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The_Inquisitor's avatar

Do you express yourself differently to people, depending on sex?

Asked by The_Inquisitor (3163points) November 16th, 2009

Do you share the same information that you would towards both sexes?

Does your personality change around a certain sex? What about the types of things you share?

I personally, feel that I share the same things about myself to both sexes. Sure, I have a couple of girl buddies to talk to about my life, guys and all, but pretty much, both sexes know the same things about me.

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deni's avatar

I’m the same as you, I don’t really take into consideration the sex of my friend, I pretty much talk to them all about the same things. And ones I don’t tell certain things, it more depends on what type of personality they have and other types of things but not really ever their sex.

FishGutsDale's avatar

I think it depends. If your female, then maybe you do share the same information with both sexes. But i know that i’m more open with female friends then i am with other blokes, but that is just me. But i act the same no matter what sex i’m around.

Dale

Blondesjon's avatar

Nope.

I could care less whether you pee sitting or standing.

Facade's avatar

I express myself depending on the person’s comfort level with certain things, not their sex.

rangerr's avatar

I’m more open with my male friends. I find that females are quick to judge and compare your thoughts with theirs, while males tend to be honest with their opinions and more willing to help you with something if you need it.(IMO)
I only really share most things with my SO, but my two best friends are males and also know quite a bit.
The few female friends I have managed to keep, don’t know that much.. just the social aspect of my life. Nothing too personal. I’ve never really gotten along with girls because I haven’t been “into girly things”.

I’m just more comfortable around guys, I suppose.

wundayatta's avatar

I’m different. With most men, there’s always this hidden competitive edge I feel. It feels like it could burst out into a serious battle for pecking order at any time. If women think men have a hard time expressing their feeling to them; imagine what men express to other men!

I like women better and am more comfortable with them. I feel safer being all of myself. I don’t feel like I am in competition, most of the time. There are a few macho women who are always challenging, but that’s fairly rare.

So I talk about different things with most men and most women. There’s some overlap, of course—this is a generalization, but is not true in all cases. I feel differently with women compared to men. I am more open with women, more playful. It’s just easier for me with women than with men.

I love women. Men… not so much.

Psychedelic_Zebra's avatar

I am different with men than women simply because most straight men aren’t accepting of people with an urge to ogle guys as well as gals. So my sexual and emotional side is more open around women (and gay men).

I usually pretty reserved around everyone until I get to know them, male or female.

Dr_C's avatar

I’m a natural flirt with women (light hearted innocent flirting… nothing else) and am very much not a flirt with men. So yes.. a bit of a difference there.

KatawaGrey's avatar

Well, since I run in nerdier circles and am female, I simply have to react differently to men and women. In the gaming world, women don’t tend to like each other. There are very few of us and we tend to be queen bees. Another woman in our territory pisses us the fuck off. As such, I am generally much much more cautious around women at first, at least when I’m gaming I am. Men, however, I find I have to be the complete opposite. I tend to be overly cheerful because, again, these guys are gamers and tend to be pretty shy around women. Mostly though, when they accept me, I’m in for life. With women in gaming, it’s not the same.

Out in the real world, I’m still a little more reserved with women than I am with men mostly because many women would probably think I was flirting with them, but I’m not too much more reserved.

rangerr's avatar

@KatawaGrey I’m glad another female understands the “stay out of my territory” part of gaming. I had a girl join in a game of Counterstrike with a group of guys that I had been used to being the only girl playing with. She somehow managed to get in, and started flirting with everyone “Don’t shoot ME! I’m a girl. You guys like us!” over the mic.

I.
Flipped.

rooeytoo's avatar

I am cautious around all new people. Until I know you and have decided that you are trustworthy, I don’t share much of myself. My best friend for most of my adult life is a woman and we discuss things I would never dream of discussing with a man. It would be very difficult for me to talk about female problems with a man. And believe me I am not a girly girl, usually I have more in common with men but it is hard for me to get close to or completely trust most men.

qashqai's avatar

Nope.
I do hate everyone, indifferently.

PooperDood's avatar

Eh, depends on the situation

KatawaGrey's avatar

@rangerr: Amen. I personally have no problem with other women playing I’m a card gamer, not a video gamer but I imagine the issues are very similar but the overly cutesy and flirty ones make me very defensive. When someone like that comes in, I get protective of my boys. I mean, come on, they don’t know how to handle an overly flirtacious girl. They melt and then little miss I’m-so-cute-don’t-you-just-want-to-eat-me-with-a-spoon moves on to another guy.

I see this shit happen all the fucking time and it pisses me off so much.

rangerr's avatar

@KatawaGrey “I get protective of my boys”
I use the my boys line so often, it’s crazy. I’ve only ran into one girl who I didn’t have a problem with on a game and she was lesbian and rocked at the game.

mattbrowne's avatar

No, normally I don’t. But there are some special topics 95% of women are not really interested in and vice versa. Like the inner workings of certain machines. Same for memorizing numbers for past sports events. Do you remember when the goalkeeper of Manchester United in 1994 bla bla bla? Because many women process this kind of talk as bla bla bla, I avoid it with them. I enjoy talking about soccer with like-minded men. I never met a single women who memorized numbers and names of players etc dating 20 or 30 years back or more. Same in the US when it comes to baseball, right?

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