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Have you ever performed a Random Act of Kindness?

Asked by candylady (85points) November 22nd, 2009

A good friend explained the philosophy of the random act of kindness. She is fond of paying for the car behind her in the drive through in the morning. I have tried this several times, it feels good and it’s a nice surprise for the person behind you. It sometimes carries on for several cars. Someone told me I was wasting my time and should be donating to people who could really use it. Am I wrong, but doesn’t the giving and receiving of a RAK not brighten your day?

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The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

Our actions have a ripple effect like throwing a rock into a lake.
Seemingly small acts of kindness make it more likely for the beneficiary of that act to do something nice for someone else.

It doesn’t have to be something monetary like paying someone’s bridge toll.
It can be something as small as holding a door for someone, saying “pardon me”, or letting someone know when something has fallen out of their pocket.

emma193's avatar

Every random act of kindness makes your day happier and there is not a person in the world you couldn’t use some kindness. Thus, the more, the
merrier! One that comes to mind though is if I’m walking
around and I see tourists
struggling to take a photo of
themselves altogether, I like to
offer to take it for them.

chyna's avatar

I gave a lady at JC Penneys a coupon for 10.00 off anything in the store yesterday as I didn’t find anything I needed. She was tickled.

FishGutsDale's avatar

When I use to work as a checkout operator in a supermarket. One particularly slow night I served an elderly woman and didn’t have any more customers, so I pushed her trolley out for her and loaded them into her car. She was lovely.

avvooooooo's avatar

I always keep a pocket full of change when working as a cashier, especially when I used to work book rush at college book stores. Not only is it kind to the people who are digging for change, its kind to the people in line behind them. :)

faye's avatar

Every chance I get, not only does it make me feel good but what goes around, comes around.

Facade's avatar

All of the time. It makes me happy to make others happy, especially strangers.

ItalianPrincess1217's avatar

I love random acts of kindness. I feel so good afterwards. The other day there was a man in a store parking lot that lost his garbage cans from his truck bed. The wind was crazy and he was struggling. My fiancé ran over to help him catch his cans. The man was so thankful. And my fiancé wore a big grin after :)

gailcalled's avatar

I try to do more and more as I age. I have been paying the tolls for the car behind me for a long time. The effect is astonishing although being chased by a stranger on the thruway can be unnerving.

One guy handed me a ball point pen with his business logo on it as we were driving.

Aethelwine's avatar

I don’t have the extra money to spend on others but I always think of those around me and do what I can to help.

ItalianPrincess1217's avatar

Who knew all these nice people were in the world! After hearing all these stories about paying for other people’s drive thru orders and tolls, I’m definitely going to try that out!

smack's avatar

I always pick up clothes off the floor and hang them back up when I go to retail stores. I worked in retail for a summer and it was enough to teach me that when people don’t treat you like scum of the earth when you’re working a 9 hour shift on the floor, your day is infinately better.

ragingloli's avatar

When I was on an excursion into the city, I was asked by a random stranger if I could help her carrying the stuff she bought. Nice as I am I could not decline.

Shortly after I moved to my new flat I was asked by one of the residents who was about to move out to help him with clearing his flat. So I did. I was also promised to get 10 quid for it but somehow and for some reason I refused the money.

augustlan's avatar

I can say from personal experience that your random act of kindness not only benefits the recipient and yourself, but others in your circles. Whenever I witness one that I’m not involved in personally, it always brings a smile to my face and a reminder to do my part as well. It really does have a ripple effect.

SamIAm's avatar

Yesterday, I was in line buying a few things at Bed Bath and Beyond (these were small purchases but I just placed an order for $1500) and my dad mentioned to me how we could really use more of the 20% off coupons. The guy in front of us must have overheard because he turned around and handed us 2!! It was one of the nicest things a stranger has done in a while! Totally made my day. And quite frankly, I would have done the same for someone else :) Random acts of kindness (giving and receiving) can completely transform someone’s day!

kellylet's avatar

I think it’s amazing that so much that concidered RAK is just plain curtousy. I think holding the door, standing and letting elderly sit on the bus, saying thank you, should be instinctive. I am also amazed how many people don’t do these things, especially in So Cal. I do also go above & beyond these, especially to help the elderly. I think when I remember everone is a PERSON and not just an obstacle I tend to be nicer.

JLeslie's avatar

Yes. I do small random acts of kindness all of the time. Give a coupon to someone in the market, when someone needs change just give them the money if I don’t have exact change for their bill, offer to drive someone somewhere, offer to take someone to the doctor when they are worried about their health, bring in cookies to work, all sorts of little things.

BluRhino's avatar

I think the real secret to RAK is the giving UNCONDITIONALLY. No expectations, no secretly seeking a rewardor thanks, no qualifications on whether they are deserving, etc…like the friend is suggesting. They are still being selfish about it. Do what you do, feel the joy, the world is a better place for it.

gailcalled's avatar

A really easy one is to let someone with just a few items in front of you at the express land (15 items max.) in market.

JLeslie's avatar

@gailcalled I do that too.

augustlan's avatar

@gailcalled Oh, that’s a favorite of mine!

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