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Have you ever had to decide between two loves? If so, what happened?

Asked by le_inferno (6189points) November 4th, 2009

Probably one of the most difficult dilemmas anyone can face is being presented with making a choice between two lovers, i.e., rekindling with an ex or being with someone new. Or maybe there’s no ex involved and you simply are torn between two individuals. Have you ever been in a situation like this? What did you do?

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Supacase's avatar

Yes, although both of them would probably have been fine with me casually dating both of them. I felt it was wrong and made a choice. Neither would have been the right choice because, in hindsight, neither was right for me. Still, I went with my heart and ended up screwing up my life for a couple of years.

Samurai's avatar

Do you have any idea how much I hate love triangles.

oratio's avatar

Make up your mind, before they do. Otherwise you’ll loose them both.

pinkparaluies's avatar

I had to do this once. I had a best guy friend that was “in love” with me. I had to choose between him and another guy. However, the best friend wasn’t willing to stop smoking pot for me. Soo… that helped me make the decision.

Samurai's avatar

@pinkparaluies That doesn’t happen in the “To Love-Ru” anime series, they decided to drag it on and on.

Samurai's avatar

@pinkparaluies Just saying it doesn’t always turn out that way, maybe it doesn’t always turn out that way in fiction.

Grisaille's avatar

Yes. Was happy with my decision for a while, about 2 years. Then we took a break. She had sex with some other dude the day after we made that decision.

I never went back.

Bumped into the other girl about a year after that (went to the ballet, she was performing). We clicked. Realized we never stopped loving and missing one another. Tragedy reared its head, we split. She went away.

~ fin

casheroo's avatar

I’ve been in that position a couple times. You get over the big hump of making the decision and move on with your life.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

Loves, no. Lovers, a few times but I went with my gut and still feel I made the right choices for what worked best for me. A lover once asked me to decide if I wanted to continue a few flirtations that pre existed him or to step up and chance a relationship with him exclusively; I chose him.

Lorenita's avatar

Yes.. It happened to me, I had a boyfriend and we were together like 4 years and a half, the relationship was very weak, and I guess we just grew apart.. Then I met this other guy, that totally made me lose my head, like completly. At first I thought that it was just a crush and that It was normal, but then I realized I was very very infatuated and I just couldn’t be with my boyfriend.. so I chose the new guy, and I don’t regret it at all.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

yes and I kept them both. one of them and I broke up 6 mo. later and the other one and I are now married

sophillyk's avatar

yea, i chose the one who i could see myself lasting with, it was just a co-incidence that he had a larger penis….

Kate55's avatar

yes this has happened to me and they were twins I liked them both but one of them I didn’t like cause he smoked and my friends were worried about me being around him if he smoked so I chose the other guy

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