What was couples' therapy like and did it help your relationship?

Oftentimes, on fluther, people advise others to go to couple’s therapy and I often wonder if they, themselves, have gone and whether or not it was as useful as they thought it would be…I’ve heard some of your stories with couples’ therapy but was hoping to get more feedback…to me, it doesn’t seem like anything I’d try…my relationship is for me to solve and (I’m sure this is a very limited outlook) if I can’t with civility solve it with my partner, it is a failure, to me…and so generally, I say ‘sure try couple’s therapy, maybe’ but I don’t put too much emphasis on it as I don’t really think all that highly of it…but since I haven’t tried it, I shouldn’t talk and so I want someone who has tried it to tell me how it really is…