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How much noise do you like your partner to make during sex? why?

Asked by deni (23141points) December 14th, 2009

I’M REALLY CURIOUS ABOUT THIS. do you like your partner to be screaming and moaning or is that too much? do you prefer a quieter sexual experience? why????

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jfos's avatar

I usually leave the room to give them privacy. I would expect the same of them.

anon's avatar

Only the sound of my sobbing.

MissAnthrope's avatar

I admit it, I like to make some noise and I like my partner to make noise.. BUT I am always very aware of other people around and I definitely can be much quieter in that case. I’m not one of those people that doesn’t care if other people hear me and I find overly loud sex with others in the near vicinity to be embarrassing. Also, yes on the talking, dirty or otherwise.

MrItty's avatar

I want exactly enough noise to tell me what’s working, what isn’t, what she wants me to do, what she wants me to stop doing. Being completely silent and just letting me guess is a terrible way to be together. But being absurdly loud, yelling, screaming, makes me self conscious that the neighbors are listening.

LeotCol's avatar

Well if there isn’t anyone else around then it doesn’t matter how much noise we make, I myself don’t make much noise at all. But my girlfriend does when she has the chance. And sometimes accidentally when we’re trying to be quiet. I suppose its because her parents are in the house lol

holden's avatar

Mine likes it when I…vocalize during sex. I do it to make him happy but that wouldn’t normally factor if it weren’t his wish. He doesn’t make a sound and I like it that way.

KatawaGrey's avatar

I am very loud during sex or so I’m told and I like my partner to male some noise as well. I keep finding guys who are pretty quiet though so I’ve become pretty damn good at figuring out what I’m doing right and what I’m doing wrong based on breathing, body movements, etc.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I’m the loud one, lol…it’s not so much that I want him to make noise..I want him to talk to me, to moan right into my ear…why? because I want to know that I’m bringing him pleasure

ubersiren's avatar

I like approval and general pleasure noises. It can somewhat loud and still be sexy, but there’s a line that I can’t really describe. I definitely don’t like constant moaning and noise. Let me just tell you, one guy I was with years and years ago let out this guttural caveman holler upon orgasm and it really freaked me out. That was too much. Mostly, if it seems natural, I enjoy it.

Sophief's avatar

I make noise and he likes it louder when he is about to come. He doesn’t make hardly any sound, but when he does it really turns me on.

kitiara's avatar

Absolutley…right now NONE… why..because he’s 3000 miles away .. its a technical and temporary hitch .. ;OP

CMaz's avatar

I say let the windows rattle.

Why?

Why not!

Snarp's avatar

Whatever comes natural. But it’s nice to get some sign (not necessarily verbal) that she’s actually enjoying herself.

Jude's avatar

I would say that my girlfriend is much louder.

My girlfriend lives in a loft apartment above her landlord’s garage (it’s a lot nicer than it sounds. Trust me). This past week, we were being rather amorous. She was loud, really loud, and suddenly we heard the garage door open below and someone fiddling with the ladder. Her landlord was about to put up the Christmas lights along the garage. He definitely heard us. Rather embarrassing.

It doesn’t turn me on more when she’s loud. It really makes no difference.

Gossamer's avatar

when I do the deed I like to hear her joy not that she can contain herself…but vocalizing her pleasure turns me on as well!

CMaz's avatar

Jessica Rabbit!

I bet you are a screamer.

Jude's avatar

I find the soft moans and her body quivering to be rather sexy.

seeing_red's avatar

I would want her to do whatever is natural. The screaming can get distracting, to me, and I worry if neighbours hear it. I love dirty talk. I enjoy calling her a dirty little slut. It gets me off. To add, I don’t mind if neighbours hear moaning, etc., but the screams I’m afraid of because I don’t want them to think we’re killing someone. lol I hate quiet sex. I need to know it feels good. Tell me. Show me. Let me hear you tell me to fuck you. That sort of thing is good. Real good.

I’m rather loud.

CMaz's avatar

One more thing @deni.

You are having too much fun. LUV the pic.

ItalianPrincess1217's avatar

Complete silence is awkward. I like to make most of the noise. He is pretty quiet. Maybe a moan here and there but nothing crazy.

faye's avatar

Nothing like a deep moan to tell me I’m doing something good but dirty talk makes me ready to dress and leave.

randomness's avatar

Whatever is natural for him. There’s nothing worse than faking. Most women and men in porn are constantly yelling and screaming, and it’s clear that they don’t mean it. If I saw my partner do something like that I’d probably laugh at him and walk away. If for some reason he couldn’t help but yell, that’s fine, so long as he isn’t faking it.

NaturalMineralWater's avatar

As much as possible. There is no too loud.

Shemarq's avatar

We try to be somewhat quiet because if we make too much noise, the dog starts scratching and barking at the door thinking someone is getting hurt! LOL!!!.

deni's avatar

i agree @ItalianPrincess1217….total silence = one of the more awkward things in life.

but i also agree with @randomness that if the sounds are clearly fake and not genuine, that would be the one thing that could be worse than total silence. no thank you!

i like a moderate amount of noise. there has to be somethin going on with him, at least somewhat heavy breathing or else i feel as though he’s bored. obviously thats not a good thing. so, heavy panting (lol), and moaning. screaming is unneccessary.

Violet's avatar

Not much actually, unless he is cumming.

NaturalMineralWater's avatar

I should add that it’s much better for her to be making sounds than me… if it was me it would just be strange..

Beargyi's avatar

I like whispering noises from my girlfriend during sex !

jfos's avatar

This article is so pertinent.

deni's avatar

@jfos…“was described as MURDER” haahahahaahahahahha

jfos's avatar

@deni I know, that’s hilarious. They said it went on for hours.

sleepdoc's avatar

I like some noise to happen. The volume is normally limited by our surroundings.

JessicaisinLove's avatar

@ChazMaz… : ) Depends on the location.

NUNYA's avatar

Depends on the time and place. If it is in Private then I wouldn’t mind the ooooh’s and awwwwww’s. But if it is where others might her….........shhhhhhhhhhhh don’t wanna let anyone know what were up to

doesnotmakesenseatall's avatar

The louder – the better, unless there is no reason to be quite or low. Being quite is very hard for me, though. **giggles**

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SABOTEUR's avatar

Noise?

Women make noises during sex?

(Well, I’ll be damned…!)

sleepdoc's avatar

@RebeccaSJ… prove it LOL~

Marie123's avatar

Its not so much the volume…its what is being said. I want to be told that Im delicious….sexy…etc etc. That you love fucking me. How you thought about fucking me all day…etc.

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