend to work themselves out.

If can offer sympathy rather than advice, let me say I know how hard and overwhelming crushes can be… believe me. You can feel like you’re high in the sky one second, and buried in the depths of the earth the next. When others try to shrug off what you’re feeling by saying something like “Eh, it’s just a crush,” it really makes me wonder if they’ve ever had one. There’s no “just” about it. It can be all-consuming sometimes, and I totally sympathize with what you’re going through…

I guess that’s why they’re called “crushes.” If they weren’t so hard, they’d be called something different… :-(