Why do men with beautiful, intelligent wives have extra-marital affairs?

they don’t.

unless you are a celebrity and then the field of opportunity widens. yeah, i love her, but this nice little piece on the side all up in my face i must take advantage of the moment.

…their wives are clearly beautiful, intelligent and giving women

“Shit happens behind closed doors.”- My granddad.
As much as people try to know everything about a celebrities life, it’s near impossible.

As for why they do it? People suck.

very public people are objects of desire. men love that attention but dont know when to always cut it off.

Because they’re men.

Most very successful individuals are overachievers. This trait doesn’t limit itself to the boardroom, the silver screen, or the <enter sport> field.

The grass is always greener on the other side.

Who said’ Behind every beautiful woman is a man tired of her Bulls**t”?

I don’t find this true. On a side note, if Barack ever cheats on Michele, I may cry.

@JONESGH Thinking about that upsets me.

What does one’s beauty have to do with her regularity of sex?
I don’t know about other people, but if I was to cheat, it would be because I can’t get laid within the relationship.

Who are we talking about? Is it @johnpowell?

Same reason rich people want more money. At a certain point you don’t don’t need to worry about money anymore. You keep accumulating more to brag and to prove that you can. Same thing could be said for sexual partners.

Why to women with gorgeous, intelligent husbands cheat? It happens all the time. I don’t think the cheating has anything to do with the intelligence or beauty of the spouse. It has to do with the morals of the cheater. People with ugly and dumb spouses cheat too. I think we just notice it more when the outside packaging of their spouse seems appealing to us. I think people assume if they had that person, they’d never cheat. For me, the truth is that a cheat is a cheat is a cheat, and it doesn’t matter who they are with.

When asked why, I think Clinton replied something like “for the worst possible reason, because I could.”

It probably starts out innocent but goes too far and the body takes over the mind and there you go.

What amazes me is that these high profile type guys seem to think they can get away with it, not get caught. They must know someone is going to cash in at some point in time.

I expect some of them think thay deserve all the affairs they have and they are above judjement[sp].

Maybe they have self confidence issues. Their wives are so much better then them, so they cheat to make themselves feel better.

Cause they can. Imagine being rich and feeling powerful and surrounded by yes people, and having hundreds of beautiful, charming women throwing themselves at you. Might be hard to be monogamous.
Not that I condone cheating, but just because a women is beautiful and intelligent, she may be a horrible, controlling, frigid, selfish person. Just sayin’.

Also, and I’m making a HUGE generality, but I’ve found that the more a woman does to be beautiful, the higher maintenance she is. Perhaps he can’t deal with the maintenance. Also, quite often the Barbie dolls amongst us expect to be adored, paid for, worshipped. Not everyone is willing or able to do that all the time.

Again: that’s a big generality. There are all kinds of people in the world, and I’ve only described some of them.

It’s a way for many, both men and women, to reinforce, in their own minds, that they are famous or rich or talented or desirable. The calamity resulting from their inflated egos and need for reassurance creates an insatiable desire to conquer others sexually.

I like what I read somewhere tonight: these people tend to intellectually and emotionally compartmentalize their activities. Thus, they avoid feelings of remorse or shame.

Penises.

and the vag.

Are you saying it would be understandable if she were not beautiful and intelligent? In that case, a woman who does not rank with the valedictorians and the fashion models should not expect fidelity from her husband?

I second @juwhite1 on this one.

I think some university has conducted a research on this. Successfull lives( in any species), be it physical appearance/economy, tend to have affairs.
It might have got to with evolutionary discrepancy! ;) We couldn’t keep up to the rules the society imposes on us?

@jeffgoldblumsprivatefacilities You said penis, hehe.
@laureth You have good points, but usually the cheater is cheating with the same type of women, high maintence women.

Monogamy, for the most part, is a farce, a social construct, and basically against our very nature.

I’m never surprised when people cheat. I almost except it. I try not going to judge when it comes to cheating. I don’t know the circumstances behind anyone’s cheating. There is just too much I don’t know.

I would say cheating is the one thing I all do know is wrong. Cheating at everything not just a relationship, is fundamentally wrong.

50cent has it right. He knows his celebrity attracts a buttload of women to him. So, he’s going to make the most of it and have sex with as many of them as possible. Plus, his celebrity-status and wealth makes it nearly impossible to trust anyone he meets, so the best he can hope for is sex with many, many beautiful women.

He didn’t actually say any of the above, this is just my observation.

If I was in a position of fame and wealth, I don’t think I’d trust any woman enough to marry her.

Why do women cheat on genuine, intelligent and handsome men?

Yes, I’m more than willing to admit that there seems to be a higher amount of cheating men rather than cheating women (though this could be due to women being radically more intelligent and thereby sneakier, who knows), but it is a point that has to be made – one that @juwhite1 has already made clear.

That said, this is a highly per-case basis. @laureth brought up the possibility that more “beautiful” women might be more high maintenance – but that is probably a skewed perspective of beauty such that we admire and “prefer” synthetic beauty and not natural beauty. I do not believe it is hyperbolic or incorrect to make the assumption that women naturally beautiful and intelligent women are less likely to cheat – an assumption to the fullest and completely subjective; I’ve met women from both ends of the spectrum, both naturally and “synthetically” beautiful. The natural ones are more likely to be genuine and honest.

Again, on this is per case. You can’t ask a question like this without making a whole shit ton of assumptions to craft an answer.

Because people are greedy, and some of those greedy people are authentic assholes.

Because they think with the wrong “head”. What my friend told me once about guys who cheat, no matter what the case is cheating on anyone anytime is wrong and should never be done

Relationships are not perfect. You may think that someone has the perfect marriage but in reality none of us know what happens behind closed doors. When a man cheats on his spouse or vise versa there’s always a reason. When someone is completely happy with their relationship they have no reason to look elsewhere.

@kheredia You are right. 3 different men divorced Christy Brinkley super model. Wow.

@chyna – Did all 3 divorce her or did she dump them???

@Grisaille Christ, call an Ambassador from the Redundant Committee of Redundancy.

Damn me and my typoes.

@rooeytoo Not sure.
@grisaille no one noticed but you.

Quote from Judd Nelson: “Show me a beautiful woman and I’ll show you a man who is tired of fucking her.” Blunt. But probably true.

@chyna Oh.

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Why do men with ugly stupid wives have extra-marital affairs?

What? It’s a fair question!

I wonder why people bother getting married if monogamy is so unnatural and impossible to maintain. Might as well just live together until trouble arises or you get bored and then move on. Why buy what you can rent??

Divorce is not permanent and people are not possessions.

@rooeytoo Why buy the pig at all if you can get the sausage free?

Why does anyone?

Why do women with loving, dedicated, caring partners cheat?

Men like variety. Think of a fine woman like a fine wine. We all have our favourite but it doesn’t mean we want to drink the same one every night. That would be far too boring.

@beautifulbobby193 I really don’t think you speak for men in general. But then again, comparing it to a drinking problem might be close to the truth.

Because beauty and intelligence doesn’t necessarily guarantee you love or respect. Just because someone is beautiful does not always mean that their partner is going to love them enough not to be unfaithful. I believe, for the most part, if you love someone enough you will be able to stay faithful to them.

To me, this is all quite sad. The preponderance of objectification, self-centered, ego-driven reasons for cheating given by many leaves me with a sense of despair. Is it impossible to believe in real love? Many seem to be arguing that love is just something you USE to get sex and power. I’m not saying that those making this argument are wrong, it just leaves me empty.

@davidk That’s the point though, it’s not about love. If someone really, truely loves another person then the chances of them cheating are much, much lower.

@Leanne1986 Agreed

Totally agree with @juwhite1…I think some men who feel the need to cheat are maybe boosting their ego’s and feeding there own insecurities…proving to themselves that they can still ‘pull’...evidently if there is a need to cheat then the relationship they have is not about love.

It’s nothing to do with egos, insecurities or proving anything to oneself. I don’t think most women will ever understand it. It doesn’t need to be overcomplicated. Most men have a built in instinct to sleep with as many women as they can. It is something God instilled in us so that we would efficiently reproduce. Some men don’t feel this or can resist it better than others (and some women can have it too).

If you go out to a club as a woman and want to have sex with a man, I can almost guarantee you’ll find at least one without too much difficulty. The man may never classify you of being worthy for a sustained relationship, but as a sex object you will probably pass the (low) required standard.

Love does not really come into it. There are no emotions in the one night stand. It is all about physical enjoyment and excitement.

Many men will not seek out a partner to cheat with, but when faced with it, many would find it difficult to turn down.

@beautifulbobby193…take on board your response…lol perhaps I was remaining hopeful and optimistic and hoping to justify why men feel the need to cheat.

I’m fairly new in my current relationship and its quite a depressing thought to think that there’s a chance that if sex was handed on a plate that he would find it difficult to turn it down…

;-) if you make sure he is blowing his load daily, it is far more unlikely that he will cheat as he will have a lot less mojo (yes, it really does exist).

I think if a guy has a few days worth of lead inside him he is far more likely to cheat because there is an instinctive desire to release such a load at the most convenient opportunity.

There are two male evolutionary strategies for passing on their genes.

1) Have sex with as many healthy women as possible being always on the move.

2) Have sex with one healthy woman and make sure that as many children as possible from this relationship grow up to have sex themselves.

Some men are implementing strategy 1. Except birth control screws up the whole approach. But the desire as such is still there. Beautiful, intelligent wife doesn’t matter.

Great answer MB, I couldn’t agree any more with you on this. I think strategy one will always be there for most men, and that is why sometimes men cheat on women they love.

I believe that there is some truth in that. But human sexuality and behavior cannot be explained by reasons of reproduction alone. It is too complex for that. It doesn’t explain why women sleep around or cheat themselves either.

If the whole thing can be explained by biology and women have this imperative to breed, breed breed, then it seems as if they should go around breeding as often as they can. Since men can’t seem to get past the biological urge to breed as animals do, why is it that women can.

This is another one of those explanations created by men to make their behavior something they don’t have to be responsible for. Similar to why women can’t drive race cars. You create the scenario and then research until you find a scientific reason that at least comes close to fitting!

@oratio – I agree. It also doesn’t explain why most men don’t cheat. All human beings have instincts and drives, but one of the fundamental things that separate us from other animals is our ability to place rationality and reason over instincts, and choose alternate courses of behavior, as well as our ability to care for another human being enough to resist the temptation to harm them even if it would feel good for a little while..

(Women, by the way, don’t have much incentive to go cheat with as many men as will say yes. They aren’t equipped to make that many babies! As such, women are “supposed” to choose quality over quantity. Why would they cheat? Because the other guy is better quality, somehow – if we’re using the same evolutionary argument. Women aren’t “past the imperative to breed as the animals do,” they just do it woman-style – not man-style.)

Well, first of all, the genetic part also led to strategy two i.e. monogamy and shared support. And there’s some evidence how hormones like oxytocin and vasopressin are related to this behavior. You might have heard of the meadow vole and prairie vole story, but the number of factors that lead to monogamy are controversial.

Of course, the environment is a huge factor as well. Maybe a genetic disposition for polygamy in a boy still leads to a monogamous life when he becomes a man because of X and Y and Z. But the “cheating stuff” is in the human genome somewhere. Yet our genes also create our complex neocortex and limbic system. Our rational mind can tell us not to cheat. Our limbic system can tell us not to cheat because hurting your wife will often result in your wife hurting you too and by that I don’t necessarily mean revenge sex. Things can get very ugly. People are driven by the desire to experience pleasure and avoid pain. When it comes to cheating both is involved. To which degree? Well, I guess that’s open for debate.